Melanie Tonia Evans

My Personal Plans for 2022.

As a Thriver I have learned to “listen” to and follow inner cues. I don’t need to know “why”, “how” or “when”. The next step is not important. What is important is simply following my intuition, and then let my Soul and Source work out the rest.

Which is such a step up from my previous “control freak” having to know the outcomes, in order to make any decision.

I have been inwardly directed to sell my home.

I don’t know where I am going. I know I feel more drawn to nature, minimalizing my life, and organic living, and moving away from where I am presently living.

Will this mean a rental in another state?

Could it mean a move overseas if it became possible?

Will it mean a mobile campervan to explore different areas while I work on the road? I don’t know yet.

I know what I want for the home and the terms that I want, and I know this will happen when it happens and will all fall into place.

I love it when I can take my hands off the steering wheel and just follow my gut … Source works it all out better than I ever could. I do my part, and the Universal mechanics do the rest.

Here is a picture of a small Odyssey boat my partner and I have purchased to enjoy some fishing. We will take it with us no matter where we go, or how we travel. It’s so fun.

Mel xo ❤️ 😎

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3 years ago | [YT] | 206

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BY HEALING WITH NARP* (bit.ly/3qLkH6w), LOUISE GOT BACK ON HER FEET AND IS NOW THE PROVIDER IN EVERY REGARD FOR HERSELF AND HER SON

If you asked me how I felt this time last year, I would tell you, "alone and lost in the dark". This was before I even knew about NARP. This was my genuine Soul Truth and it's no wonder, after living in fear and pain for most of my life.

I had amazing parents but with narcissistic boyfriends and my ex husband who was abusive for 8 years, it amounted to me being in a lot of suffering.

I call my ex abusive because I don't really care if he was a covert or an overt narcissist or a Cluster B because what "he" is isn't important to me. It's what "I" am that is important to me and that's what being a Thriver is essentially about.

I am my own provider in every regard. I am leading the way for my son, who I know one day is going to Thrive as well, regardless of his father, or anyone else. I could never have said this 1 year ago and this is what NARP has done for me.

I met my ex at a vulnerable time. I wasn't looking for love but his friends and people around him said what a good man he was, he played cricket, was a wine merchant and drove a nice car and he was also older than me so I thought he might "look after me".

There were the odd red flags and looking back I can see that my intuition was screaming out to me, "get out", but I made the usual excuses because I thought I could pour love on him and he would change, but you cannot fix them.

So, I was just Alice going down the rabbit hole. My doctor diagnosed me with depression and for a while I seemed to improve as did the relationship. With my therapist's help the depression all but disappeared. Then my father passed away. Leaving my ex in full control, as he thought.

I closed down my father's company which, although I was grieving for the loss of my father so much at the time, empowered me greatly as I realised how much I could achieve. This uplift of spirits was a big clash with an abusive partner.

One day he was physically abusive and he had no apology or remorse, but blame and excuses, especially that he was "only joking". I met with the local Domestic Abuse Team and I opened up to my mum. They told me to make a safe exit plan and go.

For a month I planned my exit, took all the documents I needed and my boy's things. My ex was so shocked when he came home and found I had gone. He texted me, "Is this a joke?" – so I guess I was the one that had the last laugh!

I knew all along that I needed to be there for "me" and more compassionately and lovingly than I ever had been. Then I learned about "feelings" and "validation". Then I found out "how" to do that and "how" to heal myself. That's when I found Mel!

With NARP I can now locate, recognise and release (shift) all the trauma out of inside me, to set myself free – as well as being with and connecting to "myself" in that compassionate and loving place.

Not only am I free from fear, I am connected to myself and healed from it. NARP helps me connect to myself and a higher Source that loves me, nourishes me and protects and guides me infinitely, that my Soul was so badly in need of.

You can't think your way out of trauma, you have to be with yourself and locate the wound, recognise it, draw it out and give yourself that love to start with and then bring in more healing.

But you must be brave. Healing is not always easy and it can take a lot of inner "work". The bravest thing you can do is turn inside, but compared to how my life "was" I know that's what I'd decide, every time.

The miraculous thing that happens is the more we heal, the more we connect, the easier healing becomes and you can go through life, rather than life happening to you. Good results miraculously start showing up for you as well.

Now I have re-built my own Massage and Beauty Therapy Business, even after the ex tried to destroy it and it's doing even better than before, even my old clients have been able to find me again.

I go to Pilates and have made lovely acquaintances, warm and friendly. I meet more and more lovely, warm people and don't actually even come across the other sort very much. When I occasionally do, I can sense them from a mile off and completely detach, without even thinking. I don't need to look for "red flags".

