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⚊ • . ˚ ᯓ★ ˖ ۫ ִ cognitive reframing : thinking postively

thinking positively is sunnah

because a believer looks for good in everything that happens to her or him.
s/he looks for patience in hardship and gratitude in blessings.

in islamic thought, this isn’t just optimism but also "husn al-dhann" which means thinking well of the God and trusting that there’s hidden good even in pain. the prophet muhammed ﷺ said, “how wonderful is the affair of the believer! for there is good for her/him in every matter.” if s/he faces ease, s/he is thankful; if s/he faces difficulty, s/he is patientㅡ and these both are reward.

and now, psychologists today call this cognitive reframing: the ability to shift perspective, to interpret challenges in a way that nurtures resilience. but long before psychology named it, faith already taught it.

to think positively, then, isn’t naïve ony; it’s spiritual intelligence too. it’s believing that no event is wasted, that even a heartbreak can be a seed of mercy. it’s patience with purpose and gratitude with awareness. pushes us to believe that even failure can improve us, which is true.

so, thinking positively is not just sunnah but also a way of seeing the world through divine wisdom. the believer doesn’t deny pain; they simply refuse to believe it’s meaningless.

let's stay optimistic together.

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🌱 practice not caring | (repost from skool)

worrying is also a kind of energy drain, so if there is something that you don't really need to worry about, it's better to just let it go. for example, someone i don't know well hates me or gossips about me without verification, the past that is already in the past and can't be helped, worries and anxiety about whether i did something wrong that bloomed from feelings of "what if". worrying about it just makes my head hurt. sometimes, it's important to just let it go.

if it's something i don't have to worry about, then i'll just decide not to worry about it. if i think, worry, or fret too much, it won't be good for 'me' in the end.

(lol me being a hypocrite)

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life is a long game ⤿ & delayed gratification

⋆.˚༘⋆👾 | a short text.

life is a long-term battle. this means you have to take a long-term view. just as someone you thought was young suddenly grows into something significant, life isn't something you can judge based on a single moment.

psychologists studying delayed gratification, like in walter mischel’s marshmallow experiments, found that those who could wait, who could think beyond the present impulse, often thrived later. the world rewards patience not because it’s glamorous but because it’s rare.

so if you feel clumsy and inadequate now, just slowly build up your skills. consistent effort will inevitably lead to success. don't be discouraged by immediate results. life isn't easy to grasp; it really does require a long-term perspective. you never know what might happen in the distant future.

j.k. rowling was rejected many times before harry potter was published. vincent van gogh sold only one painting in his lifetime. in soccer terms, they were still in the first half when the crowd thought the game was already over. i won't even talk about kafka.

i like the saying that life can be likened to a soccer match. think of your current age as a minute in the game. for example, i'm 22 years old, so i'm only in the 22nd minute of the first half. if you're in the 22nd minute of the first half, it's still an unknown game, and there are plenty of opportunities left.

life is a long-term battle. don't be easily judged or discouraged.

let's look at it until then.

i believe that’s the beauty: no single play defines the match. resilience—the ability to keep running even when the scoreboard looks bleak— is what eventually tilts the game. you don’t have to win in the first half. you just have to stay on the field.

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best dont go insane cover ive ever seen. filming, acting & costumes everything is so well done.

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👾| build deep relationships ✘ the unchanging law unbroken over time

there's an immutable law that doesn't break with time. human relationships are determined by breadth, not quantity, and shallow relationships don't last.

psychologists studying attachment theory like john bowlby and mary ainsworth have shown that secure, deep bonds shape not just our happiness but even our physical health. there is a research from harvard’s 80year study on adult development found that close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy and healthier as they age. [paraphrased]

in the past, i'd envied people who knew many people and had a wide network of connections, because i was asocial and people blamed me for it. but these days, i enjoy relationships where i can connect with several people and know each other well. as i grew up, i realized that holding close relationships with everybody is exhausting. it's not a relationship where i'm anxious about them leaving, but a relationship where we can meet comfortably and enjoy each other whenever we meet. it's a relationship where encounters end not with exhaustion and fatigue, but with joy and happiness instead. network should stay as it is, no need to be close to all of them.

