600 beautiful ambitious creatives! What a gift. Just when I start to think, does anybody even f*cking resonate with any of the wild whacky wisdom I share, I'm constantly reminded of the ripples I create that 99% of the time I have no idea how far they extend.
So cheers to y'all! And to trusting that you are in fact making a profound impact on the world whether you the world makes it known to you or not.
Sorry about today's video folks! Forgot to edit-out the beginning where i just close my eyes and breathe hahah for those that watched through it thank you... I'll be re-uploading it shortly, and I;m excited to share it with y'all because it's a juicy no BS guide to becoming all that you can be!
No matter what your level of awareness, you still feel indecisive like clarity and direction absent absent from your life.
The reason is not at all what you what you think.
Here’s the science of stuck_ness and how to get unstuck in life.
Most people who feel stuck experience these symptoms:
- lack of clarity
- misaligned direction
- yearning for more
- a pull to information overload and addiction
- numbness to life
Sadly, trying to fix these symptoms spirals us deeper into stuckness.
And it’s not your fault.
Nobody taught us what’s actually happening in our body, so we believe it’s all about our mind.
But the feeling of being stuck is not mental.
It’s a feeling, therefore it lives in the body.
You’re not indecisive, you’re just stuck in a freeze response.
Stuckness has nothing to do with indecision.
Indecision is indeed a product of feeling stuck but it is not the origin.
The origin is that your nervous system is wired to default in the dorsal and sympathetic branches.
Let’s break it down:
The dorsal branch of the nervous system is the freeze response.
This branch activates when our nervous system deems that our current circumstance is so threatening that we cannot ‘win the fight.’
Instead of mobilizing into fight or flight, or nervous system immobilizes us to minimize the pain.
I love the way nervous system expert sarah baldwin frames this response.
“because our nervous system loves us so much…” it will immobilize us to try to keep us safe.
It beautifully depicts how resiliently loving our unconscious patterns can be.
But just because its resilient and has kept us safe in the past does not mean that is for our expansion.
Like the possum playing dead to survive, the dorsal renders us completely incapable of expressing agency.
Functions like empathy, clarity, and directionality are not relevant here.
Why would you need empathy when you’re literally dissociating to survive?
When stuck in the dorsal response we cannot make decisions.
We cannot connect to our intuition.
We cannot truly relate.
We don’t know what to do with our Now.
All we know is that we feel stuck.
When we’re stuck we oscillate between dorsal and sympathetic nervous system responses.
We are frozen, stuck, and when we’re not mentally, emotionally, and physically stuck we are stressed, struggling, and distracted.
You can imagine how difficult it becomes to life an inspiring life here.
So what do you do when you realize that your nervous system is responsible for your stuckness?
You get really f*cking curious about why and devote to the hard work of un-kinking your system life your life depends on it.
Because it does.
Sharpness aside, this pattern will continue to play out until you fully commit to becoming the pattern breaker.
I wish I could give you a trendy “5 things to get unstuck in life for good!” type of bullet list, but it.s more nuanced than that.
Of course, modalities like:
- breathwork
- somatic therapy
-assisted therapies
- past life regression
- inner child healing
- mens and womens circles
- etc…
all can be extremely helpful.
But the pre-requisite to all of this is much more fundamental.
Ask yourself this question:
“Am I willing to devote heartedly to becoming all that I can be?”
Because quite honestly, most people aren’t ready to make that commitment.
I’ve been there… and I know what it’s like to half-ass my healing.
If and when you decide to fully commit to your wholeness, then and only then do tools become necessary.
From there, you will naturally do whatever it takes to become not only nervous system literate,
but to become a true practitioner of vitality.
Once you make that commitment to yourself, here’s a list of experts that will resource you with the tools, practices, and experiments that will take you where you want to go:
It’s in asking the strange and difficult questions.
What if you fully accept life as it currently is while knowing you need to change it?
I’m a firm believer in learning to ask the right questions.
But its hard to find questions of expansion because much of our thought patterns are based in binary terms.
The default ultimatum based system is like this:
This or that.
Good or bad.
Now or then.
While there is a time a space for the ultimatum in everyday life, it’s much more transformative to dissolve these patterns with a re-frame.
Often our mental and emotional landscapes speak at different paces, often even different stories entirely.
SO the question(s) is not:
how can I stop overthinking?
How can I stop under-feeling?
