Tim Fletcher

Healing from Complex Trauma isn’t just about learning new tools. It often means being asked to do the very things that once led to pain, rejection, or abandonment. In this talk, we cover 5 of the double binds people face in recovery and why change can feel just as threatening as staying stuck. If you’ve ever felt trapped between who you were and who you’re trying to become, this conversation will help you understand why, and what actually helps you move forward safely.

Join us for Friday Night Tim Talk tonight, Feb 6 ✨
Premiering on YouTube at 4:30 PM PT / 6:30 PM CT
https://youtu.be/5kceUqIhsks

Chat with others from around the world 🌍 Learn and heal from Complex Trauma together. See you there!

#complextrauma #traumarecovery #healingjourney #nervoussystem #childhoodtrauma

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Tim Fletcher

A new episode of the ‪@TimeWithTimPodcast‬ 🎙️ is out now!

Deb Dana, LCSW, is a clinician, consultant, and author recognized internationally for her work translating Polyvagal Theory into practical, accessible tools. In close collaboration with Dr. Stephen Porges, she has helped clinicians, therapists, and individuals understand how the nervous system shapes safety, stress responses, and connection. Through her books, trainings, and teachings, Deb is known for making complex neuroscience relatable and usable in everyday life, with a focus on regulation, relationship, and embodied healing.

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Tim Fletcher

In a perfect world, there would be a single place where all the safe humans were gathered and easy to find.

In reality, safe people are spread out, and finding them usually takes action and patience.

That means putting yourself into spaces that align with who you’re becoming on your journey.

It also means encountering unsafe people along the way. That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. Learning to notice who feels unsafe and choosing boundaries is part of healing.

Some practical places to start:

▪️joining a club or class
▪️support groups
▪️recreational sports leagues
▪️art galleries or museums
▪️volunteering for a cause you care about
▪️free programs run by the city
▪️the rec centre or a gym
▪️going for regular walks
▪️meetups
▪️events related to hobbies or interests

There’s no pressure to overshare or perform.
This stage is often about observing, listening, and paying attention to how your body feels around people.

We talk a lot about safety, attachment, and relationships in our talks, which can be grounding when trust feels confusing or fragile.

Remember:
Safe people don’t rush connection.
They don’t push past boundaries.
And they don’t require you to abandon yourself to belong.

Watch the Q&A on finding safe people here: https://youtu.be/1qSRp8qkXYw

If you need more guidance or support, visit our website at www.timfletcher.ca/ to explore the options available to you.

#complextrauma #safepeople #healingjourney #practicaltips

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Tim Fletcher

10 Practical Tips to Support You on Your Complex Trauma Recovery Journey

Healing from complex trauma isn’t a straight line. It’s often a slow, uneven process of trying things, learning what helps, and adjusting along the way. Progress usually comes through experimentation, not perfection.

It takes effort over time. There’s no shortcut, but there is momentum. Each insight, skill, and boundary is like flipping a light switch. Some stay on. Some flicker. Some turn off and on again. That’s all part of the work.

If you need more resources to get you started, visit our website -> www.timfletcher.ca/

#complextrauma #childhoodtrauma #healingjourney #12basicneeds

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We've just added 4 new courses to the EVERGREEN Course Library!

✨ Running on Empty: Fatigue, Overwhelm and Life in Survival Mode
www.timfletcher.ca/evergreen/running-on-empty-fati…

✨ The Path to Healthy Relationships
www.timfletcher.ca/evergreen/the-path-to-healthy-r…

✨ Humiliation Trauma: When Shame Attacks Identity
www.timfletcher.ca/evergreen/humiliation-trauma-wh…

✨ Work, Rest and Play: Reclaiming Life's Balance
www.timfletcher.ca/evergreen/work-rest-and-play-re…

All four courses are now available in the EVERGREEN Membership and individually. 🔗 www.timfletcher.ca/evergreen

#complextrauma #traumarecovery #mentalhealthresources #cptsd #restandrecover #relationships #burnout

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1 week ago | [YT] | 118

Tim Fletcher

Wanting to heal isn’t the problem. You want change, connection, and authenticity. The struggle begins when the very tools meant to help you heal trigger fear instead of safety.

