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20 hours ago | [YT] | 87

Shaan Kassam

The Belief That The Right Thing Will Fix You:

I call this the rescue fantasy.

The therapist who finally got it. 
The book that explained everything. 
The technique that actually seemed to help.

Every time, a little hope. Every time, you think: "Maybe this is the one."

And then it fades. Or it helps a little but not enough. Or it works for a while and then stops.

So you go back to searching.

Not because you're not trying. 
You're trying constantly. 
You're exhausted from trying.

But somewhere underneath all of it, there's this belief:

"The right thing is out there. I just haven't found it yet."

The right person who finally gets it. The right explanation that makes it click. The right program that actually works for someone like you.

And so you keep looking. You keep hoping. You read another post, try another technique, wonder if maybe you missed something.

It's not laziness. It's the opposite. You're working so hard to find the thing that's going to help you.

And honestly? That hope is what keeps you going some days.

But I want to gently point to something.

Not to take that hope away. But because I think you already sense it and haven't had anyone say it out loud:

The searching itself has become part of the loop.

Not because you're doing something wrong. 
But because of what's underneath it.

When you're scanning for the thing that will finally save you — the right person, the right answer, the right moment where it all clicks — there's a message running in the background:

"I'm broken and need something external to fix me."

You're not thinking that consciously. But your nervous system is reading it. And it doesn't register "trying hard" or "being proactive." It registers posture.

And that posture — the waiting, the hoping, the quiet desperation underneath the search — that's not a healing state.

That's a threat state.

Helpless. Dependent. Bracing for the next disappointment.

So even when you find good help — even when the information is right — you're receiving it from a place that can't fully use it.

Not because you're not smart enough. Not because you're not trying hard enough.

Because you're still oriented around being rescued.

Here's what I've seen after working with thousands of people:

The same tools work differently when you're not waiting to be saved by them.

Same book. Same principles. Same support.

But when you're the one moving — not being carried, not hoping to be fixed, but actually walking — your system gets a completely different signal.

"I'm capable of forward."
"I can do this."

The shift isn't finding better help.

It's realizing you've had legs this whole time.

You were never waiting for the right answer.

You were waiting for permission to stop searching and start moving.

And just to be clear — this doesn't mean you have to do it alone.

Getting help isn't rescue. They're completely different postures.

Rescue is passive. It's "fix me." It's handing over the wheel and hoping someone else knows where to go.

Getting help is you deciding to move — and finding support so you stop walking in circles.

One keeps you in threat. The other accelerates your way out.

The difference isn't whether you get help. It's whether you're the one walking.

2 days ago (edited) | [YT] | 296

Shaan Kassam

The people who actually recover aren’t the ones who master allowing.

They’re the ones who catch themselves monitoring, shrug, and do the thing anyway.

That’s the skill.

You don’t heal by perfecting the technique.

You heal by getting bored of checking whether you’re doing it right.

I have a bunch of great resources on the healing journey on Instagram. It's also the easiest way for me to connect with you.

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4 days ago | [YT] | 393

Shaan Kassam

You're Allowed to Not Be at Your Best Right Now

Your brain won't cooperate at work.

Tasks take twice as long. 
You reread emails five times. 
You lose your train of thought mid-meeting.

And every day you think: "My anxiety is going to cost me my job."

Here's what's actually happening:
The feeling of incompetence ≠ actual incompetence.

When your nervous system is sensitized, you become hyperfocused on your internal experience.

Every racing thought feels catastrophic.

Every moment of brain fog feels like evidence you're falling apart.

You're so tuned into what's happening INSIDE that you assume it's showing up OUTSIDE.

But here's the brutal irony:
A lot of people in recovery are doing their BEST work.

You're checking everything three times.
Over-preparing for meetings.
Being extra careful with details.
You feel like you're barely holding it together...

While simultaneously excelling.

The gap between what you FEEL and what's ACTUALLY happening is massive.
The real problem isn't that you can't perform while anxious.
The problem is you're doing TWO jobs:

Your actual job
Constantly monitoring whether you're doing it well enough

That second job is what's exhausting you.

Here is the shift:
You don't need to feel capable to BE capable.
You feel foggy → contribute to the meeting anyway
You feel incompetent → give the presentation anyway
You feel like you're failing → send the email anyway

Not because you're confident.

Because you're done letting the FEELING of incompetence stop you.

And then you get data: "I felt terrible AND did the thing AND it turned out fine."

That's what breaks the cycle.

You are not as incompetent as you feel.

The anxiety is loud, but it's not accurate.


You're going through one of the hardest experiences a person can face, and you're still showing up. That alone says everything about your capability.

You're not broken. You're not failing. You're recalibrating.

And you're going to be okay.

1 week ago | [YT] | 428

Shaan Kassam

Most people push away their emotions becaue they don't know what they mean, or they judge themselves for having them.

But emotions are not the problem. They're simply signals. Once you understand what they're saying -- everything changes.

I have a bunch of great resources on the healing journey on Instagram. It's also the easiest way for me to connect with you.

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1 week ago | [YT] | 292

Shaan Kassam

At some point you realize you can't keep doing this.

You can't keep organizing your whole life around feeling okay.
Avoiding stress. Staying in control.

You have to actually start living again. And you do.

You start working more.
Taking on responsibility.
Saying yes to things you would've avoided six months ago.
Not because you feel ready, but because you're tired of waiting to feel ready.

This is good. This is the goal.

But here's where it gets confusing.

Your nervous system got used to survival mode.
Predictable days.
Familiar surroundings.
Low demand.

Now you're asking it to handle more — and it pushes back.
Normal things make you exhausted. Weird emotional stuff. Body stuff that wasn't there when life was smaller.

