Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity (RSD)

ARE YOU DREADING THE OFFICE CHRISTMAS PARTY??


Did you know this is how "rejection sensitivity" (or RSD) can show up at Christmas parties and work events? You may not be aware of the label (it is a very common symptom of ADHD) but you will certainly recognise some or all of these common features - if you know, you KNOW...


🤦‍♀️ The thought of going to office parties fills you with dread - you really want to be sociable but the fear of how you appear to others makes you cancel last minute. And you feel VERY guilty about this.
🤦‍♀️If you DO pluck up the courage (or cave into the pressure) to go, you will spend ALL your mental energy trying not to say the wrong thing, and overanalysing everything you DO say for weeks even months after.
🤦‍♀️You might drink too much alcohol to survive those parties - and the next day (and for many days after) you'll be torturing yourself about all those things you said that might have caused offence....or how stupid you seemed, or how boring you were. Etc.
🤦‍♀️You'll be catastrophising about how you will lose your job, ruin that relationship and screw your chances of promotion all over the Xmas period, struggling to cope with the shame spiral and wishing you had never gone at all.


Does any of this feel familiar? There can be a LOT of pressure to attend the endless round of "pre-xmas drinks", a "few friendly pints with the team" or the "big out of town Xmas party with the overnight stay in a hotel". You spend weeks worrying about it - trapped between the pressure to go from your boss/management and the physical terror of making a tit of yourself on the other.


The REALITY is probably more along the lines of:


🎅Everyone is feeling more concerned about what THEY say, do or look like!
🎅Everyone you speak to is already a bit tiddly themselves, and they will LOVE you!
🎅Nobody will remember much the next day....
🎅And if they do, it will be more about their own behaviour!


I often wonder why anyone puts themselves through this annual misery-fest but of course the office Christmas Party is such a deeply embedded tradition that nobody would ever dare to suggest scrapping it this year and just getting an early night!
If you are feeling very pressured to go to yours even though the thought fills you with actual physical pain, reach out to me.


It IS possible to grow your confidence AND reduce the level of rejection-sensitivity symptoms (your nervous system trying to protect you) in just one or two hypnotherapy sessions.


You might not exactly LOVE your party but you won't over-think, over-drink and spend weeks after wishing you could just hand your notice in :))))
DM me for a friendly chat about how I can help you 🎅🎅

4 weeks ago | [YT] | 1

Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity (RSD)

ARE YOU DREADING CHRISTMAS MORE THAN LOOKING FORWARD TO IT?

You may be hoping for a calm, relaxing Christmas but in reality you know you will just be focused on surviving the upcoming season as best you can!

As we move into December, I know the pressure of the festive season can feel extreme — especially for women with ADHD! Combine that with rejection sensitivity AND anxiety/overwhelm.

If you’ve been feeling that mix of overwhelm, guilt, or dread creeping in, please know you’re not alone. Christmas can be incredibly triggering for those of us with tricky family members, being pulled in too many directions and feeling guilty because you just want to hide away from it all!

So this year, I’ve opened up something gentle and supportive:
A one-off “Seasonal Intensive Reset” session — available from 1st to 19th December.

This is for you if you’re feeling:

🎅Worried about family arguments or conflict

🎅Anxious about being judged or criticised - or being alone

🎅Stretched thin with social pressure, maybe you HATE parties!

🎅 Feeling guilty saying “no” when you need me-time

🎅 Overwhelmed by noise, expectations, or sensory chaos

🎅 Or simply wishing you didn't have so much to do and so little help.

In our time together, you’ll get:

✨ 60-90 minutes of calm supportive space just for you — to offload what you’re feeling, understand your emotional triggers, get clear about what YOU want and create a festive plan that feels do-able rather than overwhelming.
✨ Personalised soothing hypnosis — with your own recording you can use throughout December to bring your nervous system back to calm whenever things feel too much.

My intention is for you to walk away feeling clearer, more regulated, and more confident in the choices you want to make this Christmas — without guilt or pressure.

I have opened up slots between 1st–19th December. They can be in person or online.

If this feels like exactly what you need before Christmas, simply send me a DM! We can discuss your needs and options. I offer 60 or 90 minute slots.

You deserve a festive season that feels safe, calm, and nourishing — not something you just have to get through.

I’m here if you’d like that support :)

1 month ago | [YT] | 1

Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity (RSD)

Wonderful review from a client who struggled to speak in front of other people, or even speak openly to her friends. Hypnotherapy is so powerful! This lovely client had only the one session with me...

2 months ago | [YT] | 4

Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity (RSD)

If I gave away 10 free consultations, who wants one? (DM me to protect your privacy).
ADHD sometimes hides in plain sight, you might recognise OTHER symptoms - such as emotional overwhelm, arguments at home or work, feeling mentally exhausted, binge eating, angry outbursts, controlling behaviour, drinking too much, frequent insomnia, feelings of self-loathing/shame, strong sensitivity to rejection/criticism, isolating yourself from others, allowing yourself to be taken advantage of. Oh - and not wanting to ask for
help or believe there IS help.
None of these things necessarily mean that you have ADHD but if you do, you might be familiar with some of the ways it can show up.

