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The “Men Fix Things Backwards” Phenomenon

Men, let’s talk today about something a little lighter.. by talking about something I think we’ve all been guilty of at one time or another.

D’ja ever notice how men sometimes will do one tiny thing to fix a problem…and then when it doesn’t work, we immediately jump straight to replacing the entire thing?

· No middle ground.

· No in-between.

· Just pure, unfiltered male logic.

The sink drips once? Tighten the handle.

Still drips? Well looks like we need a new sink.

Phone glitches once? Restart it.

Still glitches? Guess it’s time for a new phone.

Car makes a noise? Turn up the radio.

Noise still there? New car time.

Ok yes I’m exaggerating a bit on that last one but I think you get the point. It’s funny, but it’s also how a lot of men handle life, too.

We try one small thing, and if that doesn’t magically fix everything, we assume the whole situation is unfixable.

But here’s the truth most men never hear:

· You don’t need to scrap the whole thing.

· You don’t need to rebuild your life in a weekend.

· You don’t need to “start over” every time something doesn’t go perfectly.

Sometimes all you need is a second adjustment.

· A better angle.

· A clearer plan.

· A steadier hand.

Here are a few areas where giving up too fast ends up costing you more than sticking with the process:

➡️ Fitness…. My friends one bad week doesn’t reset your progress. It happens in fact it’s inevitable that it will from time to time. The trick is not to let it derail you for good.

➡️ Money — one unexpected bill doesn’t make you bad with finances. Things are going to happen from time to time that you didn’t expect. Plan ahead, set money aside for those emergencies and if you still can’t cover it make a plan to get it resolved

➡️ Relationships — one disagreement doesn’t define the connection. Don’t let a tiny issue become a big one. Address it, deal with it and if it’s something that you can’t resolve either learn to deal with it or move on. Communication is key, novel concept I know but one most couples these days fail to do

➡️ Discipline — this is the big on because it in my opinion is what defines success in life or not. One slip doesn’t erase the effort you’ve put in. As I said with fitness it’s inevitable you’ll have them. The key is to deal with it and then move on. Consistency over Crashing, Discipline over temporary desire. That is what leads to long term success.

Bottom line men is that I think for many of us we just love overcorrecting, and forget that sometimes the solution is quieter than that.

It’s being more patient, more strategic, more focused on the long term instead of the short.

So today, instead of throwing out the whole thing, try one more simple fix.

You’ll be surprised how often the second attempt works.

Alright men let’s talk about it…What’s one thing you’re guilty of “replacing too fast” in life?

Be honest.





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Become the Man You Needed When You Were Younger

Men, Monday’s are built for reflection… Not guilt, not comparison, not beating yourself up.

Just honesty. Just clarity. Just taking a breath and checking in with the man in the mirror.

And there’s one question that hits different when you ask it as you’re starting out your week which is….

Would your younger self be proud of the man you are today?

Not impressed. Not intimidated. Proud.

Because every man carries a younger version of himself inside.

·      The boy who didn’t understand everything but felt everything.

·      The teen who walked through storms he didn’t talk about.

·      The young man who wanted to be strong but didn’t know how yet.

And here’s the truth he’s not judging your success.

He’s looking at your character.
Your discipline.
Your effort.
Your resilience.

He’s looking at your ability to make better choices than the ones you had modeled for you.

Because you see, becoming the man you needed to become doesn’t mean being perfect.

It means being intentional. It means being aware. It means being honest about where you’re weak and courageous about where you’re growing.

A lot of men don’t realize this, but you’re already becoming that man in small ways:

➡️ Choosing peace over chaos
➡️ Setting boundaries you never had growing up
➡️ Fixing habits you learned the hard way
➡️ Breaking cycles you were born into
➡️ Building a future you never saw modeled

That’s growth. That’s maturity. That’s masculine evolution — slow, steady, real.

And you don’t have to have it all figured out to make your younger self proud. You just have to keep showing up.

Keep learning. Keep choosing the harder right over the easier wrong. And keep building the kind of life that little version of you always hoped was possible.

So men, here’s today’s reflection…What’s ONE quality your younger self desperately needed that you’re trying to build now? 💡

Drop it in the comments so other men can learn from you.



