Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

Could your codependency be affecting your relationship with your adult child?

When an adult child starts pulling away, it can feel incredibly painful and confusing.

But sometimes, the behaviors we believe are coming from love, like constant contact, unsolicited advice, control, or difficulty respecting boundaries, can actually create more distance.

In my new video, I talk about:

• How enmeshment can contribute to estrangement
• Why boundaries matter
• How control can push an adult child further away
• What you can do if your child wants space or goes no contact
• How looking at your own part can become an opportunity to heal and repair the relationship

💬 Have you ever wondered if something you’re doing could be contributing to the distance?

Watch the new video and let me know your thoughts.

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

Most people don't realize this until they're already deep inside it. Narcissists are not randomly drawn to certain people. When you're wired to give, to fix, to manage other people's emotions, you become exactly what a narcissist is looking for.

And here's the painful part. It doesn't feel like being targeted. It feels like finally being chosen. By the time the pattern becomes clear, you're already deeply invested.

This is not a character flaw. It's a pattern set in motion long before you ever met this person.

If this resonates, say me too in the comments. My free codependency guide is linked in the description.
counselingrecovery.lpages.co/codependent-relations…

#covertnarcissism #codependency #narcissisticrelationship #traumabond #emotionalhealing #mentalhealthmatters

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

Why does a healthy relationship feel boring?

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

What is the most important first step in healing?

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

Have you ever gotten out of one difficult relationship only to find yourself in another one that feels exactly the same? Different person, same confusion. Same exhaustion. Same feeling of giving everything and never quite being enough.

That pattern is not bad luck. It is your nervous system recognizing something familiar. And familiar, even when it's painful, can feel like home.

When you grow up in a home where love felt unpredictable or conditional, your nervous system gets wired to keep seeking that same dynamic. The work is not trying harder to choose better. It's healing what's underneath.

If this resonates, say me too in the comments. My Beyond Codependency course is linked in the description.
www.counselingrecovery.com/store

#codependency #narcissisticrelationship #healingjourney #emotionalhealing #mentalhealthmatters #traumabond #selfworth #boundaries

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

What is the earliest sign a narcissist is targeting you?

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

Have you ever gotten out of one difficult relationship only to find yourself in another one that feels exactly the same? Different person, same dynamic. Same exhaustion. Same confusion.

That is not bad luck. That is your nervous system recognizing something familiar. And familiar, even when it's painful, can feel like home.

When love felt unpredictable growing up, your nervous system gets wired to keep seeking that same dynamic in adulthood. The work is not trying harder to choose better. It's healing what's underneath.

If this resonates, say me too in the comments. My Beyond Codependency course is linked in the description.
www.counselingrecovery.com/store

#codependency #narcissisticrelationship #healingjourney #emotionalhealing #mentalhealthmatters #traumabond #selfworth

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

Most people don't realize this until they're already deep inside it. Narcissists are not randomly drawn to certain people. There is a very specific dynamic that makes codependents especially vulnerable.

When you grow up wired to give, to fix, to manage other people's emotions, you become exactly what a narcissist is looking for. Someone who will center their needs. Someone who won't easily walk away even when things get difficult.

That is not a character flaw. That is a pattern set in motion long before you ever met this person.

If this resonates, say me too in the comments. My free codependency guide is linked in the description.
counselingrecovery.lpages.co/codependent-relations…

#covertnarcissism #codependency #narcissisticrelationship #traumabond #emotionalhealing #mentalhealthmatters #boundaries #selfworth #healingjourney #relationshipcoach #counselingrecovery #licensedtherapist

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

What do narcissists look for most in a partner?

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

This is one of the most powerful questions I know. And most people with codependent patterns have never actually stopped to ask it.

Because giving feels so automatic. Someone needs something and you're already figuring out how to provide it before you've even checked in with yourself.

So the next time you're about to give something, just pause and ask honestly. Is this something I truly want to give? Or am I giving it because saying no feels too scary?

Just notice. Because that one moment of honesty is the beginning of giving from genuine choice instead of fear.

If this resonates, say me too in the comments. My free codependency guide is linked in the description.
counselingrecovery.lpages.co/codependent-relations…

#codependency #peoplepleasing #boundaries #selfworth #healingjourney #emotionalhealing #mentalhealthmatters #selftrust #relationshipcoach #counselingrecovery #licensedtherapist

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