a real sweet person should still be able to be sweet even when you don't have the heart to spare. anyone can direct the tenderness of the moment, but the real tenderness is not swayed by circumstances.
psychologists often call this emotional regulation: the ability to manage your own storm so you don’t throw lightning at others. it’s not about suppressing feelings but choosing how to channel them. viktor frankl once wrote that in every situation, between stimulus and response, there is a space—and in that space lies our freedom to choose. kindness lives exactly there, in that small pause.
even if it's a day that makes your whole body shiver, you shouldn't turn your back on the hearts that come across you, and you shouldn't vent out your feelings to someone who doesn't care about you, even if you're angry to the core of your head. it's obvious that it's hard. kindness is not an innate character but an effort of every moment.
research shows that empathy doesn’t come pre-installed in us like eye color. it’s cultivated. mirror neurons in the brain allow us to feel what others feel, but deciding to act kindly requires practice. it’s a decision, and in the hearts of people who have decided to be kind, the word "nevertheless" is always imbued.
so, we can't help but cry in front of a real sweet heart. it's so hard to love you anyway. because i care about you so much. the words "come silently and make my heart cry. that heart is no more thankful and sorry."
and maybe that’s the paradox: kindness is not weakness, it’s strength under fire. not reacting as the world teaches—eye for an eye, rage for rage—but whispering nevertheless. and that’s why real tenderness makes us weep. because deep down, we know how rare and costly it is.
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a real sweet person should still be able to be sweet even when you don't have the heart to spare. anyone can direct the tenderness of the moment, but the real tenderness is not swayed by circumstances.
psychologists often call this emotional regulation: the ability to manage your own storm so you don’t throw lightning at others. it’s not about suppressing feelings but choosing how to channel them. viktor frankl once wrote that in every situation, between stimulus and response, there is a space—and in that space lies our freedom to choose. kindness lives exactly there, in that small pause.
even if it's a day that makes your whole body shiver, you shouldn't turn your back on the hearts that come across you, and you shouldn't vent out your feelings to someone who doesn't care about you, even if you're angry to the core of your head. it's obvious that it's hard. kindness is not an innate character but an effort of every moment.
research shows that empathy doesn’t come pre-installed in us like eye color. it’s cultivated. mirror neurons in the brain allow us to feel what others feel, but deciding to act kindly requires practice. it’s a decision, and in the hearts of people who have decided to be kind, the word "nevertheless" is always imbued.
so, we can't help but cry in front of a real sweet heart. it's so hard to love you anyway. because i care about you so much. the words "come silently and make my heart cry. that heart is no more thankful and sorry."
and maybe that’s the paradox: kindness is not weakness, it’s strength under fire. not reacting as the world teaches—eye for an eye, rage for rage—but whispering nevertheless. and that’s why real tenderness makes us weep. because deep down, we know how rare and costly it is.
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