The healings don't just heal one wound, they heal many, that's the miracle of them. So life is coming through more and more in abundance. Yes, my life has ups and downs like the Mountains, but "that's life". That is the way of the light in harmony together and I am not lost and alone and in the dark anymore and never will be again.

Don't be in the dark, there is a way out. Be at one with the Light and Stars, like me.

*Let NARP work it's magic on you too. Click on this link to discover what it can do for you - bit.ly/3qLkH6w.

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My Nature Break - I love the river at my back doorstep! The Christmas break was a fantastic time to soak up some sun, swim and enjoy time out.

I forgot how good it was to “just be”.

With all the MTE commitments as well as coping with the challenges in our world I really needed this “re-set”.

I find the water warmer, not as sticky and there is no sand and extreme wind to contend with, as on the beach front. It’s also private. Despite being a public personality I enjoy my own company, and being alone with my thoughts, or just with my partner or a few select people.

Maybe that is because the energy of serving many people (which I love as well) requires that space and tranquillity?

I hope that you too have been able to get some space to breathe, re-group and come home to yourself, nature, and Source.

2022 is a “6 Universal year”. As a previous numerologist I have a lot of hope. The 4 year of 2020 was one of hardness, restriction and struggle, the 5 year of 2021 was one of sudden change, disruption and confusion. 6 Universal years lend the energy of resolution, love, sense, and solution.

Bring it on I say … yet I know that as the divine spark of Source that we all are, and all hold within us, it is our Light from within that will heal and spread this Light throughout the world.

It’s our most divine task.

I look forward to creating that together in 2022. Our New personal selves and Earth of Oneness, Harmony and Love.

Mel xo 😘 ❤️

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3 years ago | [YT] | 208

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Hi Thrivers, I get questions about attracting new healthy intimate partners and dating ALL the time! I LOVE this topic because it is very dear to my heart.

The first question I commonly get is – “How do I know it is time to date?”

My answer to that is NOT what you may think it is – it’s not because you feel lonely or have a yearning for someone in your life. In fact, if you just go off those feelings, you could get yourself into an unfulfilling, troubling or even toxic relationship.

Let me explain my story to you to help you understand …

After narcissistic abuse, I felt lonely and wanted to meet someone at a certain point.

Yet, a horrible horror was infiltrating the entire experience when I started dating. I wasn’t enjoying having coffees and dinners with men who were “not my type”.

When I discovered that men were “wrong” or even narcissistic, I was thrown into despair, thinking, “If this is all that is on offer, this entire experience is terrible!”

I decided to just stay at home, not venture out into dating ever again and hoped that the right man could present himself in my life one day.

Yet … that day was NOT coming!

One day, it dawned on me … Starting with, if I wanted to achieve anything else in my life, like great health or business success, I would actually put time and effort into it. I didn’t just sit on my couch and think, “I’ll have a great, healthy physique”, or “I can create the mission of my dreams as my career!”

I KNEW I had to date!

HOW had I achieved success in other areas of my life … and how COULD I apply that to dating?

Then the penny dropped … I was trying to date as “empty”, “alone”, and “waiting to get someone to HAVE a life.”

Of course, because of Quantum Law – so within, so without – anyone who had been turning up was leaving me feeling, “I’m empty, alone, and unfulfilled in my life.”

This was when I got totally committed to NOT date until I dated myself. I became very determined to love being in my body, being in life and engaged in life – instead of relying on a man for that (I had always done that previously).

I kept doing Quantum Freedom Healing on my blocks regarding feeling empty, alone and unfulfilled, and then started expanding outwards. I engaged in healthy, beautiful activities that I enjoyed doing as a single person, travelling, time in nature, adventures, entertainment and connecting with like-minded people.

I filled my own Soul. I gloriously GOT my own life! And LOVED it!

That started to grant me confidence … TICK – previous neediness and bad choices were nowhere near the possibility that they used to be!

Now … I knew this ONE was big as well … HATING dating! Wanting to just get it over and done with, not having to tolerate schmucks, just meet Mr Right and sail off into the sunset!

COMPLETELY the wrong vibe to have!

The “need” to quickly meet Mr Right created precisely the “need” and never Mr Right.

The hating dating continually gave me the experience of hating dating – in fact, it had so far only ever been traumatic!

Okay … I had to decide to adore dating! How could I do that?

By turning it into an incredible love journey of healing my triggers, creating my evolution and making it the most fascinating experience in boundary creation and personal development that I possibly could!

It was no longer about GETTING Mr Right. It was about me becoming the woman who could generate and maintain a healthy, divinely connected relationship of attraction, kindness, care and integrity.

I didn’t want to meet Mr Right immediately. Instead, I WANTED the opportunity to heal, grow and Thrive in my relationship to myself in the love arena, and to never again be fearful, perturbed or hand my power away with men whilst still being a feminine woman with an open heart.

