Pink Girl Teaches | Narc Abuse Educator

Cain didn’t just have a problem with Abel, he had a problem with God’s acceptance and instead of addressing his heart, he tried to eliminate the person who reflected what he lacked. That’s what wounded, unhealed people do.

They compete with what they were called to become.
They resent what they refuse to cultivate.
They attack what exposes their lack of alignment.

But hear me clearly 🗣️cannot destroy what God has approved and you don’t have to shrink, dim, or harden yourself to survive people who are at war with your identity. This is where your healing gets tested because the old you would’ve:

👉🏾 Hardened your heart
👉🏾 Defended yourself endlessly
👉🏾 Tried to prove your worth

But the healed you?

✨ Stays rooted
✨ Stays obedient
✨ Stays aligned with God

Because you now understand, rejection from people is not a reflection of your value, it’s often a revelation of their condition and pulling others down will never elevate you but healing will.

“If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door” Genesis 4:7 (NKJV)

If you’re on The Road Back to Me, this is your reminder:
👉🏾Stop internalizing what God never assigned to you
👉🏾 Stop shrinking for people who won’t do the work
👉🏾 Stay aligned, stay healed, and let God do the separating

Comment “I choose alignment” if you’re done competing and ready to walk in what God has already approved.
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Pink Girl Teaches | Narc Abuse Educator

“Lord, heal the places in my memory that still replay the hurt,” that hits but, let’s go deeper because it’s not just your memory replaying it, it’s your nervous system. Trauma doesn’t just live in your thoughts, it lives in your body.

That sudden anxiety?
That tight chest?
That overthinking?
That emotional shutdown?

That’s not you being “too sensitive,” that’s a dysregulated nervous system trying to protect you from a danger that already passed and narcissistic abuse, it conditions your body to stay in survival mode:

• Always scanning
• Always bracing
• Always expecting the next hit

So even in peace, your body still feels war but here’s the truth: God is not just healing your heart, He is restoring your system.

You don’t just need to “move on.”
You need to retrain your body to feel safe again.

That’s the work.
That’s the rebuild.
That’s The Road Back to Me.

✨ You’re not broken.
✨ You’re responding exactly how your body was trained.
✨ And now… we retrain it in truth.

If this hit you, it’s time to stop calling it “just emotions” and start understanding your nervous system healing journey.

👉🏾 Join me inside The Road Back to Me
👉🏾 Subscribe on YouTube (BTS with Joy)
👉🏾 And share this with someone who keeps blaming themselves for what their body is carrying

We’re not just healing, we’re rewiring.
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Pink Girl Teaches | Narc Abuse Educator

There is a level of intimacy with God that cannot be explained… only experienced and once you’ve been there, once you’ve cried real tears, prayed real prayers, and laid your real self on the altar, nobody can talk you out of what you KNOW, because you didn’t hear about Him, you encountered Him.

Let’s go to the garden, in the Garden of Gethsemane, Jesus wasn’t performing, He wasn’t preaching. He wasn’t surrounded by crowds, He was alone… overwhelmed… and honest.

“Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me”

That wasn’t polished.
That wasn’t pretty.
That was intimacy.

And THIS is what many of us were never taught:

You don’t build intimacy with God by pretending you’re okay. You build it by being real enough to say, “I don’t want this… but I trust You anyway.”

PGT family, hear me…

Healing after narcissistic abuse, rebuilding your nervous system and finding yourself again will REQUIRE a Gethsemane. A place where: you stop performing, people-pleasing, numbing and you finally say:

“God, this hurts.
God, I’m tired.
God, I don’t understand,” and instead of running, you stay. Because intimacy is not built in the highlight reel, it’s built in the moments where you could walk away, but you choose to lean in and THAT kind of encounter, changes everything.

👉🏾 Your identity.
👉🏾 Your boundaries.
👉🏾 Your healing.
👉🏾 Your voice.

💭 Let me say this loud for the people in the back: Once you’ve experienced God for yourself, you don’t need validation from people who never met Him there.

If you’re in your Gethsemane season right now, comment: “I’m staying.”Because at PGT, we don’t run from the process, we let God rebuild us in it and if this spoke to you, share it. Somebody is one honest prayer away from their breakthrough.
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Pink Girl Teaches | Narc Abuse Educator

“I have God, I’m good.”

That sounds simple until you’ve lived a life where your nervous system was never at rest. Where “good” didn’t feel like peace, it felt like survival. Where you were constantly:

👉🏾 Overthinking
👉🏾 Overgiving
👉🏾 Overextending
👉🏾 Walking on eggshells
👉🏾 Trying to keep the peace while losing yourself

Because when you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, your body learns chaos as normal. Your nervous system stays on high alert. Even when the danger is gone… your body doesn’t know it yet.

So when I say, “I have God, I’m good”, I’m not speaking from theory, I’m speaking from a place of:

✨ Learning how to feel safe again
✨ Rewiring my nervous system out of survival mode
✨ Letting God restore what trauma tried to take
✨ Choosing peace, even when it feels unfamiliar

Because “good” is no longer:
• Being chosen by someone who hurts you
• Being validated by dysfunction
• Staying where you are tolerated

“Good” is:

✔️ Peace in my body
✔️ Clarity in my mind
✔️ Alignment with God
✔️ No longer abandoning myself

And if you’re in a season where you’re still healing, where your body is still catching up to your freedom, hear me:

You are not behind.
You are not broken.
You are learning safety again.

And God is not just healing your heart, He is restoring your nervous system too. If you’re ready to stop surviving and start truly healing: mind, body, and spirit, lock in with me. Subscribe to Pink Girl Teaches on YouTube and join me in The Road Back to Me.

