Lauren Ostrowski Fenton

It is what it is

What if we allowed ourselves to fully experience reality in all its rawness—the beauty, the pain, and the everyday moments?

Lauren Ostrowski Fenton
Aug 31, 2025


The picture below is yet another one of my thinking chairs…

Good morning, my friend

I am freezing! And sitting in my late mum's chair, and you know what happens when I sit in this chair? Yep,

I think... and I think some more...Today I felt a little bit about the unfairness of life and how life ‘should’ be,

and then I brought myself back into the present moment and reminded myself

It is what it is
‘It is what it is”

What if ...what if we tried to ease our grip on the idea of

“How things should be”?

What if we allowed ourselves to fully experience reality in all its rawness—the beauty, the pain, and the everyday moments?

When we can pause, breathe, and engage with life without any defences, we discover a freedom we never realised existed. This isn’t the freedom of escaping our circumstances, but rather the freedom found in being present. Being in this blessed moment! It’s the freedom of no longer battling against reality.

Confronting what ‘is’ can lead us to a profound sense of peace.

Don't you think? How is it for you? How do you cope with the raw reality of life?

I would love to hear from you....

Tornados
It’s a freezing morning here in South Australia, and yesterday we experienced some tornado winds, which was quite an interesting experience for me...

I was editing in my little Zen room (I'll just have to show this to you! It is so tiny and so so cute like a teeny weeny shoe cupboard- let me know if you would like a peek) when I stepped out to make a quick coffee and noticed that the outside chairs had vanished!

Gone~
I couldn’t help but wonder where they had gone. After chatting with Adrian on the phone, who had braved the storm on the way to work, I learned about the mini tornado that had occurred while I was being all Zen.

Later in the day, on the way to the gym, I saw many trees down across the road. The dark skys were just beautiful...

Even though it’s bone-deep cold, I do find the rains and winds so beautiful from my vantage point atop this hill.


Something personal...
Listen, friends, I'd like to share something a little personal with you... I'm sorry for not reaching out more regularly. I want to be honest with you: I have been facing a few challenges over the last two years... you know, those roadblocks life throws at you just when you think everything is going to be okay? You've got a finishing line in sight, and just as you're nearing the end, something in life goes hideously wrong. Well, that happened recently.

Do you relate?

And once more, I'm in the 'get back up' stage... oh, how I know that stage so well!

Have you recently experienced the ‘get back up stage’? And how did you go? How did you cope? Any gems of wisdom to share?

Anyway, I've been focused on my work lately, and I’m now employed as a crisis counsellor. I genuinely enjoy the work. However, it is never pleasant to hear people's sad stories. It’s nice to be part of a team and involved in helping another person. I need to do that; I need to help. I have also planned to return to university to pursue my master’s degree in social work. I hold a master’s in counselling, but I want to pursue an additional master’s to acquire more skills in social justice. I would like to learn more about how I can make a positive impact.

How are our cats?

Thanks for asking! The cats are doing well, Ruth is thriving, and the horses are happy, too. I'll add some cute pics...

How are my children? I have been experiencing an empty nest for the last couple of years, and no, I don't like it... But life does that to you sometimes. Doesn't it? After all, we ultimately parent to release our children into life rather than own them and anchor them to our apron strings. I feel so privileged to be involved in my children's lives. And yes, I would have loved for them to live with me forever, but I also understand that their time has come to explore the world and find out more about themselves. I’ve been speaking regularly with my girls, which is such a joy. But I do miss them. Honestly, if I had my choice, I would live next door to all of them, but I understand that part of life is making our own journey and figuring out how we can uniquely help others in our own right, apart from our role as parents.

And just as my children are growing, so i am ageing....61 years just around the corner...Gee, that snuck up on me!

How do you feel about ageing? Do you embrace ageing or do you find it challenging, and why?