sociologist robin dunbar suggested that humans can only maintain about 150 meaningful relationships. beyond that, connections begin to thin out. depth requires time, vulnerability, and presence. even aristotle distinguished between friendships of utility, pleasure, and virtue; only the last, rooted in shared goodness, could stand the test of years.

the more time we spend together, the deeper our bonds become. rather than neglecting each other because we've known each other for so long, we should fill them with deep trust and loyalty. even with just a few people who love and cherish us, we can continue to live strong.

people with deep relationships impart the strength to carry on with our lives.

and this is the quiet power of depth. it gives us a home within people. when storms strip away status, trends, and fleeting attention, the ones who truly know us remain; their laughter becomes an anchor, their presence a light in the fog.

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👾⋆.˚🦋༘⋆. when happiness hides in the routine

the times i desperately yearned for happiness were always when i was mired in the mud. it was like being stuck in a deep swamp, unable to do anything, struggling desperately to stay afloat. thoughts drift incoherently, i stay up all night, the sun still rising and the alarm still ringing. routine remains solid, its indifference quite sad.

psychologists describe this as hedonic adaptation: the tendency for humans to quickly return to a baseline of emotion, no matter how high or low. when happiness becomes the desperate goal, it slips further away, like a mirage. philosophers have said this too—schopenhauer compared chasing happiness to chasing the horizon: the faster you run, the further it recedes.

i long to cut everything off without hesitation, but life isn't as simple as it sounds, so i swallow the phlegm clogging my throat and get through another day. will tomorrow be better? will this all ever end? even asking these unanswerable questions is now a burden. i want to be happy. so much so that the word "happy" doesn't even cross my mind.

here’s the strange irony: neuroscientists say our brains aren’t wired to chase happiness directly. what sustains us more reliably is meaning. viktor frankl, who endured the holocaust, wrote that those who had a why to live could bear almost any how. maybe this is why routine feels so heavy—because without meaning attached, it’s just repetition echoing against the hollow walls of time.

so much so that i don't even realize it because it's so routine. so accustomed to its obviousness that i accidentally miss it. so much so that i forget i'm even within it. i dream of standing in the midst of such a vast expanse of happiness. while waiting endlessly for that sweet sleep that doesn't come easily.

after staying up for a few nights, it's time to fall asleep without wanting to, i guess this time of year will do the same. the day will surely come when i will be happy. i'd like to believe so.

and maybe this is where the truth hides: happiness isn’t a place to arrive at but small fragments stitched into our days. a warm tea that cuts through the night, a line in a book that feels like it was written only for us, a laugh that escapes when we least expect it. the swamp feels endless, yes—but history, psychology, and literature all echo the same thing: joy often visits quietly, disguised in the ordinary, while we are too busy chasing its grand parade.

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👾| a sweetness unshaken & emotional regulation

a real sweet person should still be able to be sweet even when you don't have the heart to spare. anyone can direct the tenderness of the moment, but the real tenderness is not swayed by circumstances.

psychologists often call this emotional regulation: the ability to manage your own storm so you don’t throw lightning at others. it’s not about suppressing feelings but choosing how to channel them. viktor frankl once wrote that in every situation, between stimulus and response, there is a space—and in that space lies our freedom to choose. kindness lives exactly there, in that small pause.

even if it's a day that makes your whole body shiver, you shouldn't turn your back on the hearts that come across you, and you shouldn't vent out your feelings to someone who doesn't care about you, even if you're angry to the core of your head. it's obvious that it's hard. kindness is not an innate character but an effort of every moment.

research shows that empathy doesn’t come pre-installed in us like eye color. it’s cultivated. mirror neurons in the brain allow us to feel what others feel, but deciding to act kindly requires practice. it’s a decision, and in the hearts of people who have decided to be kind, the word "nevertheless" is always imbued.

so, we can't help but cry in front of a real sweet heart. it's so hard to love you anyway. because i care about you so much. the words "come silently and make my heart cry. that heart is no more thankful and sorry."

and maybe that’s the paradox: kindness is not weakness, it’s strength under fire. not reacting as the world teaches—eye for an eye, rage for rage—but whispering nevertheless. and that’s why real tenderness makes us weep. because deep down, we know how rare and costly it is.

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thanks to ‪@PaulYuNow‬ for letting me know about this amazing channel

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