Right now, you're a version of yourself that, believe it or not, you're not proud to be.
But, to be fair, that isn't always your fault. Because sometimes you have good intentions behind the person that you are, until you see how badly it affects you.
It's not that you're a "bad person", but who you are is a danger to yourself.
When you try so hard to be the right person for someone, giving them your all, people pleasing them, and trying to be who you think they want you to be, it's easy to lose yourself in the process.
It's crazy because you can literally go from someone who knew what they wanted for themselves, was at peace and happy in life, focused on their goals, to somebody who just feels completely lost and stuck, all because of one person coming into your life.
I know that because I did the same exact thing, I lost myself trying to be enough for somebody who didn't even deserve me, honestly.
Believe it or not, most of you aren't even stuck on the person; you're just stuck on the version of yourself that tried so hard to be enough for them, but still, in the end, got rejected.
So it feels like a part of you is missing, because you're waiting for someone else's validation to feel confident in yourself.
I know because again, I did the same thing, but I also know how easy it is to get stuck there for years and maybe even the rest of your life.
Unfortunately, the feeling doesn't go away just by learning to stop reaching out, or going no contact, or finally moving on, because it still feels like you need somebody to choose you in order to feel like you're enough.
The feeling, the desire, the urge to keep chasing people who don't want you only goes away when you become a version of yourself that doesn't need them to choose you to feel confident and good about yourself.
It only happens when you finally rebuild your self-worth so that you stop performing and losing yourself in relationships.
Again, I get it because I've been there before, and it's exactly why I started coaching people to help them get the transformation that I did.
So if you're ready to stop feeling stuck or like you lost a part of you trying to keep other people, check out my private 1:1 coaching and see if it's something that's for you.
Remember, none of this changes until YOU change who you are as a person.
Stand on your boundaries and speak up for yourself. The worst thing you could ever do to yourself is let shit slide to keep the peace. You can never expect anything to change if you don’t make it known that it’s a problem. When it comes to relationships people are not mind readers. You have to make it known when something is an issue, something is bothering you, or you feel that something needs to be addressed. But the more you hold back because of fear of either losing that person or getting into an uncomfortable conflict, the more you suffer internally and disrespect yourself.
People will never respect you if they see you tolerate and create excuses for the things you know that you shouldn’t. Because the more it becomes normalized, the harder it is to address . And by that time it might be too late because you’ve allowed it to slide for too long that the only way they would take you seriously is if you let them go. Don't let your fears keep you from enforcing your boundaries.
If you're ready to become the version of yourself that confidently set boundsries without guilt and finally shows up for yourself, then check out my Letting Go to Grow Journal willkeepitreal.store/shop/e5e99d63-7b9b-4463-aaac-…
When it feels like you wasted your time on them ⬇️
Sometimes the love you give won't match the love you receive. In fact, sometimes you won't receive any love in return at all.
But, it only feels like a waste because you only gave that love with the hope of getting something in return.
Anytime you're trying to be "the right person" for someone, or trying to be enough for them, the moment they walk away, it feels like you did everything for nothing.
It feels like you gave so much just to have it all overlooked and thrown away.
But the thing with love is that it should always be given from a place of genuineness, not from a place of expectation.
This is the danger in trying to be a people pleaser and "enough" for other people, because you try to do everything right to get their validation, but when you still don't get it, it feels like you wasted your time.
You feel a sense of failure and that you didn't fulfill your purpose.
But, nothing will ever feel like a waste of time if you did it because you wanted to, not because you hoped it would lead you to an outcome.
Because unfortunately, people aren't always going to give to you what you were willing to pour into them.
So sometimes your love will be overlooked, it won't be appreciated, and people won't give it back to you, but you can't allow that to change who you are as a person.
Your love should be given because that's who YOU are, not because you need their love in return.
So if you're to shift from giving love for validation to giving love from confidence, my Letting Go To Grow Journal walks you through the steps to rebuild your worth and detach from the people who took you for granted.
What you call "protecting the peace" is really just you starting an internal war within yourself.
