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In fact, typing is in many cases more tiring than writing the same words. The fact that people choose to type rather than write is inseparable from the fact that people are forced to write as children to complete notes, homework, and to copy things as punishment, write self-critical essays, and so on.

1 week ago | [YT] | 0

poi

If children pretend to be weak, can they escape being spanked?
These are promising truancy tactics, aren't they? You must try them.

1 week ago | [YT] | 0

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If you have a store, you could put up a sign that says “Entry is automatically considered to be a belief that the statement ‘Even though this homework assignment is not in itself the most useful to you, you must still complete it in order to develop good habits and foster a sense of rules’ is bullshit. No one else will be served.”

如果你有个商店，你可以立个牌子，写上“进入自动视为相信‘尽管这项作业本身对你不是最有用的，但为了培养好习惯和培养规则意识，你仍然必须完成’的说法是胡说。其他人不予服务。”

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

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Children have the desire and urge to persuade the disciplinarian not to discipline them, and this desire and urge leads them to try to understand and even value the disciplinarian's point of view and expectations on themselves because this understanding and even valuing is theoretically part of persuading the other person, but for many children this persuasion never gets a chance to happen (because it leads to harsher reprimands and even punishments), and thus they are verbally punished more harshly for their desire to persuade and for the sensitivity to others' words of elevation. There are other times when these children hate the disciplinarian so much that they are not only afraid but unwilling to initiate a debate with the disciplinarian, but this does not stop their minds from seizing on the disciplinarian's views and expectations in order to persuade the disciplinarian in their fantasies, and does not stop their minds from being forced to punish themselves.

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

poi

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3 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

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Is the popularity of the concept of “superpowers” and the portrayal of grandiose scenes in arts and entertainment due to the fact that children hate those who discipline them and have violent fantasies that they blame themselves for and cannot express directly? That's how I feel about it myself.

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

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the freedom to feel pain without being punished

It is dangerous to say that teachers should pay attention to students’ feelings and psychology, because some teachers believe that stricter discipline will promote acceptance, or simply criticize, intimidate or even punish students for feeling bad — sometimes even when the students have no other disobedient behavior — claiming that being in a bad mood is a sign of not focusing on learning, trying to control students’ moods, whether out of the belief that such practices are beneficial to students’ “discipline”, obedience, academics, or out of the belief that such practices can make students feel better (but such practices are applied to students who may not choose to improve their mood through more scolding, threats or even punishment, and are applied to situations where such practices do not show effect), and sometimes claim and promote the “harmonious and unified state of life” of these two benefits.

1 month ago | [YT] | 0

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As a child, it can be difficult to deal with criticism. On the other side, “I” discipline him for his own good, which is an inherent moral advantage, while that “I” criticize him is much more difficult for him. Criticisms are also different, some criticisms are more simply telling him something and are emotionally trying to prevent him from feeling bad, some criticisms are not, those are more painful and make one feel deeply sorry for one’s own rebellion, while at the same time stirring up anger and rebellion and a lot of desperation and excuse-making and approval-seeking, while at the same time rejecting those excuses and those things in the self-protecting words and thoughts that appeal to a something of easier discipline.

They in turn will use these feelings of yours as evidence to criticize you for your vulnerability and further punish you, all the while asking you not to become aware of what you are actually feeling, lest you weaken the hold their words have on you through this awareness.

These emotions themselves are the things that make focusing on learning harder, and a reason why people seek escape in entertainment, but their solution to this seems to be to criticize your vulnerability as a way of asking you to focus on learning. “Turning stress into motivation”, as if they’re even going to rape you for your freedom to not “turn stress into motivation” and criticize you for not being optimistic enough.

This is not a ploy that children should have to endure, and many parents don’t realize that this type of thing is happening to their children. The conscious use of these types of methods to discipline children is a secret in the hands of some teachers and parents and not fully known by other adults.

2 months ago | [YT] | 0

poi

What kind of discipline is less painful is of course up to him, and I can't say for sure. But it is worth noting, and perhaps counterintuitively, that verbal punishment may even be more painful and less efficient than non-verbal, non-punitive discipline.

2 months ago | [YT] | 0

poi

If someone reprimands you to a degree that doesn't count as informing or reminding, but makes you feel forced, or asks you to hold difficult positions or copy things as punishment, or asks you to write self-criticisms, run away, or at least don't obey. You should see how much physical force they actually use on you, and whether your parents will actually treat you as you think they will.

2 months ago | [YT] | 1