To me, my age is not merely a measure of the years I've lived, but a testament to the resilience I've built through each challenge I've faced. Like the trees that bend in the wind, I, too, grow stronger in the storms of life.

Ok, ok, where have Laurens ‘live streams’ gone?
Yes, I know I have stopped my ‘lives’, and this is the reason why...

YouTube is my primary source of income. And yes, of course, I love creating content, but I also do it to make a living now.

And here is the crunch...’Ba Bow’

Some viewers REALLY(understatement) didn't like the mix of meditation and live sessions in their YouTube feed, so they have been unsubscribing...,

So I am going to move my live streams to Substack(Yes, it's free, but saying that, I may at a later stage ass paid courses) and keep my YouTube purely and simply for meditation. Substack is a friendly community for sharing stories, audio, and live streaming that fosters a personal and intimate experience.

I would love you to join. Here is the link:

substack.com/@laurenostrowskifenton

Thank you for being part of this journey with me!

With love,

Lauren x

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1 hour ago | [YT] | 11

Lauren Ostrowski Fenton

Hi dear friends! I woke up this morning feeling under the weather with a cold and blocked ears. I am sitting here in my mother's chair, attempting to edit content.

It’s freezing outside, and I was worried because one of the cats didn’t come in overnight. Thankfully, we found her earlier this morning! I couldn’t help but feel incredibly grateful when Bethany strolled through the door at 1:30 AM, utterly unfazed by the whole night.

So, it got me thinking: I felt victorious once she nonchalantly walked in....what a blessed relief

What small victory have you celebrated recently that brought you joy? I’d love to hear your stories!


Comment below and let's focus on the little wins and gifts in life...and it's a blessing to be able to share here!

Love Lauren
PS only days left in our August counselling special laurenostrowskifenton.simplybook.me/v2/

PSS, the picture is of Miles, not naughty Bethany

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2 weeks ago | [YT] | 84

Lauren Ostrowski Fenton

Hi dear friends,

I had a lovely counselling session yesterday morning with a beautiful soul, and it really effected me....it got me thinking about my content.

While I generally incorporate elements of CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), which focuses on changing negative thought patterns and behaviours, and ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), which emphasises accepting thoughts and feelings while committing to personal values, ...

A less stimulating approach ...a systematically longer....could be beneficial, especially before bed.

The chapter headings aare really useful too in case you likle a partciuar part....

Playlist: I am going to make these into a playlist

So we will have the CBT genre and these longer, simpler ones....

So, for those of you who have experienced trauma or just want something simpler, I’ve created a new video and a new genre of video content.

I’ve included chapter headings to make it easier for you to navigate; there are three chapters in total. This content is low stimulus, more comforting with larger gaps between the words.

I would greatly appreciate ...love your feedback, as I plan to create more of these and compile them into a playlist for you.

The importance of focusing on a body scan without any other mindful distractions, aside from physically releasing and relaxing, is that it allows us to switch off.

I genuinely want to hear your thoughts on this approach.

I think both styles serve important purposes in mindful health and mental well-being.

On a lighter note, Adrian has been out looking for rocks, and the cats are lounging around.

Yes, it’s still cold, but I’m cosy in my little recording room with the heater at my feet. I do love my little weeny studio!

Seriously, i need your feedback here...I love Bessel van der Kolk's work and I think it can give us the space to resolve and clarify when the meditation is simple.

I hope you’re all doing well, and I would love to get your feedback!

Waiting......still waiting.....standing on one foot.....hopping.... xxxx

Love always,
Lauren

PS

Here is the structure:

🧘‍♀️ **3-Hour Deep Sleep Meditation | Full Body Scan, Relaxation, and Gentle Night Affirmations**

Welcome to your sanctuary of tranquillity. In this 3-hour deep sleep meditation, you’ll embark on a calming journey designed to help you relax deeply, unwind from the day, and embrace a restful night’s sleep.