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1 day ago | [YT] | 263

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Pearl Harbor Day — The Courage of Ordinary Men

Men, today is Pearl Harbor Day and it’s worth slowing down for a moment to really think about what that means.

For me it’s personal in one sort of way. I had an uncle who was in the Navy at the time serving on the carrier Lexington.

Fortunately they were out to sea delivering planes to Midway. So he wasn’t part of the attack but he arrived in Pearl Harbor shortly thereafter and saw the devastation.

He didn’t talk about it much unless he was drinking but when he did it was obvious how much it affected him and how we can all learn from it

Not in a textbook way. Not in a “history class memory” kind of way. But in the way that actually matters to men living right now.

Because the men who stood up that day would be the first to tell you they weren’t superheroes. They weren’t looking for glory. They weren’t trying to be legends.

They were ordinary men who were suddenly thrown into extraordinary circumstances… and they answered the call anyway.

That’s courage. Not the loud kind. Not the movie version.

But the quiet, steady, “I’ll handle it” kind every good man understands.

And if there’s anything modern men can take from their example, it’s this:

·      Real strength doesn’t come from ego.

·      Real strength comes from duty.

·      From responsibility.

·      From the willingness to act even when fear is sitting heavy in your chest.

·      From knowing someone needs you — and stepping forward instead of stepping back.

Courage isn’t the absence of fear. It’s doing what needs to be done despite it.

And men today still face battles. Yeah maybe not the same ones.

But real ones.
Internal ones.
Financial ones.
Emotional ones.
Family ones.

We all have moments where we look around and realize, “If I don’t handle this… no one will.”

Here are a few lessons the men of that day left behind for all of us:

• Stand firm even when you’re scared
• Protect what matters, even when it’s hard
• Stay disciplined when life gets chaotic
• Lean on your brothers when the pressure hits
• Lead quietly — and let your actions speak

We don’t honor that day by pretending we’re soldiers.

We honor it by being men who live with the same values:

Duty. Strength. Unity. Courage .Character.

So take a moment today and ask yourself…“What kind of man am I becoming — and would the men who came before me be proud of him?”

Ok this question is for all the vets out there... I value and appreciated all you’ve done and want to ask... What’s takeaway you’ve had from serving or even from being in battle?

And how did you use it to carry forward into each new day.

What can we who didn’t serve learn from it?

Let me know in the comments.

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2 days ago | [YT] | 297

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The Truth About Male Friendship

Men, let’s break down something most people ignore because it matters more than you think… Male friendship.

And by that I mean real friendship.

Not drinking buddies.
Not coworkers.
Not guys we nod at in passing.

Actual brotherhood.

Because here’s the reality most men never say out loud: We don’t lose friends because we stop caring. We lose friends because life piles so much on us that there’s barely room left to breathe, let alone connect.

➡️Work.
➡️Bills.
➡️Family needs.
➡️Pressure to “be the steady one.”

And before you know it, weeks pass and you realize you haven’t had a real conversation with another man in months.

It matters a lot more than you realize and to show you why let me hit you with some numbers that explain the bigger picture:

• Nearly 1 in 5 men has zero close friends• Male friendship has dropped by over 35% in two decades• Men report feeling lonely at more than double the rate of women• Men are far less likely to reach out when they’re struggling

And no my friends this isn’t because men are cold or distant. It’s because men are taught to carry everything alone.

🔹 To be the rock.
🔹 To be the problem-solver.
🔹 To be the one who never cracks.

But the truth is simple: Even strong men need strong men. Even disciplined men need someone to talk to. Even independent men need a place where they can set the armor down for five minutes.

Here are a few signs you might be missing brotherhood in your life:

➡️ You feel like you can’t vent to anyone
➡️ You always say “I’m good” even when you’re not
➡️ You deal with stress alone out of habit
➡️ You miss having a guy who just gets it

Men… Brotherhood isn’t optional ok?  It’s a protective factor.

It keeps you grounded. It keeps you steady. It keeps you from drifting into isolation without realizing it.

It keeps you from exploding….

So here’s your challenge for the day… I want you to reach out to one man today.

Check on him. Send a quick text message. Grab a coffee.

Do something small that reminds both of you that you’re not walking through life alone.

Ok let’s reinforce this even more tell me… what’s ONE thing a good friend did for you that you’ll never forget? 👊

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A Skill Every Man Should Learn Before 40

Men, let’s get practical today.

