If a man hits a woman, he’s a monster. Society will crucify him, his name will be dragged through the mud, and his life is basically over. And they aren’t wrong that’s what should happen. Nobody is saying men who hit women shouldn’t be held accountable.
But flip it around… if a woman hits a man do we say she should be held accountable? Do we call her a monster?
No when it’s the woman committing the abuse then suddenly it’s “funny.” It’s “empowering.” It’s a TikTok trend.
It’s women throwing punches in public while the crowd laughs, or girls smacking their boyfriends on camera for clout and the comments cheer her on.
That’s not equality. That’s hypocrisy. Complete and utter hypocrisy.
Here’s the part nobody wants to admit: studies show men experience intimate partner violence as often as women. In fact recent studies are showing that in non-reciprocal IPV it’s women who are the offender 70% of the time…. 70%
And those numbers don’t even tell the full story because while women who report their abuse get sympathy and help. Men get attacked.
Just try being a man and reporting it. Best case, you’ll get laughed at. Worst case, you’ll get arrested, charged and go to prison. Because society decided a long time ago that men can’t be victims only villains.
So men stay quiet… have to stay quiet.
They hide the bruises. They bury the humiliation. They live with the pain and the shame because they know the second they speak up, the world will come them.
It will blame them, mock them, ridicule them and dismiss them.
The fallout is brutal. Men are trapped in abusive relationships with no way out, no support system, and no one taking them seriously and it’s been that way for decades now.
The damage is real physically, emotionally, and mentally. But because it doesn’t fit the narrative, nobody wants to see it and no one most certainly wants to address it.
Now imagine if the roles were reversed.
Imagine, if men were smacking women around on TikTok for laughs, people would lose their minds. There’d be protests in the streets, endless hashtags, government inquiries, and new laws overnight.
But when it’s men? Crickets.
So let’s call it what it is: a double standard that kills.
👉 Question for discussion: Why do you think society laughs at abused men instead of helping them? And how do we change that?
MenNeedToBeHeard
Double Standards in Abuse:
If a man hits a woman, he’s a monster. Society will crucify him, his name will be dragged through the mud, and his life is basically over. And they aren’t wrong that’s what should happen. Nobody is saying men who hit women shouldn’t be held accountable.
But flip it around… if a woman hits a man do we say she should be held accountable? Do we call her a monster?
No when it’s the woman committing the abuse then suddenly it’s “funny.” It’s “empowering.” It’s a TikTok trend.
It’s women throwing punches in public while the crowd laughs, or girls smacking their boyfriends on camera for clout and the comments cheer her on.
That’s not equality. That’s hypocrisy. Complete and utter hypocrisy.
Here’s the part nobody wants to admit: studies show men experience intimate partner violence as often as women. In fact recent studies are showing that in non-reciprocal IPV it’s women who are the offender 70% of the time…. 70%
And those numbers don’t even tell the full story because while women who report their abuse get sympathy and help. Men get attacked.
Just try being a man and reporting it. Best case, you’ll get laughed at. Worst case, you’ll get arrested, charged and go to prison. Because society decided a long time ago that men can’t be victims only villains.
So men stay quiet… have to stay quiet.
They hide the bruises. They bury the humiliation. They live with the pain and the shame because they know the second they speak up, the world will come them.
It will blame them, mock them, ridicule them and dismiss them.
The fallout is brutal. Men are trapped in abusive relationships with no way out, no support system, and no one taking them seriously and it’s been that way for decades now.
The damage is real physically, emotionally, and mentally. But because it doesn’t fit the narrative, nobody wants to see it and no one most certainly wants to address it.
Now imagine if the roles were reversed.
Imagine, if men were smacking women around on TikTok for laughs, people would lose their minds. There’d be protests in the streets, endless hashtags, government inquiries, and new laws overnight.
But when it’s men? Crickets.
So let’s call it what it is: a double standard that kills.
👉 Question for discussion: Why do you think society laughs at abused men instead of helping them? And how do we change that?
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