How do I find balance?
How do I know the answer?
Rather, question the question.
Experience what it may be like to hold two perspectives at the same time.
The perspective of the body and the perspective of the mind…
Chances are, there is a lot your body has to say, but it can only say through feeling.
So what if you learned to fully listen, acknowledge, and lean into the feelings within your body while you listen to and acknowledge what your mind wants say as well?
Trying too hard to quiet the mind or trying too hard to be in your body tends to have the opposite effect of what we are after.
What if you felt your present emotion fully, even if the mind is already trying to be in the desire of what’s next?
This is abstract I know, but this way hopefully you can fill in the necessary context to your life right now.
Here’s what this looks like for me at present:
What if I can hold the weight of the painful emotions I’m moving through while also connecting to my mental desire to change and to rise?
What if they are much more connected than I tend to believe?
What if mental confusion is dissolved through emotional vulnerability?
With pride I can say that the doorway to that desire is through the emotional experience in front of you, despite how daunting or inspiring it may seem.
Perhaps its the one you’ve been avoiding.
Perhaps its the one that is evolving rapidly in unexpected ways.
Perhaps it something you didn’t know existed beneath the surface, but now you can’t unsee it (un-feel it).
All that you need to do is hold yourself in what feels most real to you right now - no matter how muddy it may be.
Hold the pain, the grief, the sadness while also acknowledging the desire, the excitement, and the joy that is so near.
One moment may be grief felt in the body, the next may be a mental stillness where a subtle excitement emerges.
Let it all be welcome, but attach to neither.
We can never know all the ways life is conspiring to help us, nurture us, and lead us.
At best we get a glimpse in hindsight…
But in reality all you truly have is trust in the present and vulnerability to lean into whatever life presents you.
Experience it somatically.
Experience it mentally.
Experience it spiritually.
Live in all three, in the beautiful messy ebb and flow of transformation.
The degree I feel confident promoting myself is interconnected to the degree of shame I hold in my system:
- I’m not good enough
- people won’t like what I offer
- I don’t want want to feel salesy
- it’s safer to play small and be right about why things aren’t working out
But you can’t just ‘transcend’ these stories, fears, and emotions.
Chances are if you feel stuck, there’s an emotion stuck there too.
Stagnancy in relationships, in creativity, and in career/business all correlate to a stagnancy within our inner landscapes.
Every time I find myself stuck in some capacity, it comes from exhausting the emotional or mental resources that I depend on.
There is only so much available to me in one way of thinking and one way of feeling at a time until inevitably something needs to shift.
Overgrazing is a thing.
Cattle left confined to graze in one pasture for too long has a gamut consequences.
The landscape will not only cease to sustain the diets of the cattle, but it itself will begin to erode and deteriorate.
Species of grasses and flowers may stop reproducing.
Flows of surface water can be altered in ways that shock the hillsides.
Unnatural terraces could be cut in the landscape, forever changing the aesthetic physics of the land.
To sustain life and to maintain a natural flowing balance, the cattle need to be moved from pasture to pasture, neither grazing too much nor grazing too little.
The design of the cow is remarkable when you zoom out a few planes of awareness.
Plants convert sunlight into fiber and stored energy.
Cows convert plants into more stored energy as a food source for humanity.
By the transitive property of congruence, a bi-product of sunlight can become a cow.
Nuance aside, it can be an extremely symbiotic relationship when stewarded consciously.
IT’s a great metaphor for own operating system.
How often do you overgraze certain thoughts?
What types of emotions are you grazing too much, or too little?
How can you discover new pastures to graze on?
To operate at my highest capacity in creativity, in relationships, and in my work I must continually find new modes of thinking and feeling.
When I think myself into a corner so-to-speak, a false limitation, I have to use a new way of thinking to get through the obstacle that my old way of thinking created.
The same occurs emotionally.
My default emotional state will only lead me so far until I discover it’s limits, where then I am called to embrace other emotions to dissolve the limitations perceived.
As the new ways of thinking and feeling create spaciousness where stagnancy once lived, I feel an inspiring reset, a creative recalibration, a business breakthrough.
The tension that is relieved when I discover this sort of pasture as I’ve been grazing the shit out of a little mental corral feels like pure freedom.
I often see herds of cows gathering near the open gates to new pastures, waiting.
Despite being so near to the new pastures, their gaze is focused on the fence rather than the doorway.
