Briana MacWilliam

Which book cover do you like best? A or B? The title is "Secure in The Spark: A Spiritual Path To Healing Attachment Wounds."

*These are not final mockups, they just asked me for some moody inspiration.

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Briana MacWilliam

Growing up, many of us learned to override the signals in our body. Sit still. Be nice. Smile. Do not make a scene. Be agreeable so everything stays calm.

Somewhere along the way, we lost the quiet conversation with our inner knowing. We started outsourcing decisions to experts, to partners, to what “looks good on paper.” We confused belonging with approval. We mistook safety for silence.

Here is the reframe that changed my life...

Your body never stopped speaking. It has been whispering yes, no, not yet all along. You might just be fluent in everyone else’s language and out of practice with your own.

Human Design gave me a compassionate map for coming home. It gave me words for things I had always felt but could not name. It helped me see I was not broken. I was simply built to make decisions from the body, not the head.

On Monday, Nov 10 at 1:30 PM CT, I am teaming up with Dr. Karen Curry Parker for a free live, experiential webinar to help you reconnect with your inner authority. We will explore:

👉How your Design points you back to what is true for you
👉Why body awareness makes boundaries simpler and cleaner
👉How to read your yes, no, and not yet without overthinking
👉What to do when you feel torn between head and heart

We will teach, then practice. Bring a notebook and water. You will leave with steps you can use the same day.

Join me and Dr. Karen Curry Parker for a FREE live training on Human Design on

Monday, Nov 10 @ 1:30 PM CT

REGISTER HERE: 👉 quantumhumandesign.com/wisdom-of-your-body/

-Learn how your chart reveals your inner authority
-Discover how to read your body’s YES, NO, and NOT YET
-Reclaim self-trust and better boundaries

REGISTER HERE: 👉 quantumhumandesign.com/wisdom-of-your-body/

#HumanDesign #AttachmentHealing #Boundaries #SomaticHealing #SecureInLove

1 month ago | [YT] | 21

Briana MacWilliam

What if your boundaries aren't a betrayal, but a prayer for deeper love?


For a long time, I believed that being “easy to love” meant being easy to please.

I thought if I had needs, it meant I was needy.

If I spoke up, it meant I was difficult.

If I set a boundary, it meant I was pushing people away.

But here's what I’ve come to understand:
✨ Boundaries are not walls to keep love out, they’re doors that only open for the kind of love that’s meant to stay.

So here’s a new way I’ve been thinking about it, a reframe I return to when I’m tempted to shrink, silence, or override myself just to “keep the peace”:



“I choose to honor my truth, even when it challenges old stories about love.
My needs are not a burden—they are a compass guiding me back to what’s real.
I will no longer override my intuition to keep peace that costs me my peace.
The love I welcome now must nourish my soul, not ask it to disappear.”

Let that land.

This kind of love—the one that honors your whole self—might feel unfamiliar, but it’s where your healing lives. 💗


💭 What’s one boundary that’s actually a love letter to your future self?


👇 Tell me below or tag someone who’s learning this too.


🔁 Save this for when you need to remember your truth.

2 months ago | [YT] | 70

Briana MacWilliam

What happened when you finally set a boundary in a relationship? Drop your wisdom in the comments. You never know who needs to hear it today.

2 months ago | [YT] | 6

Briana MacWilliam

I didn’t realize how much I confused closeness with losing myself... until everything finally broke.


When I was younger, my most intense, magnetic relationships had almost no boundaries.

We would become enmeshed — merging schedules, friendships, interests, even identities.

At the time, it felt like the kind of "oneness" I had been craving since childhood. The chemistry was undeniable.

The sense of belonging was overwhelming and addictive.

But as I got older, I started to notice something:
- In the blurring, I disappeared.

- I became unrecognizable to myself.
- Some deeper part of me stayed locked away, hidden, unexposed.

I was hiding a deeper avoidance with my anxious blending.


Eventually, it became safer to live in the gray.

If no one labeled anything, no one could truly reject you...and you couldn't really reject them either.
No harm, no foul.
No real intimacy. No real devastation.
But also — no real connection.
No real SELF to connect to.

Over time, life started to feel hollow.

I walked around performing "success" by day, and crying myself to sleep at night.

I put myself in risky situations just to feel something, just to prove I was still alive.

I told myself nobody loved me, nobody chose me.

And yet... there was always someone lingering in the background, someone I'd keep just close enough to validate my worth and attractiveness, but never close enough to matter.


The truth was, I was punishing myself with the kinds of people I thought I deserved.


Not really knowing why I found myself so undeserving.


Until one day, I made a decision.


I stopped dating.
I stopped casual hook ups.

I stopped using other people to fill the void I didn’t want to face.


For three celibate years, I held council with myself.


I poured all that energy into a different channel — into writing, creativity, and healing my heart.

I returned to my art, my spirituality, my body. I went back to therapy.

And through that process, every part of me — even the wounded, hidden parts — finally got a voice.

Slowly, new stories began to take shape inside of me.

Stories that weren’t about abandonment, or punishment, or performance.
Stories about agency.
About self-trust.
About becoming my own home.

Of course, I wasn’t truly alone.
I rebuilt my friendships.
I traveled.
I studied Reiki, hypnotherapy, and somatic therapy.
I sat in over 20 plant medicine ceremonies.
I built a six-figure business.
I co-authored two books.