Because there’s a point in a man’s life where he realizes something important…

That most of the stress he deals with isn’t from big problems. It’s from small problems he let pile up because he was busy surviving.

And there’s one skill that changes everything once you finally learn it: Fixing the small stuff early. Not just with tools. Not just around the house.

I’m talking about fixing the small cracks in every area of your life before they turn into floods.

Because most of the time, life doesn’t blindside you. It whispers warnings.

·      A rattle in the car.

·      A weird charge in your bank account.

·      That tight feeling in your chest you keep ignoring.

·      That uncomfortable conversation you keep avoiding.

·      Those small habits you swear you’ll fix “next week.”

Here’s the truth most men learn the hard way: Small problems don’t stay small. They grow. They stack. They multiply.

And suddenly you’re overwhelmed, frustrated, and wondering how everything got so heavy.

So here’s your reminder gentleman that the strongest men aren’t the ones who wait until everything collapses. They’re the ones who take five minutes today to prevent five hours of chaos next month.

Ok let me share some areas that I’ve dealt with over the years where fixing small things early saves you enormous pain:

• Your money - checking your accounts weekly saves you from huge surprises.

• Your health  - ignoring pain never makes it disappear

• Your relationships - small conversations prevent big explosions

• Your home - little repairs keep big bills away

• Your habits  - one small upgrade improves your whole routine

Remember you don’t need to overhaul your life. You just need to handle the little stuff consistently.

Because a man who stays on top of the small things ends up with a calmer mind, a cleaner life, and a lot less stress.

Ok men tell me… what’s ONE small thing you fixed recently that made your life easier?

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4 days ago | [YT] | 309

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Men... WE did it! WE hit the 100k subscribers goal that I had set for the channel in the beginning of the year. And I say WE because I couldn't have done it without all of you and the support you give me every single day.

A very sincere and deeply appreciated THANK YOU to each and every one of you who are part of MNTBH. We are making a difference, we are being heard and the best is yet to come.

Onto 200k for this channel and don't forget to head over to ‪@MenNeedToBeHeardToo‬ and subscribe there as well.

I recently started that channel based on feedback I got from many of you.

While this channel focuses on the issues we face as men in society (and will continue to do so) over on Too I'm focusing more on you as individuals. We're addressing specific issues that we as men have to deal with every day and hopefully giving you some tips, tricks and wisdom to help you deal with them so you'll have a better life. Helping you to set goals and then go about achieving them.

I'm just getting started over there but I have some really big plans for 2026 on that channel while at the same time keeping to foot on the gas on this one so stay tuned.

Again thank you for helping me to hit our goal and I can't wait to see what next year brings

Dan

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What Aging Teaches Men (Usually the Hard Way)

Men, let’s talk about aging and as an OG I’m gonna give you the honest version.

Not the dramatic “I’m falling apart” version. But the wisdom version.

First off getting older in many ways sucks.

You can’t do what you used to and in some cases it just pisses you off

But I also have some good news for ya…

Cause ya see the older you get, the clearer everything becomes.

You start realizing what actually matters… and what never really did.

You start noticing the things you once ignored now feel priceless.

And the things you used to chase now feel pointless.

Here are a few lessons aging drops on you whether you’re ready or not:

• Peace beats excitement • Quality beats quantity• Consistency beats intensity• A calm home beats a chaotic crowd

And as you age, you finally start appreciating simple things:

➡️A quiet morning.
➡️A strong back stretch.
➡️A clean house.
➡️A drama-free week.

You learn that some relationships fade for a reason and that some habits were quietly hurting you.

You also learn that some arguments were a complete waste of breath and that some losses turned out to be protection in disguise.

The best part?

You stop apologizing for wanting a calmer life.
You stop chasing validation.
You stop explaining yourself to people committed to misunderstanding you.

Aging isn’t about decline. It’s about refinement. It sharpens you. It steadies you.

It teaches you to move with purpose instead of impulse.

So while yes sometimes getting older sucks... especially in the gym… the reality is there’s a lot more plusses than minuses

Ok men.. let’s hear it…what’s one lesson aging has taught you that you wish you knew earlier? 💡

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5 days ago | [YT] | 325

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Men Don’t Shop, They Hunt



As we head into the Christmas shopping season I thought it would be good to talk about how men do it. Let’s be real — men don’t shop… We hunt.