While you think people pleasing is the best thing for you, it's really just you abandoning yourself. You're telling yourself that your feelings, your opinion, your needs, don't matter and that instead everybody else's do.
Now I get it, when you've had your feelings rejected in the past, or every time you've voiced your needs, it wasn't received well, it can make you ball up and start thinking "let me just shut the f*k up" and stay quiet. But all this does is make us settle in relationships with people who make us feel as if we don't matter.
While yes, people pleasing might give you an external peace, on the inside, you're suffering because you feel yourself holding back and settling for relationships and a life that you don't actually enjoy, and feel like you have no voice.
And I get it, when you have fears like being alone, or not being enough for others, or facing rejection, it feels like people pleasing is the only option to keep yourself safe. But you can't afford to live that way forever, because at some point you'll get tired of living to please everybody else and never taking care of yourself.
But I get it, when you've been a people pleaser for so long, you have no idea where to start to stop doing it.
Which is why I created my mentorship program, to walk you step-by-step through the process of letting go of that old people-pleasing version of yourself, and finally start showing up for yourself without feeling guilty or like you made a mistake.
So, if you're truly tired of settling in relationships to "keep the peace", and you're ready to start showing up for yourself, you can apply for my mentorship here www.resetwithwill.com/lettinggocoaching
Once you apply, you'll be able to schedule a free call with me.
You say you love yourself, but your actions show differently.
We often have this misconception that self-love is just telling yourself a bunch of affirmations that you really don't even believe.
"I love myself" when you really hate where you are in this season of your life.
Self-love is more about your actions than it is your words.
It's about how you show up for yourself on a day-to-day basis.
It means being honest and acknowledging where you are, but recognizing that you can be doing better, and actually DOING that better.
Self-love is in not allowing yourself to settle, not surrounding yourself with people who don't make you feel appreciated, and it's not allowing yourself to remain the person who holds yourself back.
Self-love is when you love yourself enough to actually show up for yourself.
Because how can you claim you love who you don't even take care of.
This is why I emphasize things like "love yourself enough to let go" because you have to recognize that you are the only person who can save you.
But I get it, because it took me a while to learn how to love myself, because I was so consumed by my own self-hate.
My own criticism, guilt, and disappointment in myself made it impossible to show love to me.
So you're right, it's not easy, but it's also not impossible.
Which is why I have my 1-on-1 Coaching Program, to help you get to a place of self-love and no longer settle for the life you're not proud to live.
So, if you're someone who struggles to rebuild your self-worth after relationships, or find yourself holding onto the past, and struggling to love yourself, but you're ready to make a serious change, this is something that's for you.
So, if you're interested in joining, you can schedule a free call with me today to see if you're the right fit.
Let go of the version of yourself that allowed it to happen.
Letting go is more than just getting over the person, but becoming a version of yourself that doesn't allow the past to repeat.
It's letting go of the version of yourself that people pleased to keep the peace, put others first before yourself, and allowed yourself to settle even through the disrespect.
I understand that not every relationship has to end on bad terms or where you struggled to walk away, but I believe there's always reflection you can do to improve yourself.
Because when you fail to reflect, you can get over a person but keep allowing yourself to deal with similar people and repeat the same cycles.
But I get it, it's hard to know where you need to grow and make changes, especially when you're not sure what steps to take.
But, this is exactly why I created my Letting Go to Grow Coaching Program
To walk you through the steps of not only letting go, but to help you grow into the better version of yourself that doesn't allow your past to repeat.
So, if you feel like you lost a part of yourself in others and you're ready to rebuild your self-worth, schedule a free call with me using the link below.
Maybe you're holding on because you don't trust yourself to let go.
Letting go is more than just deciding to walk away; it's making a decision to know that you CAN walk away and trusting that you'll be alright without them.
It's knowing that you can find happiness again, that you'll heal eventually, and losing that person doesn't mean you also have to lose part of yourself.
See, when you think you need a person to be happy, you'll think that letting go means your life falling apart, when in reality it's not.
