Not true. Not True. Not True. This is why Iโm so excited about our devotionals because weโre confronting lies head on-especially when it comes to sex and marriage.
Listen: not all men will cheat on you because you refuse to have sex with them.
If he does: congratulations: you saved yourself from wasted years and tears. ๐๐ฝ๐๐ฝ๐๐ฝ
๐๐พ Sex will not determine the level of love you experience in your relationship it will only add to it.
You want to build a foundation that outlasts sex (a few secs/mins of pleasure wonโt build a lifetime of love)
A woman that waits values sex but she also values her standards.
When you have sex outside marriage you are in danger of toxic soul ties, settling and a lot of other barriers come into play.
No one can tell you to stop having sex: you have to get that revelation on your own through a personal relationship with God
But ultimately the decision is your own
Successful marriages are built on a foundation of commitment: sex does not create commitment it can only contribute to it
You wonโt be having sex for 24 hours with your husband and when you do get married youโd have to become very intentional about it: ask any married couple you know. ๐
So its up to you to choose: Do you want to keep using sex as the measure of a manโs willingness to find you attractive? Do you want to use your body as some sort of indication of how much desire he has for you?
Because that can only take you so far but definitely not far enough
Or
Are you ready to learn to work with your sensuality in a healthier way?
There's nothing wrong with being attractive and being sexy but you donโt want that to be all youโre bringing to the table
In our Wife In Waiting Devotional we dive deeper into how this presumption about sex gets in the way of having a healthy relationship
๐๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ก๐ ๐๐ก๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐๐๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ ๐๐ฏ๐ ๐ญ๐จ๐จ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐๐ก.โฃโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ I shared this with my mailing list earlier today and I'm sharing even more tonight!!! โฃโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ Make sure you grab a sit for tonight's webinar! โฃโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ We added a couple more seats because I just couldnโt bare the idea of you missing it!โฃโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ Trust me youโre about to get some revelation.โฃโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ Make sure you also tag a sister friend below to click the link to register.โฃโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ I will be live at:โฃโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ ๐ ๐๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ช๐๐/๐๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐๐๐ โฃโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ Talking about what you need to do to know if heโs the right one in very simple easy stepsโฃโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ Register here: bit.ly/2PctwCR%E2%81%A3โฃ Iโll also be sharing with you on the ๐๐จ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ก๐ ๐ช๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ง ๐ข๐ง ๐๐ ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ฎ๐ง๐๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐จ๐ง๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ!!! ๐ ๐๐ฝ๐๐ฝ๐๐ฝ๐โฃโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ Iโm super excited!!! ๐คช Too much to share is on my heart right now!โฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃ And for my Queens ๐ธ๐พ in the Course weโre about to change your whole dating experience and choices in menโฃ ๐ฅโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ ๐๐: Check your inbox/spam for my email and a confirmation message from Zoom for tonightโs webinarโฃโฃโฃโฃ โฃโฃโฃโฃ Also send me a DM/email: ๐ญ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ@๐ญ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฅ๐จ๐๐.๐๐จ๐ฆ with what youโre hoping to learn tonight ๐ฅ
I will not marry a man that violates me and is violent towards me. I will not even date a man that threatens my health and well being.
I will not stay in an abusive relationship. I will not normalize being hit, beaten or threatened. I am not a manโs property. I am not a manโs toy
I will walk away from every man that abuses me physically mentally emotionally. I will ask for help when need be. I will not find myself in a toxic broken relationship. I will not marry a man that derives pleasure from harming me
In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit: Amen
Tolu Falode
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LIES YOUโVE BEEN TOLD ABOUT SEX ๐ฅ๐๐พ
WRONG โ
Not true. Not True. Not True. This is why Iโm so excited about our devotionals because weโre confronting lies head on-especially when it comes to sex and marriage.
Listen: not all men will cheat on you because you refuse to have sex with them.
If he does: congratulations: you saved yourself from wasted years and tears. ๐๐ฝ๐๐ฝ๐๐ฝ
๐๐พ Sex will not determine the level of love you experience in your relationship it will only add to it.
You want to build a foundation that outlasts sex (a few secs/mins of pleasure wonโt build a lifetime of love)
A woman that waits values sex but she also values her standards.
When you have sex outside marriage you are in danger of toxic soul ties, settling and a lot of other barriers come into play.
No one can tell you to stop having sex: you have to get that revelation on your own through a personal relationship with God
But ultimately the decision is your own
Successful marriages are built on a foundation of commitment: sex does not create commitment it can only contribute to it
You wonโt be having sex for 24 hours with your husband and when you do get married youโd have to become very intentional about it: ask any married couple you know. ๐
So its up to you to choose:
Do you want to keep using sex as the measure of a manโs willingness to find you attractive?
Do you want to use your body as some sort of indication of how much desire he has for you?
Because that can only take you so far but definitely not far enough
Or
Are you ready to learn to work with your sensuality in a healthier way?
There's nothing wrong with being attractive and being sexy but you donโt want that to be all youโre bringing to the table
In our Wife In Waiting Devotional we dive deeper into how this presumption about sex gets in the way of having a healthy relationship
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๐๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ก๐ ๐๐ก๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐๐๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ ๐๐ฏ๐ ๐ญ๐จ๐จ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐๐ก.โฃโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
I shared this with my mailing list earlier today and I'm sharing even more tonight!!! โฃโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
Make sure you grab a sit for tonight's webinar! โฃโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
We added a couple more seats because I just couldnโt bare the idea of you missing it!โฃโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
Trust me youโre about to get some revelation.โฃโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
Make sure you also tag a sister friend below to click the link to register.โฃโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
I will be live at:โฃโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
๐ ๐๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ช๐๐/๐๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐๐๐ โฃโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
Talking about what you need to do to know if heโs the right one in very simple easy stepsโฃโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
Register here: bit.ly/2PctwCR%E2%81%A3โฃ
Iโll also be sharing with you on the ๐๐จ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ก๐ ๐ช๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ง ๐ข๐ง ๐๐ ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ฎ๐ง๐๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐จ๐ง๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ!!! ๐ ๐๐ฝ๐๐ฝ๐๐ฝ๐โฃโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
Iโm super excited!!! ๐คช Too much to share is on my heart right now!โฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃ
And for my Queens ๐ธ๐พ in the Course weโre about to change your whole dating experience and choices in menโฃ ๐ฅโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
๐๐: Check your inbox/spam for my email and a confirmation message from Zoom for tonightโs webinarโฃโฃโฃโฃ
โฃโฃโฃโฃ
Also send me a DM/email: ๐ญ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ@๐ญ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฅ๐จ๐๐.๐๐จ๐ฆ with what youโre hoping to learn tonight ๐ฅ
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Repeat this prayer and affirmation:
I will not marry a man that violates me and is violent towards me. I will not even date a man that threatens my health and well being.
I will not stay in an abusive relationship. I will not normalize being hit, beaten or threatened. I am not a manโs property. I am not a manโs toy
I will walk away from every man that abuses me physically mentally emotionally. I will ask for help when need be. I will not find myself in a toxic broken relationship. I will not marry a man that derives pleasure from harming me
In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit: Amen
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