Dr Thomas Smithyman
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Dr Thomas Smithyman
Thanks to everyone who watched 20 Years of Anxiety Treatment in 15 Minutes.
Glad the list was helpful. If you haven’t downloaded the free PDF with all 40 insights, it’s still available here: bit.ly/430Uzrp.
The full list actually had 70 items — so a follow-up video may happen if there’s interest.
Next up:
Our new video breaks down a 3-system framework I use to understand why people pull away or reject others. It’s based on clinical work and a bunch of research, but simplified into a model that’s easier to use in real life.
Also, I’m launching a newsletter soon with deeper insights, practical tools, and behind-the-scenes ideas. So stay tuned.
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Hi folks, just wanted to say thank you to everyone who watched and shared thoughts on the small-talk video — I’ve enjoyed reading your insights and reflections. Keep the questions coming—when I see a question that a lot of you react to or ask in different ways, that tells me it really matters. Those are the ones I’ll try to answer in future videos.
As you can see from this photo, it's been a difficult month. But this also gave me inspiration for our next video. I'm going to explore physical imperfections, self-image, and what to do when you don’t feel 100% confident in how you look.
I hope this will be helpful.
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Hi everyone,
A warm welcome to all the new members of our growing community! I'm glad you're here. For those of you who have been part of this journey for a while, thank you for watching my latest video on self-confidence—I really appreciate your support and feedback. Stay tuned for the next video on optimizing psychological and social health for the year ahead.
I saw in the comments that some of you are interested in the self-fidelity diary exercise—so I’ll definitely make a video on how to do that to build up authentic self-confidence. I’m going to continue looking at the comments for future video ideas so please continue to share your thoughts there.
As we approach this special time of year, I want to take a moment to express my gratitude to all of you who come to the channel. Your encouragement and feedback keep me motivated to keep creating.
Wishing you all the best in this season of reflection and appreciation.
Cheers,
Dr Thomas Smithyman
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Hi everyone, welcome to the channel. It’s awesome to see so many new faces here. Thanks for checking out my latest video, "Become Better Looking through Psychology."
I’m excited to see all the great conversations about how traits like kindness and honesty can actually make you seem more physically attractive.
If you found that interesting, stick around. In the next video, we’ll look at a powerful trait that can boost your overall attractiveness—not just your looks.
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Thrilled to have been a part of Tejas Hullur’s incredible series “How To Become More Attractive, Scientifically.” It was an honor (and a lot of fun) to go on this journey of exploring what attractiveness really means.
Tejas just wrapped the series with a very humorous and impactful final episode that I was lucky enough to contribute to, diving deep into the science of dating and non-physical aspects of attractiveness.
Huge shoutout to Hope Needles, who helped edit.
This episode is packed with actionable tips you don’t want to miss! Tejas is making a real impact on this platform, so if you haven’t already, go check it out on Tejas Hullur (youtube.com/@tejashullur?si=uHhdKQBCED1wWwNn)
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Just had an incredible conversation on The Art of Manliness podcast!
This podcast ranks in the top 1% globally on Spotify, and I was honored to join Brett McKay to dive into the world of social anxiety. We explored how it can affect your day-to-day life and, more importantly, how you can take actionable steps to manage it.
Listen to the full episode here:
podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-going-on-with-…
open.spotify.com/episode/5ZImKIO3sB52JaqF8hVlXo?si…
In this conversation, we discuss:
- What drives social anxiety
- How it can manifest in your life (often in subtle ways)
- Practical steps to help you feel more confident in social settings
Let me know your thoughts, and if you have any follow-up questions, drop them in the comments!
#SocialAnxiety #MentalHealth #Psychology #Confidence #SelfImprovement
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