Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert who helps women heal from codependency and create more fulfilling relationships with boundaries. Through her work and 25+ years of experience, she has empowered thousands of women to stop over-giving and to be authentically seen and heard.
Check out Terri's three books:
Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free: boundarybossbook.com
The Boundary Boss Workbook: boundarybossworkbook.com
Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: hfcbook.com
Terri's signature course is Boundary Boss Bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp
Instagram: www.instagram.com/terricole/
Community: terricole.com/tcm
Podcast: itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-terri-cole-show/id…
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Terri Cole
Do you think it's possible for anyone to be *too* nice?
In my personal and professional experience, the answer is yes- and being "too" nice is not nice at all.
When we're "just trying to be nice" by not telling people the truth about how we feel, we're actually being controlling and dishonest. I'll be talking about this next week, so stay tuned!
And if this is you, no judgment- I was there in my 20s. Eventually, I had to face the fact that I was hiding behind the excuse of wanting to be "nice" to avoid having hard conversations. But that didn't give me the healthy relationships I actually wanted. Sustainable, fulfilling relationships require truth. ❤️
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What is your favorite way to journal (if you do)? Do you have a routine, a ritual, or a special practice?
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I love this message from @justfrogetaboutit on Instagram, inspired by her mom.
Growing up, my own mother used to take me down the “then what?” highway when I was worried about something.
For example, in seventh grade, my mom asked me, “What’s happening with the boy you like?” I replied, “Nothing. I’m not saying anything. What if he doesn’t like me?”
“And then what would happen?” she probed.
“Then I would feel rejected and humiliated,” to which she again asked, “And then what would happen?”
“I would probably call my friends and see if they could get together so I could feel better.”
When I reached the end of the “then what?” highway, I usually realized the things I felt were life or death (especially in my young life) were not.
How do YOU deal with worry?
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What is one manipulation tactic you wish you had known to look out for? Spread the word in the comments!
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Maybe you know you are in the wrong relationship, even though nothing is ‘wrong’ with your partner. Or maybe you are in the wrong job, career, organization, or friendship.
It feels terrible, right? Like you need a concrete reason to leave, or like it would be easier if the person or situation was downright awful.
The truth is, there does not need to be anything ‘wrong’ with someone or something for it to be wrong for you.
Does this resonate? Drop a 👏 in the comments if it does.
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Did you know I was on We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon, Abby, and Amanda last week?! 🙌 I had the honor of recording TWO episodes with them and it was amazing. We've had such great feedback as many folks found it helpful. Just wanted to share in case you needed something else to listen to! (Just search for We Can Do Hard Things on your favorite podcast platform.) 💕
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Can you speak directly and honestly and voice your preferences, desires, limits, and deal breakers?
Creating and maintaining healthy boundaries is a life-changing art.
Kicking self-abandonment, deceit, denial, and resentment to the curb allows you to create a life based on joy, freedom, and genuine intimacy.
(Of course, please keep your safety in mind here. This only applies to emotionally safe and trustworthy relationships.)
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How manipulatable do you think you are?
Have you done research into common manipulation tactics so you know what to watch out for? Or do you project your positive traits onto others without any proof that they're actually like that?
In my latest video I'm going over the FOG (fear, obligation, and guilt) technique used by manipulative people, especially narcissists, so tune in if you're unfamiliar with it!
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How many of you can identify with being over-givers and high-functioning codependents who are exhausted and resentful?
I want to invite you to a free workshop I'm doing this Wednesday at 7 pm Eastern (replay available) on how to STOP over-giving, without the guilt, and how to get into recovery from high-functioning codependency 🙌 Come join me - link is in the comments.
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What does stepping into your power look like for you? 👇
Thanks to @onewordwellness on Instagram for this list ✏️
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