I feel exactly the same way at times, blinded to the doorway yet fixed on my limitation.
All it takes is someone to the point at the gate you couldn’t see with your way of seeing.
What if failing was a sign that you’re exactly where you need to be?
Failing is not failure.
Failing is physical, it’s when life objectively takes a turn beyond your expectations - and nothing more.
There is an awful lot of space here to learn, reflect, and refine your pursuit.
Failure is mental, it’s the story we loop in our headspace that is purely subjective. It’s a belief, and it uses outside evidence to support it’s own existence.
But anything that needs evidence is not your highest self - its purely illusory.
The art of failing is this:
To experience the circumstance live presents you, objectively.
To not misconstrue this circumstance to mean something about who you are.
Failing does not make you a failure.
There is a choice there, despite how unconscious it may be.
Whenever I fully embrace the act of failing, exactly as it is, it ALWAYS leads to the next breakthrough.
If I can learn to feel freedom with the fail, then I am creating a solid foundation to grow into the next *thing.*
Be it a:
- responsibility or commitment
- project
- collaboration or business venture
The more freedom I allow myself to fail, the more I embody the state of being necessary to achieve the next level of impact, income, greatness, or whatever one wishes to achieve.
So next time you experience a moment of a failing, remember that circumstance does not need to belittle your self-story.
kev vanderzel
kev vanderzel
hey cowboys(gals), what do yall want to hear about?
all of this interconnected, but i want to know whats most helpful for yall!
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600 beautiful ambitious creatives! What a gift. Just when I start to think, does anybody even f*cking resonate with any of the wild whacky wisdom I share, I'm constantly reminded of the ripples I create that 99% of the time I have no idea how far they extend.
So cheers to y'all! And to trusting that you are in fact making a profound impact on the world whether you the world makes it known to you or not.
yeehaw!
_kev
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Sorry about today's video folks! Forgot to edit-out the beginning where i just close my eyes and breathe hahah for those that watched through it thank you... I'll be re-uploading it shortly, and I;m excited to share it with y'all because it's a juicy no BS guide to becoming all that you can be!
Cheers
-kev
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There is no future guaranteed to you.
if you are waiting for anything before you start fully giving your gifts you are wasting time, and by association - your life.
You are either opening your heart as pure possibility or you are closing it in fear.
The world cannot be impacted by the unique gifts you can and must bring to the world if you are in fear.
Nor can the world give you money and abundance...
Only when you open as love and give your deepest gifts to the world will you materialize your desires.
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You’re stuck.
No matter what your level of awareness, you still feel indecisive like clarity and direction absent absent from your life.
The reason is not at all what you what you think.
Here’s the science of stuck_ness and how to get unstuck in life.
Most people who feel stuck experience these symptoms:
- lack of clarity
- misaligned direction
- yearning for more
- a pull to information overload and addiction
- numbness to life
Sadly, trying to fix these symptoms spirals us deeper into stuckness.
And it’s not your fault.
Nobody taught us what’s actually happening in our body, so we believe it’s all about our mind.
But the feeling of being stuck is not mental.
It’s a feeling, therefore it lives in the body.
You’re not indecisive, you’re just stuck in a freeze response.
Stuckness has nothing to do with indecision.
Indecision is indeed a product of feeling stuck but it is not the origin.
The origin is that your nervous system is wired to default in the dorsal and sympathetic branches.
Let’s break it down:
The dorsal branch of the nervous system is the freeze response.
This branch activates when our nervous system deems that our current circumstance is so threatening that we cannot ‘win the fight.’
Instead of mobilizing into fight or flight, or nervous system immobilizes us to minimize the pain.
I love the way nervous system expert sarah baldwin frames this response.
“because our nervous system loves us so much…” it will immobilize us to try to keep us safe.
It beautifully depicts how resiliently loving our unconscious patterns can be.
But just because its resilient and has kept us safe in the past does not mean that is for our expansion.
Like the possum playing dead to survive, the dorsal renders us completely incapable of expressing agency.
Functions like empathy, clarity, and directionality are not relevant here.
Why would you need empathy when you’re literally dissociating to survive?
When stuck in the dorsal response we cannot make decisions.
We cannot connect to our intuition.
We cannot truly relate.
We don’t know what to do with our Now.
All we know is that we feel stuck.