I have a beautiful man in my life right now, who I met through internet dating.

When I met him, I had had 10 dates in a week (I’m really good at identifying and creating healthy meetups quickly and fearlessly), and every man was awesome.

Lovely, quality men and my guy just happened to stand out amongst them.

I knew he was worth investigating further because I was clear on my values and who I was looking for. We dated respectfully platonically for months before we committed to a relationship together. While we were connecting in love, we became best friends.

What a difference from my previous love relationships …

There is so MUCH more I could share with you to help you – but the post would be TOO long. Instead, I have more in this brand new Article -

How Do You Choose A Healthy Partner Next Time? - bit.ly/33WmjRT

Suffice to say, I TRULY LOVE dating! And I know many other Thrivers I have helped with this who do too!

I just want to give you all some hope; there is more than hope with dating and finding a healthy love partner when you heal, learn how and go on this incredible journey!

(There is much more to this, but I wanted to give you some inspiration now!)

Cheers to True Thriver Love.

Mel xo

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There are many telltale signs that someone is a narcissist but 11 of them really stand out.

Using all sorts of deflections and diversions to dodge taking responsibility for their behaviour is incredibly common with people who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

How this manifests is as a refusal to be accountable.

And, because this person is not accountable, responsible or genuinely remorseful about how they hurt other people or the fact that they are committing pathological, manipulative and even criminal acts, they do not learn from their mistakes.

A narcissist simply does not grow up and become responsible. The same problems, the same behaviours and the same catastrophic effects continue to happen to them and other people in their lives.

If you’re with somebody like this, you will be tearing your hair out trying to get them to realise what they have done and apologise and make amends for it.

And you’ll be blown away regarding how this person continues to re-offend.

Any apology comes as a false apology. It comes way too late, and it may be used when nothing else will work to try to keep you hooked as narcissistic supply.

And when an apology does come, it will usually come with invalidating statements like, “I said I’m sorry! What more do you want?”

Which seriously is not an apology at all.

These 11 signs are serious and I know that if you are dealing with a narcissist in your life you will relate to so much of it.

blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-11-telltale-signs..…

And … so that you can get to the bottom of all of this to understand if what you’re dealing with is mild, moderate or really, really extreme abuse, you can take a quick quiz to get your answer!

🔎👉 TAKE THE QUIZ- melanietoniaevans.com/quiz 👈🔍

Much love xo ❤️

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Does a narcissist ever regret their behaviour?

Yes, a narcissist can regret their behaviour, but only ever in the context of it being only about the narcissist and their agenda.

Do they ever atone for what they’ve done?

A narcissist will not genuinely atone for what they’ve done.

They can feign genuine remorse and even apologise (fleetingly), but this is to reinstate the personal agenda, which sadly has nothing to do with care, compassion or love for others.

Don't be fooled and find out the answer the question here:

Do Narcissists Ever Regret Their Behaviour? - bit.ly/3AkiYYR

I hope that this has helped clear things up for you and made you realise that wanting a narcissist to be regretful, remorseful and atone in ways that have anything to do with you, is as fruitless as trying to play fetch with a crocodile.

The narcissist simply does not have the inner resources, or brain wiring, to comply.

What is vitally important for you is to let go of needing the narcissist to atone for you to heal. By focusing on them and not working on healing your woundedness of what went down, you are enslaving yourself to your own trauma prison indefinitely.

I can show you another way, a much better way to start healing and breaking free from this prison and narcissistic person, today.

To access this please register for the next free Healing Webinar: bit.ly/35146mE

Much love xo ❤️

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Before narcissistic abuse, I did not realise that self-love and self-peace had been conditional for me. I strove for these emotional prizes for decades. I did all sorts of therapy, spiritual practices, read countless books and did a ton of training and seminars trying to find “the answer” to my quest to get self-love and self-peace.

When the narcissist came into my life, I thought I had finally found peace and love. He seemed to be everything I had been waiting for to “complete me”. (We know how that story goes!)

Suffice to say, whilst being in the throes of narcissistic abuse, I suffered torment that I believed I would never experience. When I looked in the mirror into my own eyes, the shame and self-disgust I felt were mind-blowing.

I was shocked at how dehumanised I had become.

Thriver Recovery became a daily practice of reversing my self-abandonment, self-rejection, self-hatred, and self-criticism into a devoted self-partnering love affair.

I learned how to accept myself as I was - broken, traumatised and shattered. I was finally putting the value on my Soul and my dedication to healing it before any value based on my image, achievements, financial position or status. I knew, finally, that my relationship with myself was firmly between my Soul and me and God/Source/Creation.