Your brain goes: "See? I'm getting worse. I need to pull back."

But that's not what's happening.
You're not going backwards.
You're recalibrating.

Every time you have a demanding day, feel stretched, and wake up tomorrow still okay... your system learns "we can do this."

That's how the window expands.
Not by thinking about it.
By living through it.

Here's the part no one talks about though. This phase isn't just physical. It's an identity shift.

For a long time, you were the person who had to be careful.
That story kept you safe.
But it also kept you small.
Now you're becoming someone who just lives.

And that's scarier than most people realize.
I think this is why some people pull back right when they're about to break through.
It's not the symptoms they can't handle. It's who they'd have to become if they were actually okay.

So if you're in this phase — tired, stretched, wondering why recovery feels harder than being stuck — just know what it is.

Your life is getting bigger.
Your system is catching up.
You're not going backward.
You're walking out.

1 week ago | [YT] | 625

Shaan Kassam

Why I've never taken a single penny from sponsors...

I get offers like this almost every week now.

Massage guns. Supplements. Meditation apps. Weighted blankets. You name it.

Some of them pay upwards of $10,000 for a single video.

Just 60-90 seconds. I say something nice. And get an easy cashout.

I've never taken a single penny. 
Not once.

Here's why—

This channel isn't about management. 
It never has been.

I'm not here to help you get through the day. 
I'm not here to help you cope a little better. 
I'm not here to help you white-knuckle your way through life with a drawer full of products and techniques.

I'm here to help you actually live.

A full life. A thriving life. One where you're not thinking about anxiety anymore because it's just... not running the show.

That's the prize.

You—living your life to its full extent. Building things. Loving people. Helping others in whatever way you're meant to. 

Not surviving. Thriving.

And I'm not going to compromise that vision to make a few bucks selling you someone else's product that I don't even believe in.

Now—someone's going to say, "But Shaan, you have your own program."
Yeah. I do.

But I'm not selling products. I'm offering guidance. Education. The understanding I wish someone had given me when I was stuck.

That's a different thing entirely.

Products give you something to use. Guidance gives you something to become.

So when these offers come in, the answer is always the same.

No thanks.

I'd rather help you get your life back.

— Shaan

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 249

Shaan Kassam

Still searching for proof?

You search: "Has anyone actually recovered from this?"

You read testimonials. 
Watch recovery stories. 
Join communities.

Each success story gives you a hit of hope.

Then the doubts creep back:
"Maybe they're exaggerating."
"Maybe they didn't have it as bad as me."
"Maybe I'm the exception."

So you keep searching. More proof. More stories.

And still... nothing ever feels like enough.

There's a simple reason why...

Every search for reassurance tells your nervous system: "Something's still wrong."

If you were actually okay, you wouldn't need to keep checking. The act of searching confirms the very thing you're afraid of.

When I recovered, there were no YouTube channels. No communities. Zero testimonials. Just a couple of books of people who "claimed" to have recovered.

By today's standards, there was basically no proof it was even possible.

Yet I still recovered.

Then I decided to share my story publicly. 

People responded by saying: "You're unique. That won't be me."

So I brought them other success stories. Look at others who have recovered.

People said: "They're special cases. They didn't have my symptoms."

No matter how much proof I provided, the mind just moved the goalpost.

Because a survival brain can never achieve 100% certainty. 

It evolved to always leave a margin for doubt.

The moment you say "I just need to be sure," you've chosen a finish line your nervous system is incapable of reaching.

The breakthrough isn't eliminating doubt.

It's recognizing the habit of chasing certainty — and trusting the process anyway.

You move forward WITH the doubt. 
Not after it's gone.

Certainty doesn't bring peace.
Peace comes when you stop demanding certainty.

The doubt isn't the problem.
The chase is the trap.

And once you see it clearly, you can't unsee it.

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 581

Shaan Kassam

When "allowing anxiety" becomes another way to fight it

You've heard it a hundred times:

"Just allow the anxiety."
"Accept the sensations."
"Let it be there."

So you try. You REALLY try.

But instead of relief, you find yourself thinking:
"Am I allowing correctly?"
"Why is this still here?"
"What am I doing wrong?"

And suddenly, acceptance feels like another test you're failing.

Here's what's actually happening:
Your nervous system has turned "allowing" into a performance task.

Instead of simply being with what's there, part of you is constantly monitoring:
"Did it work yet?"
"Am I safe yet?"
"Is the symptom gone yet?"

Which means your system never actually receives a safety signal.

Because safety isn't the absence of symptoms.

It's the absence of monitoring for danger.

So the very act of trying to allow becomes another danger-check behavior.

The thing you're using to heal... is keeping you stuck.

The pattern:
Hope → Effort → Monitoring → Disappointment → Self-blame → Collapse

If this feels familiar, I want you to know:

You're not failing at allowing.

There's a protective part of you trying to do recovery "right" so you never have to suffer again.

But healing isn't optimization.

It's the surrender of optimization.

Here's the reframe:
You don't allow to get rid of symptoms.
You allow because you're no longer treating them as danger.
Acceptance isn't a technique you perform. It's what naturally happens when your nervous system stops treating normal sensations as threats.

The truth:

Monitoring blocks safety
Comparison poisons trust
You are not behind
You don't need to fix yourself

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 467

Shaan Kassam

Healing your nervous system doesn't require more tools or perfect execution.

It requires understanding what's actually true.

I have a bunch of great resources on the healing journey on Instagram. It's also the easiest way for me to connect with you.

Send me a follow:
www.instagram.com/shaan_kassam/

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