I became a better mother, a better friend, and most of all... I became someone I enjoyed being alone with.

And all of it — all of it — started with learning how to honor boundaries.

Not as a way to wall myself off...

But as a way to say: This is me. That is you. And this is how we can share space without losing ourselves.

Because that’s the real purpose of love.

Not to erase who we are... but to meet as whole beings who are willing to see and be seen.

If you feel like you’re still disappearing in your relationships, still punishing yourself with people who can't meet you — you don’t have to stay stuck in that cycle.

You can write a new story too.


#BoundariesThatHeal #SelfWorthJourney #HealingThroughBoundaries

2 months ago | [YT] | 159

Briana MacWilliam

𝑾𝒉𝒊𝒄𝒉 𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒚 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒂𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒔 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒔𝒏𝒆𝒂𝒌𝒔 𝒖𝒑 𝒐𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖?


👉 Vote and feel free to share in the comments if you're consciously working to rewrite any of these beliefs.

2 months ago | [YT] | 6

Briana MacWilliam

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐁𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐁𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐝? 𝐋𝐞𝐭'𝐬 𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐎𝐮𝐭... 🎯


Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re the ultimate self-care flex. 💅✨


But when you're wired for anxiety or avoidance (or hey, BOTH depending on the day), boundaries can get...uhh, weird. 😅

Here’s how the confusion shows up:
- Anxious hearts worry that having needs = being “mean” or “selfish” 🥺 (Spoiler: it’s not.)


- Avoidant souls armor up with rigid boundaries that are basically emotional escape rooms 🧊 (Also...not great.)



And if you don’t catch it early, you could end up making these 6 Boundary Blunders that lowkey ruin relationships:
👉Toxic Positivity: Feelings are only allowed if they’re ✨ pretty ✨ and positive.
👉 Anti-Dependency: "I MUST love myself alone in a cave with a pet rock."
👉 Abandonment Panic: Saying “yes” to yourself feels like saying “no” to your partner. (It’s not!)
👉 Emotional Bondage: If your needs upset someone, you must be wrong. (You’re not.)
👉 Self-Sacrifice Olympics: Love = suffering and martyrdom. (Hard pass.)
👉 Power Struggles: It's either your needs or theirs — no in-between. (False!)


CLEAR version:
✅ All feelings are welcome.
✅ Connection is sacred, not a solo survival mission.



✅ Loving yourself isn’t abandoning others.


✅ Your needs are valid even if they ruffle feathers.


✅ Compromises should honor your values, not bleed you dry.


✅ Needs can coexist with a little curiosity and compassion. ❤️




If you're sitting there like, "Oof...is it really this complicated??" — GOOD NEWS. 🥳


I made something for you! 📖💖

My Boundaries Guidebook walks you through it step-by-step:
🔸A 10-question self-assessment


🔸A simple 5-step process for setting boundaries that stick


🔸PLUS red and green flag cheat sheets for spotting the right people (and the wrong ones 👀)



👉 Check it out here: onlinecourses.brianamacwilliam.com/boundaries-guid…


You’re not too much. You’re not selfish.
You’re learning to love without losing yourself. 🛡️💛

2 months ago | [YT] | 7

Briana MacWilliam

𝑾𝒉𝒊𝒄𝒉 𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒂𝒓𝒚 𝒃𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒍𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒏𝒐𝒘?

Boundaries: because apparently mind-reading isn’t a relationship skill yet. 😂


Tell me — which one of these boundary boss battles is kicking your butt the most lately? 🥊✨


💬 Vote below! Feel free to drop a comment if you need to vent about your most recent boundary oops moment. No shame in this circle

2 months ago | [YT] | 12

Briana MacWilliam

I don’t have to say that communication is KEY when it comes to repairing after a fight.

But with some of my clients, every time they try to talk things out with their avoidant partner, their partner shuts down, walks away, or seem completely unbothered…😩

This is not uncommon.

The thing is, when it comes to expressing emotions and wanting clarity in relationship—
✔️ We know exactly how to articulate what’s on our mind.
✔️ We're emotionally invested in finding solutions.
✔️ We genuinely want to make things work.

So… why does it feel like the more we try to fix things, the further away they pull?

Well, brace yourself—because here’s the truth:
🚨 Pushing for a conversation right away won’t help us reconnect. In fact, it’s likely making things worse.

Avoidants don’t handle conflict the same way anxious partners do. They don’t “talk it out” to feel better—they need space first to process before re-engaging.

If we are constantly chasing, apologizing, or over-explaining, we're reinforcing their biggest fear—losing their autonomy and feeling emotionally controlled.

So here’s your starting point:
✅ Give them space to regulate. They will come back when they feel safe.
✅ Focus on your emotional regulation instead of panicking over their silence.
✅ Recognize their repair attempts (it might look like a casual check-in, not a deep convo).

Want a simple roadmap for handling this the right way? Click this link, for the 30 scripts and scenarios that help rebuild connection—without the chase.

👇CLICK THIS LINK👇
onlinecourses.brianamacwilliam.com/repair-scripts-…

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3 months ago | [YT] | 76

Briana MacWilliam

Be honest: Which Taylor Swift era is your attachment system living in right now?

What album are you currently healing to? Drop it below and let us know why it hits so hard. Bonus points for lyric quotes that sum up your love life 👇

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