I used to make the same mistake of worrying about whether I could "find someone again" or if this was "as good as it gets," and I just had to figure it out.
But, in reality, I was just settling into a space that brought nothing but suffering.
And the truth is that you'll never truly trust yourself to let go until after you do it.
Until you start seeing that you don't need them to be happy, until you start building a life without them, and until you start building new relationships and realize the previous one didn't complete you.
Letting go isn't something you do when you finally feel "ready"; it's something you do when you realize you can't afford to keep staying where you're at and trust that you'll be okay when you stop holding on.
But I get it, that trust can be hard to build, especially while you're still dealing with the pain, and that's exactly why I have my 1-on-1 Letting Go To Grow Coaching Program.
To be a coach to those who have no idea what steps to take after letting go, to find that peace and happiness again.
So if you're somebody who's finally ready to let go, but you're struggling to know or trust your steps moving forward, then this is something that's for you.
It's often going to be your attachment to the outcome that leaves you hurting the most.
Because you had an expectation for the relationship to turn our a certain way, or you thought finally found a person who would be around forever.
So when things fell apart, it didn't hurt only because you lost the person, but also because everything you were looking forward to suddenly disappeared too.
There has to be a moment of realization for you that things won't always turn out how people said they would, how they appear to be, or how you want them to be.
Trust me, I'm not here to say that it's an easy thing to accept, but it's a reality that happens.
And this is why it's so important to not overinvest your sense of self into others' opinions, love, and validation, because the moment that they do leave, it leaves you feeling like you've lost a part of yourself.
Now, if you're somebody who struggles with this. I created a brand new Self-Worth Reset Guide that will allow you to start rebuilding your self-worth IMMEDIATELY.
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Nothing changes until you change.
Right now, you're a version of yourself that, believe it or not, you're not proud to be.
But, to be fair, that isn't always your fault. Because sometimes you have good intentions behind the person that you are, until you see how badly it affects you.
It's not that you're a "bad person", but who you are is a danger to yourself.
When you try so hard to be the right person for someone, giving them your all, people pleasing them, and trying to be who you think they want you to be, it's easy to lose yourself in the process.
It's crazy because you can literally go from someone who knew what they wanted for themselves, was at peace and happy in life, focused on their goals, to somebody who just feels completely lost and stuck, all because of one person coming into your life.
I know that because I did the same exact thing, I lost myself trying to be enough for somebody who didn't even deserve me, honestly.
Believe it or not, most of you aren't even stuck on the person; you're just stuck on the version of yourself that tried so hard to be enough for them, but still, in the end, got rejected.
So it feels like a part of you is missing, because you're waiting for someone else's validation to feel confident in yourself.
I know because again, I did the same thing, but I also know how easy it is to get stuck there for years and maybe even the rest of your life.
Unfortunately, the feeling doesn't go away just by learning to stop reaching out, or going no contact, or finally moving on, because it still feels like you need somebody to choose you in order to feel like you're enough.
The feeling, the desire, the urge to keep chasing people who don't want you only goes away when you become a version of yourself that doesn't need them to choose you to feel confident and good about yourself.
It only happens when you finally rebuild your self-worth so that you stop performing and losing yourself in relationships.
Again, I get it because I've been there before, and it's exactly why I started coaching people to help them get the transformation that I did.
So if you're ready to stop feeling stuck or like you lost a part of you trying to keep other people, check out my private 1:1 coaching and see if it's something that's for you.
Remember, none of this changes until YOU change who you are as a person.
Want to apply? Here's the link api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/survey/B73xpo4g7fmQ…
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Stand on your boundaries and speak up for yourself.
The worst thing you could ever do to yourself is let shit slide to keep the peace. You can never expect anything to change if you don’t make it known that it’s a problem. When it comes to relationships people are not mind readers. You have to make it known when something is an issue, something is bothering you, or you feel that something needs to be addressed. But the more you hold back because of fear of either losing that person or getting into an uncomfortable conflict, the more you suffer internally and disrespect yourself.