**🔹 Part 1: Body Scan Relaxation (0–30 min)**
We begin by guiding you through a gentle body scan, encouraging you to release tension and connect with your breath. As you close your eyes and focus on your body, you'll find yourself sinking deeper into relaxation, with soothing prompts that help you feel safe and supported.

**🔹 Part 2: Breathing Meditation with Music (30–90 min)**
Transitioning into a serene breathing meditation, you’ll be invited to simply notice your breath, allowing it to anchor you in the present moment. With soft ambient music accompanying your journey, this section helps to deepen your sense of calm and stillness.

**🔹 Part 3: Gentle Sleep Affirmations (90–180 min)**
As the meditation flows into gentle sleep affirmations, you’ll hear soothing phrases designed to promote peace and self-acceptance. Each affirmation is repeated softly, creating a comforting rhythm that encourages you to surrender to sleep and embrace the stillness of the night.

Take this time for yourself to recharge and rejuvenate. Whether you're dealing with stress, anxiety, or simply need a moment of peace, this meditation is here for you.

**✨ Remember to like, subscribe, and share your experience in the comments! Your feedback is invaluable as I continue to create content that supports your journey to relaxation and well-being.**

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 7

Lauren Ostrowski Fenton

Dear friends, Lauren here

How's your meditation going? How's life?

I hope you are ok?? It is an incredibly freezing day in South Australia. I thought I'd share some pictures with you. I'm nestled in the corner of my mother's chair in a tiny room, which I love, with the heater at my feet


..aaaah cozy cozy! The cats are curled up outside. My dear Miles and Bethany( we also have two others)

I am excited to share a special offer for August that I believe could benefit you or someone you know.

As we navigate through life's challenges, having a supportive space to explore our thoughts and feelings can make a significant difference.

To encourage more individuals to prioritise their mental health, I am offering a **30% discount on all counselling sessions** throughout August.

To take advantage of this special offer, simply use the coupon code **AUGUST** when booking your appointment here

laurenostrowskifenton.simplybook.me/v2/

Whether you're dealing with stress, anxiety, relationship issues, or just need someone to talk to, I am here to help. Together, we can work towards achieving your personal goals and enhancing your overall well-being.

Please don't hesitate to contact me if you have any questions or require assistance with scheduling your session. I look forward to the opportunity to support you on your journey.
laurenostrowskifenton@gmail.com

Warm regards,

Lauren

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1 month ago | [YT] | 127

Lauren Ostrowski Fenton

Hey there, my friend Lauren here, geewhiz, I'm struggling with the cold here.



While battling the cold I have been trying some different content on Instagram, something a little bit more authentic, probably due to menopause, ageing, and just icky sticky plain life. It kind of blindsides you, doesn't it?

If you have a moment, I would just love love love it if you could check it out and comment on this piece I did while sitting in the cold in my car.

I'd love to hear your feedback yep, i said that word 'feedback'

A little heads up… Its different to what you are used to.....I swear! hope that's okay....


www.instagram.com/p/DLHb21SCu97/

2 months ago | [YT] | 90

Lauren Ostrowski Fenton

Dear friend

It's Lauren, it's absolutely freezing here in South Australia, Brrrrrr
...and we've just come out of the longest drought we've ever experienced and bam, just like that, it's cold as all cold.

Adrian has just lit a toasty warm fire, and it is so warm and cosy, so I thought I'd hold a fire sale with a limited time offer of a 20% off discount on counselling sessions.

We are about to snuggle under a rug with the three rescue cats, who adopted us when they were dumped here.


I understand that life can be challenging at times, and there are moments when we simply need someone to talk to. I get it.

We have issued a new coupon - Cozy Fire sale coupon with a discount 20.00%, and it is valid from to . Use it yourself or give it to friends.

Redeemable coupon code: F7k0hZL
Book here: laurenostrowskifenton.simplybook.me/v2/#book

I look forward to seeing you again!

Lauren

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