We walk in, find the thing, buy the thing, and get the hell out.

· We don’t “browse.”

· We don’t “see what’s new.”

· We don’t “just look.”



We came for socks. We’re leaving with socks. Mission complete.



Meanwhile, someone else (that would be women) can spend three hours in the same store and come out with 12 bags, none of which contain the thing they actually went in for.



That’s not shopping. That’s a side quest or as they put it “retail therapy”.
Cause nothing soothes the soul better than driving up the balance on your credit card.



Men treat stores like enemy territory:

Get in. Stick to the list. Avoid small talk.



And for the love of god…don’t make eye contact with the cologne guy.



If the line’s long? We’ll abandon the cart like it never happened.



If the shirt fits? We’ll buy two, maybe three, and never think about it again.



We don’t need variety… we need reliability.



Same jeans. Same boots. Same damn deodorant and soap we’ve used since high school. (Irish Spring for me!)



Because men don’t need fifty choices we just need the one that works.



That’s not being lazy… that’s being efficient.



We’re not shopping for fun; we’re securing supplies for survival.



And you know what? It works. We save time, money, and brain cells.



So yeah go ahead… call it boring if you want. We call it tactical.



👉 Ok men are you like me?



What’s the one thing you always buy the exact same brand of, every single time?



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6 days ago | [YT] | 447

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Masculine Leadership in Small Moments

Men, let’s talk about leadership in a way nobody ever teaches us and one that I think men are really missing today

It’s not the corporate kind. Not the loud, dramatic kind.

It’s the quiet kind… The kind men use every day without even realizing it.

Because real leadership isn’t about giving orders. It’s about how you carry yourself when nobody’s watching.

It’s the way you keep calm when everyone else panics.

The way you solve problems before they turn into disasters.

The way you protect the people you love without announcing it online.

And here’s the thing most men don’t realize. You lead more than you think.

·      Every time you fix something without complaining.

·      Every time you think long-term instead of short-term comfort.

·      Every time you choose responsibility over the easy way out.

·      Every time you stay steady when life goes sideways.

That’s leadership.

Even if nobody claps.

Even if nobody notices.

Even if nobody says thank you.

And December is full of moments where small leadership makes a huge difference.

Family tension.
Holiday pressure.
Money stress.

People depending on you, without ever saying they’re depending on you.

So here’s your reminder that your leadership matters.

Even the quiet version.
Even the invisible version.
Even the version that looks like “just doing what needs to be done.”

So own it this month.
Not with ego.
Not with pride.

But with confidence in the man you’re choosing to be.

Ok men drop this in the comments…what’s one way you quietly lead in your daily life?

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1 week ago | [YT] | 290

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Hey Everyone,

First off I want to say thank you for supporting the channel and I hope you'll permit me to do a bit of shilling and promotion on some things.

I'm THISCLOSE to hitting the 100k mark in subs which was a goal I set at the beginning of the year. It's been a grind but with a little luck I'll hit it in the next week or so. If you don't already sub to this channel please do as I want to hit that goal and keep expanding beyond. The more of you there are the stronger our message and voice becomes.

Also in case you aren't aware I've started a second channel ‪@MenNeedToBeHeardToo‬ which is going to be more focused on helping men to live better lives. This is more about life lessons than issues and I welcome input from all y'all on things you'd like me to cover and talk about.

My goal with the channel is to talk to men as if we were sitting having a coffee or beer and share my experiences and give them tips, tricks, tools and other things that they can hopefully then use to make their lives a bit better. I really want to expand on that as it's the #1 thing I hear from my followers that they want more of.

So if you haven't already head on over and check it out and sub there as well. For now I'm just getting started but have some big plans for 2026 with that channel while still keeping the focus here on men's and boy's issues.

Finally don't forget that I'm live every Wednesday at 4pm ET here and on our show channel ‪@TheBoyMeetsSquirrelShow‬ If you haven't seen it check it out and come be part of the conversation.

ok thanks for reading this and being part of the Men Need To Be Heard Brotherhood. As I've said I have some big things planned for 2026 and am looking forward to your feedback and input.

Dan

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