This isn’t just another social media post, this is your COMEBACK SZN
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Pink Girl Teaches | Narc Abuse Educator

Some of you have followed me for years because of my work around narcissistic abuse, healing, and rebuilding your life. But there’s another part of my story that I’ve mostly shared quietly… My fitness and weight loss journey.

Over the past few years I’ve lost 81 pounds, but the truth is this was never just about weight. After narcissistic abuse, your nervous system is dysregulated, your energy is depleted, and many survivors struggle to invest back into themselves.

You spend years in survival mode.

For me, part of my healing with God was learning how to rebuild my life physically too.

Today I lift heavy.
I power lift.
I prioritize caring for the body God gave me.

So I’ve decided to start sharing more Behind the Scenes with Joy here on YouTube.

Not just the healing…
but the discipline, growth, gym life, mindset, and transformation that came with it.

If you’ve ever had to rebuild your life after trauma, this journey might resonate with you.

Lock in with me if this is your season to rebuild.

👇🏾 Tell me in the comments:

What area of your life are you rebuilding right now?

And if you’re walking a healing journey after narcissistic abuse, make sure you’re subscribed to Pink Girl Teaches because we’re talking about healing the nervous system, rebuilding your life, and becoming who God always intended you to be.

Let’s do this together.

— Joy 💛

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Pink Girl Teaches | Narc Abuse Educator

There were seasons of my life when the weight of everything felt unbearable. Narcissistic abuse leaves more than emotional wounds, it leaves a dysregulated nervous system, chronic overwhelm, and the constant feeling that the ground beneath you could give way at any moment. Many survivors are left trying to rebuild life while their bodies are still in survival mode.

👉🏾 Bills still need to be paid.
👉🏾 Children still need stability.
👉🏾 Responsibilities don’t pause just because your nervous system is exhausted.

I know what it is to sit in the quiet after the kids are asleep and feel the pressure of everything resting on your shoulders.

One income.
Two children.
A nervous system that had been through years of chaos and the constant prayer: “Lord, help me.”

People hear the phrase “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want” and think it’s poetic language, for me, it’s testimony.

Because when resources were limited, God provided wisdom.
When my nervous system was overwhelmed, He provided peace.
When I didn’t know what decision to make next, He provided direction.

It wasn’t always easy.
It wasn’t always comfortable.
But I was never abandoned.

I have said this many times to my inner circle and I mean it with my whole heart: I have the best co-parent anyone could ever ask for.

The Lord Himself and we would not have made it this far without Him. I have no headline other than: Jesus saved me. 🙏🏾

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Pink Girl Teaches | Narc Abuse Educator

Even when you make a mess, the Lord still makes a way 🙌🏾 For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, healing comes with moments of deep regret. You may look back and think:

“Why did I stay?”
“Why didn’t I see it sooner?”
“Why did I tolerate that?”

In those moments, shame tries to convince you that the damage is permanent. Here is what you need to remember, God’s sovereignty is not limited by your mistakes.

Even when trauma dysregulates your nervous system…
Even when manipulation clouds your judgment…
Even when survival mode keeps you stuck longer than you expected…

God is still writing your story, the Lord specializes in redeeming what looks like a mess. Scripture reminds us:

“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
Romans 8:28

And even more personally:

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”
Psalm 34:18

Your nervous system may still be learning safety.
Your heart may still be untangling deception.
Your mind may still be relearning truth.

NONE of that disqualifies you from God’s restoration. The same God who saw you in the chaos is the God who will lead you into peace, regulation, and healing. Your story did not end in the mess. God is still making a way.


👉🏾 If you are walking the journey of healing after narcissistic abuse and restoring your nervous system through truth, faith, and wisdom, you are not alone. Follow Pink Girl Teaches (PGT) as we rebuild lives, renew minds, and walk out healing together.

Healing is not just surviving what happened, it’s reclaiming the life God always intended for you.
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Pink Girl Teaches | Narc Abuse Educator

I’m watching a documentary about the “manosphere” and one thing stood out to me. One of the men said he can’t talk about women the way he does online around his mother because she would slap him, that told me everything I needed to know.

It’s not that they don’t know, they KNOW.

They know it’s disrespectful.
They know it’s degrading.
They know it’s wrong.

They simply choose spaces where that behavior is celebrated instead of corrected. There are many layers to what we’re seeing today loneliness, identity confusion, cultural shifts, and a lack of guidance for young men.

Those things are real, pain is real but pain does not excuse pride. The spirit behind much of this rhetoric is pride exalting self, demanding control, and reducing women to something less than what God created them to be.

Scripture is clear: pride always leads somewhere. Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall. God will not be mocked.

The answer isn’t more hatred or division. The answer is humility, accountability, and character, the kind that doesn’t change depending on the room you’re in. Integrity means you speak with the same respect whether your mother is in the room or not.

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Pink Girl Teaches | Narc Abuse Educator

One of the biggest shifts in healing is realizing calm is not the absence of passion. It’s the presence of safety.

Have you experienced this?
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Pink Girl Teaches | Narc Abuse Educator

Many of us didn’t learn love, we learned survival inside relationships. Being strong, staying guarded and carrying everything ourselves. But healing changes what love feels like.

When your nervous system begins to heal, you no longer need to be a No Limit Soldier in love. You begin to recognize safety. You begin to allow honesty, vulnerability, and connection.

This is the work of returning to yourself. If you’re ready to move from surviving love to experiencing safe love, you’re in the right place.

Welcome to the next chapter …. The Road Back to Me.

👉🏾 Follow along as we continue learning how to restore safety to the body after trauma 🩷

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