People will never respect you if they see you tolerate and create excuses for the things you know that you shouldn’t. Because the more it becomes normalized, the harder it is to address . And by that time it might be too late because you’ve allowed it to slide for too long that the only way they would take you seriously is if you let them go. Don't let your fears keep you from enforcing your boundaries.
If you're ready to become the version of yourself that confidently set boundsries without guilt and finally shows up for yourself, then check out my Letting Go to Grow Journal willkeepitreal.store/shop/e5e99d63-7b9b-4463-aaac-…
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When it feels like you wasted your time on them ⬇️
Sometimes the love you give won't match the love you receive. In fact, sometimes you won't receive any love in return at all.
But, it only feels like a waste because you only gave that love with the hope of getting something in return.
Anytime you're trying to be "the right person" for someone, or trying to be enough for them, the moment they walk away, it feels like you did everything for nothing.
It feels like you gave so much just to have it all overlooked and thrown away.
But the thing with love is that it should always be given from a place of genuineness, not from a place of expectation.
This is the danger in trying to be a people pleaser and "enough" for other people, because you try to do everything right to get their validation, but when you still don't get it, it feels like you wasted your time.
You feel a sense of failure and that you didn't fulfill your purpose.
But, nothing will ever feel like a waste of time if you did it because you wanted to, not because you hoped it would lead you to an outcome.
Because unfortunately, people aren't always going to give to you what you were willing to pour into them.
So sometimes your love will be overlooked, it won't be appreciated, and people won't give it back to you, but you can't allow that to change who you are as a person.
Your love should be given because that's who YOU are, not because you need their love in return.
So if you're to shift from giving love for validation to giving love from confidence, my Letting Go To Grow Journal walks you through the steps to rebuild your worth and detach from the people who took you for granted.
Here's the link: willkeepitreal.store/shop/e5e99d63-7b9b-4463-aaac-…
Want more personal help? Check out my 1-on-1 Coaching, and schedule a free call with me. www.resetwithwill.com/lettinggocoaching
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What you call "protecting the peace" is really just you starting an internal war within yourself.
While you think people pleasing is the best thing for you, it's really just you abandoning yourself. You're telling yourself that your feelings, your opinion, your needs, don't matter and that instead everybody else's do.
Now I get it, when you've had your feelings rejected in the past, or every time you've voiced your needs, it wasn't received well, it can make you ball up and start thinking "let me just shut the f*k up" and stay quiet. But all this does is make us settle in relationships with people who make us feel as if we don't matter.
While yes, people pleasing might give you an external peace, on the inside, you're suffering because you feel yourself holding back and settling for relationships and a life that you don't actually enjoy, and feel like you have no voice.
And I get it, when you have fears like being alone, or not being enough for others, or facing rejection, it feels like people pleasing is the only option to keep yourself safe.
But you can't afford to live that way forever, because at some point you'll get tired of living to please everybody else and never taking care of yourself.
But I get it, when you've been a people pleaser for so long, you have no idea where to start to stop doing it.
Which is why I created my mentorship program, to walk you step-by-step through the process of letting go of that old people-pleasing version of yourself, and finally start showing up for yourself without feeling guilty or like you made a mistake.
So, if you're truly tired of settling in relationships to "keep the peace", and you're ready to start showing up for yourself, you can apply for my mentorship here www.resetwithwill.com/lettinggocoaching
Once you apply, you'll be able to schedule a free call with me.
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You say you love yourself, but your actions show differently.
We often have this misconception that self-love is just telling yourself a bunch of affirmations that you really don't even believe.
"I love myself" when you really hate where you are in this season of your life.
Self-love is more about your actions than it is your words.
It's about how you show up for yourself on a day-to-day basis.
It means being honest and acknowledging where you are, but recognizing that you can be doing better, and actually DOING that better.
Self-love is in not allowing yourself to settle, not surrounding yourself with people who don't make you feel appreciated, and it's not allowing yourself to remain the person who holds yourself back.
Self-love is when you love yourself enough to actually show up for yourself.
Because how can you claim you love who you don't even take care of.