When we’re stuck we oscillate between dorsal and sympathetic nervous system responses.
We are frozen, stuck, and when we’re not mentally, emotionally, and physically stuck we are stressed, struggling, and distracted.
You can imagine how difficult it becomes to life an inspiring life here.
So what do you do when you realize that your nervous system is responsible for your stuckness?
You get really f*cking curious about why and devote to the hard work of un-kinking your system life your life depends on it.
Because it does.
Sharpness aside, this pattern will continue to play out until you fully commit to becoming the pattern breaker.
I wish I could give you a trendy “5 things to get unstuck in life for good!” type of bullet list, but it.s more nuanced than that.
Of course, modalities like:
- breathwork
- somatic therapy
-assisted therapies
- past life regression
- inner child healing
- mens and womens circles
- etc…
all can be extremely helpful.
But the pre-requisite to all of this is much more fundamental.
Ask yourself this question:
“Am I willing to devote heartedly to becoming all that I can be?”
Because quite honestly, most people aren’t ready to make that commitment.
I’ve been there… and I know what it’s like to half-ass my healing.
If and when you decide to fully commit to your wholeness, then and only then do tools become necessary.
From there, you will naturally do whatever it takes to become not only nervous system literate,
but to become a true practitioner of vitality.
Once you make that commitment to yourself, here’s a list of experts that will resource you with the tools, practices, and experiments that will take you where you want to go:
sarah baldwin
stephen porges
peter levine
deb dana
johnny miller
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kev vanderzel
There’s an art to surrendering.
It’s in asking the strange and difficult questions.
What if you fully accept life as it currently is while knowing you need to change it?
I’m a firm believer in learning to ask the right questions.
But its hard to find questions of expansion because much of our thought patterns are based in binary terms.
The default ultimatum based system is like this:
This or that.
Good or bad.
Now or then.
While there is a time a space for the ultimatum in everyday life, it’s much more transformative to dissolve these patterns with a re-frame.
Often our mental and emotional landscapes speak at different paces, often even different stories entirely.
SO the question(s) is not:
how can I stop overthinking?
How can I stop under-feeling?
How do I find balance?
How do I know the answer?
Rather, question the question.
Experience what it may be like to hold two perspectives at the same time.
The perspective of the body and the perspective of the mind…
Chances are, there is a lot your body has to say, but it can only say through feeling.
So what if you learned to fully listen, acknowledge, and lean into the feelings within your body while you listen to and acknowledge what your mind wants say as well?
Trying too hard to quiet the mind or trying too hard to be in your body tends to have the opposite effect of what we are after.
What if you felt your present emotion fully, even if the mind is already trying to be in the desire of what’s next?
This is abstract I know, but this way hopefully you can fill in the necessary context to your life right now.
Here’s what this looks like for me at present:
What if I can hold the weight of the painful emotions I’m moving through while also connecting to my mental desire to change and to rise?
What if they are much more connected than I tend to believe?
What if mental confusion is dissolved through emotional vulnerability?
With pride I can say that the doorway to that desire is through the emotional experience in front of you, despite how daunting or inspiring it may seem.
Perhaps its the one you’ve been avoiding.
Perhaps its the one that is evolving rapidly in unexpected ways.
Perhaps it something you didn’t know existed beneath the surface, but now you can’t unsee it (un-feel it).
All that you need to do is hold yourself in what feels most real to you right now - no matter how muddy it may be.
Hold the pain, the grief, the sadness while also acknowledging the desire, the excitement, and the joy that is so near.
One moment may be grief felt in the body, the next may be a mental stillness where a subtle excitement emerges.
Let it all be welcome, but attach to neither.
We can never know all the ways life is conspiring to help us, nurture us, and lead us.
At best we get a glimpse in hindsight…
But in reality all you truly have is trust in the present and vulnerability to lean into whatever life presents you.
Experience it somatically.
Experience it mentally.
Experience it spiritually.
Live in all three, in the beautiful messy ebb and flow of transformation.
Be kind to your nervous system.
Be graceful with your narrative.
Be tender with your heart.
.
love
_kev
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What if you fully believed that you weren't supposed to be anywhere else other than exactly where you are?
No more:
- should
-could have been
- would have been
Imagine what you would be focusing on right now?
How much more confident you would feel in your career, relationships, and creativity?
I'm convinced that a lack of acceptance for what is IS the very thing keeping you from your potential and the life you desire.