As I shifted out the horrific traumas that had been obscenely (yet perfectly) triggered up to the surface due to narcissistic abuse and connected with my own Soul and Source, I started to feel a warmth, a love, a comfort that I had never known before.

No longer was I looking outwards at false Sources for my sense of peace or love. For the first time, I knew that it had been inside me organically (when I removed my trauma) all along.

Now, as a Thriver, I have a deep, unshakeable sense of inner love and peace that just IS. If I had not had to turn inwards to meet, release and reprogram those traumas that had held me in the illusion of needing “something” to be love and peace and if I had not come home to my True Self, I would never have experienced the love and peace I do now.

On the other side of this, I know that you will also know exactly what I mean.

Become a Thriver and start your own journey home to your True Self - bit.ly/3qMB7eM.

Much love xo ❤️

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We all know narcissists lie. Yeah, we do. In fact, they’ve been lying their entire life and they’re incredibly good at lying, even to the point of believing their own lies.

What does this mean? It means that you could fall for the lies and suffer enormously. And I don’t want that to happen to you, because my work is all about empowering you against narcissists.

So in this video, I’m going to give you the narcissist playbook, the seven most dangerous lies that they tell you to ensnare you, mine you for narcissistic supply and make your life a living hell.
Beware! The 7 Most Dangerous Lies Narcissists Will Tell You - bit.ly/3GRCdvh
Start your Thriver Recovery Journey with this free 16 Day Recovery Course - bit.ly/3qX0ieZ and find clarity, validation and a fast, effective way to heal from narcissistic abuse.

Much love xo ❤️

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Narcissists are incredibly immature when it comes to new relationships. They idealise this person as the new source of narcissistic supply.

It's common for the narcissist to display photos on social media of how 'loved up' they are. 'Instant relationship' is the narcissist's motto.

Narcissists can even be so cruel as to contact you and tell you how wonderful this new person in their life is.

Who does that?

Only someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder could have such a lack of empathy.

What is this about?

I have no doubt, in some cases, it is to punish the ex-partner. Or maybe it is to prove to the world, 'I am a great partner no matter what he or she says'.

And, of course, it is because a narcissist without narcissistic supply has to be alone with their own self-annihilating critic – which is their worse possible nightmare.

Naturally, the trauma from being replaced with 'new supply' is devastating for you. It's one of the worst things anyone can experience.

It is usual for people who have been narcissistically abused to be no-where near starting another relationship.

Before a Thriver Healing, some people have been sworn off relationships for decades due to the trauma that badly impacted them.

Discover how to release the addiction to the narcissist, eliminate your abuse symptoms and feel joy, inspiration and hope for the future with the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program - bit.ly/3nHpoME.

Much love xo ❤️

3 years ago | [YT] | 25

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I know many of your beautiful Thrivers are animal lovers! How quickly our fur babies grow up.

I wanted to give you an update on Chloe and Ruby, my beautiful girls, and share some photos with you. So far, they are not public personalities like Tiggy was (Tiggy LOVED being in Thriver TTV’s!), but they give so much joy and fun.
When they were little, it was virtually impossible to tell them apart. Ruby had her red collar and Chloe her pink one as that was the only way often you could tell who was who.
Now they are easily distinguishable not just from appearance but also behaviour.
Chloe is larger, fluffier, a richer colour and more dramatic. We call her “our actress” because she is always looking for attention, rolling and squeaking (she doesn’t really meow) and swishing her incredible tail (which looks like a racoon tail) wanting to be picked up and then put down, and squawking and performing the entire time.
She makes us laugh! If anyone new comes to the house she jumps on a chair (or the table even though she is not allowed) in front of them and demands attention.
She is naughty, rebellious, and complex – and so loving.
She will purposefully do what she is not allowed to do, and just look at you, and only get down or stop it when you are close enough with the water pistol. It’s all a big game to her!
Ruby is not as “out there” as Chloe. She is smaller and more reserved. Ruby is self-contained and doesn’t need to be the centre of attention. She has a louder croaky voice and this funny way of lying down with her legs hanging out the back (even straight out behind her) like a dog.
Does anyone else have a cat that does this – none of my previous cats every have!
She wants attention only when she wants attention, yet always talks to us and is the one waiting for us when we get home. Ruby is nowhere near as naughty and defiant as her sister.
For many of us after losing a beloved pet it takes time to get a pet again. We have to grieve and heal and honour our previous pet and wait for the right time. I did this. I knew and decided I would know when the time was right. I did know, and I acted and I feel so blessed that I did.
It really is possible to love again after heartbreak … with all the species in our life.
Angels are everywhere, including fluffy creatures.

Much love Mel, Chloe and Ruby xox ❤️ 🐱 ❤️ 🐱

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