This is why I emphasize things like "love yourself enough to let go" because you have to recognize that you are the only person who can save you.
But I get it, because it took me a while to learn how to love myself, because I was so consumed by my own self-hate.
My own criticism, guilt, and disappointment in myself made it impossible to show love to me.
So you're right, it's not easy, but it's also not impossible.
Which is why I have my 1-on-1 Coaching Program, to help you get to a place of self-love and no longer settle for the life you're not proud to live.
So, if you're someone who struggles to rebuild your self-worth after relationships, or find yourself holding onto the past, and struggling to love yourself, but you're ready to make a serious change, this is something that's for you.
So, if you're interested in joining, you can schedule a free call with me today to see if you're the right fit.
api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/survey/B73xpo4g7fmQ…
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Let go of the version of yourself that allowed it to happen.
Letting go is more than just getting over the person, but becoming a version of yourself that doesn't allow the past to repeat.
It's letting go of the version of yourself that people pleased to keep the peace, put others first before yourself, and allowed yourself to settle even through the disrespect.
I understand that not every relationship has to end on bad terms or where you struggled to walk away, but I believe there's always reflection you can do to improve yourself.
Because when you fail to reflect, you can get over a person but keep allowing yourself to deal with similar people and repeat the same cycles.
But I get it, it's hard to know where you need to grow and make changes, especially when you're not sure what steps to take.
But, this is exactly why I created my Letting Go to Grow Coaching Program
To walk you through the steps of not only letting go, but to help you grow into the better version of yourself that doesn't allow your past to repeat.
So, if you feel like you lost a part of yourself in others and you're ready to rebuild your self-worth, schedule a free call with me using the link below.
api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/survey/B73xpo4g7fmQ…
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Where are you at currently with your relationship?
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Maybe you're holding on because you don't trust yourself to let go.
Letting go is more than just deciding to walk away; it's making a decision to know that you CAN walk away and trusting that you'll be alright without them.
It's knowing that you can find happiness again, that you'll heal eventually, and losing that person doesn't mean you also have to lose part of yourself.
See, when you think you need a person to be happy, you'll think that letting go means your life falling apart, when in reality it's not.
I used to make the same mistake of worrying about whether I could "find someone again" or if this was "as good as it gets," and I just had to figure it out.
But, in reality, I was just settling into a space that brought nothing but suffering.
And the truth is that you'll never truly trust yourself to let go until after you do it.
Until you start seeing that you don't need them to be happy, until you start building a life without them, and until you start building new relationships and realize the previous one didn't complete you.
Letting go isn't something you do when you finally feel "ready"; it's something you do when you realize you can't afford to keep staying where you're at and trust that you'll be okay when you stop holding on.
But I get it, that trust can be hard to build, especially while you're still dealing with the pain, and that's exactly why I have my 1-on-1 Letting Go To Grow Coaching Program.
To be a coach to those who have no idea what steps to take after letting go, to find that peace and happiness again.
So if you're somebody who's finally ready to let go, but you're struggling to know or trust your steps moving forward, then this is something that's for you.
So, if this message spoke to you and your situation, you can schedule a free call with me here
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You have to be okay with it not working out.
It's often going to be your attachment to the outcome that leaves you hurting the most.
Because you had an expectation for the relationship to turn our a certain way, or you thought finally found a person who would be around forever.
So when things fell apart, it didn't hurt only because you lost the person, but also because everything you were looking forward to suddenly disappeared too.
There has to be a moment of realization for you that things won't always turn out how people said they would, how they appear to be, or how you want them to be.
Trust me, I'm not here to say that it's an easy thing to accept, but it's a reality that happens.
And this is why it's so important to not overinvest your sense of self into others' opinions, love, and validation, because the moment that they do leave, it leaves you feeling like you've lost a part of yourself.
Now, if you're somebody who struggles with this. I created a brand new Self-Worth Reset Guide that will allow you to start rebuilding your self-worth IMMEDIATELY.
It's completely free, and you can access it here subscribepage.io/gwCo3D
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