It’s in asking the strange and difficult questions.
What if you fully accept life as it currently is while knowing you need to change it?
I’m a firm believer in learning to ask the right questions.
But its hard to find questions of expansion because much of our thought patterns are based in binary terms.
The default ultimatum based system is like this:
This or that.
Good or bad.
Now or then.
While there is a time a space for the ultimatum in everyday life, it’s much more transformative to dissolve these patterns with a re-frame.
Often our mental and emotional landscapes speak at different paces, often even different stories entirely.
SO the question(s) is not:
how can I stop overthinking?
How can I stop under-feeling?
How do I find balance?
How do I know the answer?
Rather, question the question.
Experience what it may be like to hold two perspectives at the same time.
The perspective of the body and the perspective of the mind…
Chances are, there is a lot your body has to say, but it can only say through feeling.
So what if you learned to fully listen, acknowledge, and lean into the feelings within your body while you listen to and acknowledge what your mind wants say as well?
Trying too hard to quiet the mind or trying too hard to be in your body tends to have the opposite effect of what we are after.
What if you felt your present emotion fully, even if the mind is already trying to be in the desire of what’s next?
This is abstract I know, but this way hopefully you can fill in the necessary context to your life right now.
Here’s what this looks like for me at present:
What if I can hold the weight of the painful emotions I’m moving through while also connecting to my mental desire to change and to rise?
What if they are much more connected than I tend to believe?
What if mental confusion is dissolved through emotional vulnerability?
With pride I can say that the doorway to that desire is through the emotional experience in front of you, despite how daunting or inspiring it may seem.
Perhaps its the one you’ve been avoiding.
Perhaps its the one that is evolving rapidly in unexpected ways.
Perhaps it something you didn’t know existed beneath the surface, but now you can’t unsee it (un-feel it).
All that you need to do is hold yourself in what feels most real to you right now - no matter how muddy it may be.
Hold the pain, the grief, the sadness while also acknowledging the desire, the excitement, and the joy that is so near.
One moment may be grief felt in the body, the next may be a mental stillness where a subtle excitement emerges.
Let it all be welcome, but attach to neither.
We can never know all the ways life is conspiring to help us, nurture us, and lead us.
At best we get a glimpse in hindsight…
But in reality all you truly have is trust in the present and vulnerability to lean into whatever life presents you.
Experience it somatically.
Experience it mentally.
Experience it spiritually.
Live in all three, in the beautiful messy ebb and flow of transformation.
kev vanderzel
There’s an art to surrendering.
It’s in asking the strange and difficult questions.
What if you fully accept life as it currently is while knowing you need to change it?
I’m a firm believer in learning to ask the right questions.
But its hard to find questions of expansion because much of our thought patterns are based in binary terms.
The default ultimatum based system is like this:
This or that.
Good or bad.
Now or then.
While there is a time a space for the ultimatum in everyday life, it’s much more transformative to dissolve these patterns with a re-frame.
Often our mental and emotional landscapes speak at different paces, often even different stories entirely.
SO the question(s) is not:
how can I stop overthinking?
How can I stop under-feeling?
How do I find balance?
How do I know the answer?
Rather, question the question.
Experience what it may be like to hold two perspectives at the same time.
The perspective of the body and the perspective of the mind…
Chances are, there is a lot your body has to say, but it can only say through feeling.
So what if you learned to fully listen, acknowledge, and lean into the feelings within your body while you listen to and acknowledge what your mind wants say as well?
Trying too hard to quiet the mind or trying too hard to be in your body tends to have the opposite effect of what we are after.
What if you felt your present emotion fully, even if the mind is already trying to be in the desire of what’s next?
This is abstract I know, but this way hopefully you can fill in the necessary context to your life right now.
Here’s what this looks like for me at present:
What if I can hold the weight of the painful emotions I’m moving through while also connecting to my mental desire to change and to rise?
What if they are much more connected than I tend to believe?
What if mental confusion is dissolved through emotional vulnerability?
With pride I can say that the doorway to that desire is through the emotional experience in front of you, despite how daunting or inspiring it may seem.
Perhaps its the one you’ve been avoiding.
Perhaps its the one that is evolving rapidly in unexpected ways.
Perhaps it something you didn’t know existed beneath the surface, but now you can’t unsee it (un-feel it).
All that you need to do is hold yourself in what feels most real to you right now - no matter how muddy it may be.
Hold the pain, the grief, the sadness while also acknowledging the desire, the excitement, and the joy that is so near.
One moment may be grief felt in the body, the next may be a mental stillness where a subtle excitement emerges.
Let it all be welcome, but attach to neither.
We can never know all the ways life is conspiring to help us, nurture us, and lead us.
At best we get a glimpse in hindsight…
But in reality all you truly have is trust in the present and vulnerability to lean into whatever life presents you.
Experience it somatically.
Experience it mentally.
Experience it spiritually.
Live in all three, in the beautiful messy ebb and flow of transformation.
Be kind to your nervous system.
Be graceful with your narrative.
Be tender with your heart.
.
love
_kev
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