2 months ago | [YT] | 1

Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity (RSD)

I often get asked how hypnotherapy can help with ADHD, given that ADHD is classed as a neurodevelopmental condition of the brain in terms of how it's wired. How can you change what is permanent or fixed? I am not a neuroscientist or an ADHD expert - but I do understand the role of emotional conditioning and its impact on the structure of the brain.
Here's what I have helped some of my ND clients (predominantly women) to achieve:
✨Identifying and releasing shame
✨A better understanding of your unique mind
✨Nurturing your strengths
✨Improving focus and motivation
✨Develop boundary strengthening skills
✨Grow confidence, unmasked
✨Challenge negative self talk
✨improve relationships at home/work/socially
✨greater self compassion and acceptance
✨improved sleep and ability to relax
✨Enhanced ability to regulate emotions such as anger, anxiety and despair
✨creating awareness and space before reacting
Your amazing ADHD brain doesn’t need ‘fixing’. It’s a simple shift in focus and an enhanced feeling of belonging in a world where you may feel like you don't fit ♥️

2 months ago | [YT] | 0

Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity (RSD)

You may have heard terms like "rejection sensitive dysphoria", "masking", "people-pleasing" and "burnout" being bandied around a lot in the online space, particularly with regard to ADHD and other types of neurodiversity.

What do these actually MEAN?

Here's a quick run-through:

"Rejection-sensitive Dysphoria" - a condition closely associated with ADHD that can lead to physical and emotional pain/extreme distress at real or perceived rejection.

"masking" - changing your behaviour to fit in so your symptoms are not obvious to others.

"people-pleasing" - saying YES to the requests/demands of others in order to be accepted and avoid conflict

"burnout" - the exhaustion that can occur as a result of masking and people pleasing, as well as trying so hard to get everything right or perfect. Ah, that reminds me...perfectionism!

"perfectionism" - trying so hard to reach an imaginary ideal, avoiding mistakes and punishing yourself when you don't reach it.

These are all part of daily life for many women with ADHD - many of whom don't seek help till it's REALLY bad. My simple advice is not to leave it this long because your nervous system will take far longer to recover.

2 months ago | [YT] | 2

Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity (RSD)

My 56th five star Google review!

3 months ago | [YT] | 2

Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity (RSD)

Hi everyone!

For a long time now, I’ve been working with women struggling with anxiety, but I started noticing something—so many of my clients also have ADHD (whether diagnosed or not). And when I looked deeper, I realised that ADHD in women often goes unnoticed or misunderstood, leading to:

🚨 Constant overthinking & self-doubt
⏳ Chronic procrastination & perfectionism
😩 Feeling "lazy" or "behind" (when you're actually just overwhelmed!)
💬 Struggling with relationships & emotional regulation
🌀 A rollercoaster of motivation—some days you're on fire, others feel impossible
🤢 Crushing fear of being rejected or criticised

Sound familiar to some of you? If so, you’re not alone. And this is exactly where I’m focusing my work now—helping women with ADHD manage anxiety, self-esteem, and the trauma of lifelong masking.

So, why not men? I DO help men but women's experience resonates with me a lot, and the condition shows up very differently.

💡 If you're tired of feeling stuck, frustrated, or like you're "not reaching your potential," I’d love to support you. Just drop me a DM if you’d like more information about hypnotherapy and how it could help your amazing neurodivergent brain ♥️

3 months ago | [YT] | 3

Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity (RSD)

I just saw a heartbreaking post from a woman with autism. She said she couldn’t stop crying because of her loneliness and lack of meaningful connections. She said she just wanted to feel loveable.

That last sentence really gets to the heart of the matter - many neurodivergent women don’t feel loveable. There’s a knawing empty feeling that connection could fill, but the sense of not fitting in can present a huge barrier to making those connections.

You might not even be aware of all the horrible unkind messages you’ve received from others as you grew up but they still feel painful.

You might find that you only believe negative feedback from others and shrug off compliments. You might stay in relationships where you are badly treated. You might turn to alcohol, shopping or food to fill the void.

Learning to love and accept yourself can be transformative even if it feels a million miles away.

DM me if you want to talk about how I could help you. Hypnotherapy changes lives ♥️♥️

3 months ago | [YT] | 0

Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity (RSD)

Working with a lovely client today with a distressing fear of opening up to others, even people she is close to. She had a fear of not being listened to or understood by others in her life. Her fear extended to a worry she would be rejected. These fears stopped her from being herself and doing things she desperately wanted to do in her business. After just ONE powerful session, she realised it was her OWN heart she needed to listen to. It told her far more than any other human could possibly have told her.

Listen to yourself first, you know more than you think you do, and you are the wisest judge of your own needs!

3 months ago | [YT] | 0