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Vanessa & Xander Marin | Sex Therapist

Hi! We’re Vanessa and Xander! We specialize in helping people stop feel so embarrassed about sex, and start having way more fun in the bedroom. We’ve been affectionately nicknamed “that sex couple” by our followers for our frank discussions of the modern challenges faced by modern couples.

Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist. She studied human sexuality at Brown University, has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured thousands of times by publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, Refinery29, New York Magazine, Rolling Stone, Buzzfeed, and many more. And Xander is a regular dude who left a cushy career in Tech once he realized it was more fun to talk about sex with his wife all day.

Together, we have the unique ability to make you laugh while giving you the courage to talk about sex and relationships in ways you never have before!

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Disappointing Sex? Here’s How to Bounce Back as a Couple

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EPISODE 205: Couples Coaching Session: How To Ask For More Even If You Don’t Know What You Want

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How to Say 'No' When You’re Tired & Battling an Uneven Mental Load

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EPISODE 204: Confessions Of An Overactive Bladder

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EPISODE 203: Is This Cheating? Part 2

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Shared 2 weeks ago

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EPISODE 202: Am I being defensive, or am I defending myself?

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EPISODE 201: Couples Coaching Session: They Love Each Other… So Why Does Their Sex Life Feel Stuck?

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200 Episodes Later: Let’s Get Personal! (Ask Us Anything)

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EPISODE 199: Am I The Asshole? Masturbation, Snooping, and Jealousy

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EPISODE 198: Stop Doing THIS If You Want More Sex (Initiation Fixes You Need to Know)

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EPISODE 197: Ask A Sex Therapist - Resentment, Sexual Frustration, And The Death Grip

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EPISODE 196: 90 Prompts to Transform Your Sex Life (We Answer Some Live!)

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Shared 1 month ago

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EPISODE 195: Giddyup, Cowgirl! Tips, Tricks, & Techniques For Maximum Pleasure

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EPISODE 194: What Your Partner Wishes You’d Stop Doing In The Bedroom Part 2

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EPISODE 193: The Things We Can’t Say In The Comments

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EPISODE 192: “Is This Normal?” Part 4 — Low Desire Husband, Never Had A Fight, & Baby Talk

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Shared 3 months ago

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EPISODE 191: Breaking Free From Purity Culture And Religious Shame

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EPISODE 190: Am I Being Reasonable Or Ridiculous?

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EPISODE 189: Can We Have A Fresh Start? Or Is It Too Late?

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EPISODE 188: Is Your Ultimatum Going To Work?

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Shared 4 months ago

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EPISODE 187: Am I The Asshole? The Holiday Edition Part 2

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Shared 4 months ago

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EPISODE 186: Period Sex, Internal Vs External Processors, & Queer In A Straight Relationship

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Shared 4 months ago

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EPISODE 185: How To Navigate Porn In Your Relationship

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Shared 4 months ago

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EPISODE 184: How To Get More Physical Intimacy From Your Partner

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Shared 4 months ago

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EPISODE 183: How To Get More Emotional Intimacy From Your Partner

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Shared 5 months ago

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EPISODE 182: “Help! I’m Not Into My Partner’s Fantasy!”

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EPISODE 181: A Brutally Honest Relationship Check-In

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Shared 5 months ago

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EPISODE 180: Smash Or Pass: We Try The Weirdest Women’s Magazines Sex Tips

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EPISODE 179: All Your Female Orgasm Questions: Answered!

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Shared 6 months ago

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EPISODE 178: Tie-Breakers: We Solve Your Relationship Standoffs

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Shared 6 months ago

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Trying Viral Positions (Part 28)

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EPISODE 177: Why You Should Try Mutual Masturbation And How To Do It

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HOT or NOT (Part 2)

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Can you explain Mental Load to my husband?

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Shared 6 months ago

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What if you're not in the mood when they initiate?

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EPISODE 176: Is This Cheating?

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Shared 6 months ago

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EPISODE 175: “Should I Put Up With This In The Bedroom?”

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Shared 7 months ago

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Trying Viral Positions (Part 27)

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Shared 7 months ago

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EPISODE 174: Ask Us Anything: Addressing All Of Your Assumptions

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Why you should use your finger

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Shared 7 months ago

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EPISODE 173: I’m Attracted To Someone Else, What Do I Do?

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EPISODE 172: Bring Sex Toys Into Your Bedroom (Without Making It Weird)

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What she really means when she says…

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Am I allowed to have connection to my Ex?

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Shared 7 months ago

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Is there someone better out there for me?

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Shared 7 months ago

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What do women really think about______? Part 2

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Shared 7 months ago

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EPISODE 170: What Do Women Really Think About ___? Part 2

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Shared 7 months ago

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EPISODE 171: Your Funniest Stories About Getting “The Talk”

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Shared 7 months ago

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Trying Viral Positions - Part 26

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Shared 8 months ago

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EPISODE 169: Is This Your Shit Or Mine? Part 2

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Shared 8 months ago

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Talking through your dogs after an argument

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Shared 8 months ago

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The Mental Hack To Improving Your Sex Life

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Shared 8 months ago

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EPISODE 168: Long Distance? How To Keep The Spark Alive

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Shared 8 months ago

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Just weird sex sounds...No laughing...

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Shared 8 months ago

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EPISODE 167: Should We Open Our Relationship?

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Shared 8 months ago

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How To Create More Privacy For Sex

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Shared 9 months ago

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Dog Vocabulary

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Shared 9 months ago

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Trying Viral Positions - Part 25

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Shared 9 months ago

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EPISODE 165: How To Actually Be Vulnerable With Your Partner

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Shared 9 months ago

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EPISODE 164: Why You Need To Flirt In Your Relationship And How To Do It

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Shared 9 months ago

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