Real change starts with total acceptance for what is.
And it starts to look real juicy with trust in uncertainty.
So if you feel like you've been struggling to 'get' what you want in this life, start by:
- giving yourself grace
- accepting responsibility for your life
- remembering what it's like to play
- focusing on what you want, not what you lack
love y'all
_kev
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Shame and Marketing...
The degree I feel confident promoting myself is interconnected to the degree of shame I hold in my system:
- I’m not good enough
- people won’t like what I offer
- I don’t want want to feel salesy
- it’s safer to play small and be right about why things aren’t working out
But you can’t just ‘transcend’ these stories, fears, and emotions.
You have to sit with them.
Accept them.
Feel them fully.
THEN - question their validity.
Create a new story.
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kev vanderzel
Chances are if you feel stuck, there’s an emotion stuck there too.
Stagnancy in relationships, in creativity, and in career/business all correlate to a stagnancy within our inner landscapes.
Every time I find myself stuck in some capacity, it comes from exhausting the emotional or mental resources that I depend on.
There is only so much available to me in one way of thinking and one way of feeling at a time until inevitably something needs to shift.
Overgrazing is a thing.
Cattle left confined to graze in one pasture for too long has a gamut consequences.
The landscape will not only cease to sustain the diets of the cattle, but it itself will begin to erode and deteriorate.
Species of grasses and flowers may stop reproducing.
Flows of surface water can be altered in ways that shock the hillsides.
Unnatural terraces could be cut in the landscape, forever changing the aesthetic physics of the land.
To sustain life and to maintain a natural flowing balance, the cattle need to be moved from pasture to pasture, neither grazing too much nor grazing too little.
The design of the cow is remarkable when you zoom out a few planes of awareness.
Plants convert sunlight into fiber and stored energy.
Cows convert plants into more stored energy as a food source for humanity.
By the transitive property of congruence, a bi-product of sunlight can become a cow.
Nuance aside, it can be an extremely symbiotic relationship when stewarded consciously.
IT’s a great metaphor for own operating system.
How often do you overgraze certain thoughts?
What types of emotions are you grazing too much, or too little?
How can you discover new pastures to graze on?
To operate at my highest capacity in creativity, in relationships, and in my work I must continually find new modes of thinking and feeling.
When I think myself into a corner so-to-speak, a false limitation, I have to use a new way of thinking to get through the obstacle that my old way of thinking created.
The same occurs emotionally.
My default emotional state will only lead me so far until I discover it’s limits, where then I am called to embrace other emotions to dissolve the limitations perceived.
As the new ways of thinking and feeling create spaciousness where stagnancy once lived, I feel an inspiring reset, a creative recalibration, a business breakthrough.
The tension that is relieved when I discover this sort of pasture as I’ve been grazing the shit out of a little mental corral feels like pure freedom.
I often see herds of cows gathering near the open gates to new pastures, waiting.
Despite being so near to the new pastures, their gaze is focused on the fence rather than the doorway.
I feel exactly the same way at times, blinded to the doorway yet fixed on my limitation.
All it takes is someone to the point at the gate you couldn’t see with your way of seeing.
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kev vanderzel
What if failing was a sign that you’re exactly where you need to be?
Failing is not failure.
Failing is physical, it’s when life objectively takes a turn beyond your expectations - and nothing more.
There is an awful lot of space here to learn, reflect, and refine your pursuit.
Failure is mental, it’s the story we loop in our headspace that is purely subjective. It’s a belief, and it uses outside evidence to support it’s own existence.
But anything that needs evidence is not your highest self - its purely illusory.
The art of failing is this:
To experience the circumstance live presents you, objectively.
To not misconstrue this circumstance to mean something about who you are.
Failing does not make you a failure.
There is a choice there, despite how unconscious it may be.
Whenever I fully embrace the act of failing, exactly as it is, it ALWAYS leads to the next breakthrough.
If I can learn to feel freedom with the fail, then I am creating a solid foundation to grow into the next *thing.*
Be it a:
- responsibility or commitment
- project
- collaboration or business venture
The more freedom I allow myself to fail, the more I embody the state of being necessary to achieve the next level of impact, income, greatness, or whatever one wishes to achieve.
So next time you experience a moment of a failing, remember that circumstance does not need to belittle your self-story.
You can fail and feel free.
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