In Complex Trauma, healthy instincts like trust, honesty, and connection often led to pain. Survival adaptations took their place, not because they were healthy, but because they worked. Over time, those same adaptations can start to block growth, leaving you stuck between wanting healing and fearing it.

If positive change feels hard to sustain, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means your nervous system is still prioritizing safety. Recovery is the slow process of understanding that internal conflict and learning, with safe people and small steps, that health no longer has to mean danger.

Join us for Friday Night Tim Talk tonight, January 30 ✨
Premiering on YouTube at 4:30 PM PT / 6:30 PM CT
https://youtu.be/xfs90z5xf2E

Chat with others from around the world 🌍 Learn and heal from Complex Trauma together. See you there!

#complextrauma #traumarecovery #healingjourney #nervoussystem #childhoodtrauma

1 week ago | [YT] | 96

Tim Fletcher

Join us for another free webinar!

🗓️ Date: February 8, 2026
🕓 Time: 4 PM PT / 6 PM CT
⌛ Duration: 1 hour
📍 Live on Zoom

Register at www.timfletcher.ca/events/who-am-i-webinar

In this free webinar, we’ll explore how Complex Trauma can reshape your sense of self, often teaching you to hide, perform, or earn your value rather than live from your authentic identity. We’ll talk about how survival strategies and roles formed in response to early harm—like people-pleasing, masks, or approval-seeking—can leave you feeling disconnected from who you truly are, and we’ll gently introduce ideas for beginning to recognize, reclaim, and reintegrate your real self beneath those patterns.

#selfidentity #complextrauma #healingjourney #freewebinar

1 week ago | [YT] | 177

Tim Fletcher

Our next ALIGN With God: Rising From Ashes webinar session is coming up soon!

🗓️ February 4, 2026
🕕 10:00 AM PT / 12:00 PM CT
📍 Virtual on Zoom

🔗 Reserve Your FREE Webinar Seat at www.timfletcher.ca/events
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#ALIGNWithGod #RisingFromAshesWebinar #FreeWebinar #VirtualEvent #SpiritualGrowth #FaithJourney #OnlineLearning #TimFletcherEvents

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Tim Fletcher

One of the least discussed impacts of Complex Trauma is not seeking pleasure, but losing access to internal pleasure cues. When the nervous system stays in survival mode, the brain learns to respond to intensity, urgency, or stimulation, while other forms of satisfaction barely register. Over time, pleasure becomes something chased externally, instead of something felt internally through steadiness, connection, or meaning.

💜 Take a moment to reflect:

Where do you rely on stimulation, distraction, or urgency to feel okay, while slower, healthier pleasures feel flat or unfamiliar?

✔️ A practical step to take this weekend:

Choose one low-intensity, regulating activity and stay with it slightly longer than feels natural. This might look like finishing a meal without scrolling or watching TV, sitting in silence on a park bench for two extra minutes after a walk, taking a moment to finish a song before leaving your car, doing stretches when you wake up, or sitting with a friend, family member, or partner to chat. The goal isn’t to force pleasure, but to gently retrain your system to recognize safety and contentment when they show up in subtler ways.

If you haven't checked it out yet, we talk all about how pleasure comes into play in Complex Trauma and recovery in the video below. Check it out:

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Tim Fletcher

Masking likely wasn’t a choice. It was a way to stay safe when being real led to criticism, rejection, or pain. Over time, it became familiar, reliable, even necessary.

But now you may be noticing that the same strategy that helped you survive is quietly costing you connection. The mask keeps things smooth on the surface, yet it also keeps people from truly knowing you.

If authenticity feels scary, it’s not because something is wrong with you. It’s because you learned that hiding worked. Recovery is the slow process of learning, with safe people and in small steps, that being real can lead to the connection you’ve always wanted and deserved.

Join us for tonight's Friday Night Tim Talk! ✨
Premiering on YouTube at 4:30 PM PT / 6:30 PM CT here: https://youtu.be/Egzm1zSaDnA

Chat with others from around the world 🌍 Learn and heal from Complex Trauma together.

#complextrauma #masking #authenticity #childhoodtrauma

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