Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

Have you ever found yourself asking...

💔 "Why can't I let go, even though I know this relationship is hurting me?"

If you're in a relationship with a covert narcissist, it may not be a lack of willpower. It could be codependency and a trauma bond keeping you stuck.

The good news is that healing doesn't begin by trying harder. It begins by learning how to detach with love while protecting your own peace.

If this resonates with you, comment "I'm ready" below. You're not alone.

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

How soon into a relationship does love bombing typically start?

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

I love this question because it stops the automatic yes in its tracks. Most of us who struggle with people-pleasing don't even realize we're doing it in the moment. It just happens. The yes comes out before we've even had a chance to check in with ourselves.

But that one question can create a pause. And in that pause, there's a choice.

Am I saying yes because I genuinely want to? Or am I saying yes because saying no feels too uncomfortable, too risky, too likely to make someone unhappy with me?

You don't have to answer that question out loud. You don't even have to do anything differently yet. Just start noticing. Because awareness is always the first step.

And every time you notice, you're building the muscle of actually taking care of yourself. That's not selfish. That is how healthy relationships are built.

Start building that muscle with my free resource library. www.counselingrecovery.com/resource-library-access

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

This is the one I wish someone had told me years ago. Because when I first started working on my codependency, I was terrified that healing meant becoming someone who didn't care as much. Someone cold. Someone who stopped showing up for the people I loved.

That is not what recovery looks like at all.

What it actually looks like is learning to care for people without disappearing in the process. Learning to give from a place of genuine generosity instead of fear. Learning to be in a relationship and still know what you need, what you feel, and where you stand.

You don't have to choose between loving people and loving yourself. That's the false choice codependency sells you. Real recovery is learning to do both.

That's exactly what I want for you. If this resonates, say me too in the comments.

My Beyond Codependency course walks you through exactly how to get there. www.counselingrecovery.com/store

#codependency #codependencyrecovery #selfworth #boundaries #healingjourney #emotionalhealing #mentalhealthmatters #peoplepleasing #relationshipcoach #counselingrecovery #licensedtherapist #selftrust

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

This is important. People pleasing is not who you are. It is not a character trait you were born with. It is a survival strategy your nervous system developed, probably a very long time ago, to keep you safe in an environment where keeping everyone happy felt necessary.

And here's why that matters so much. You cannot think your way out of a survival strategy with willpower alone. Telling yourself to just say no doesn't work when your body is responding to the request like it's a threat.

What actually works is understanding where this came from. Building a new sense of safety in your body. And practicing something different, slowly, with a lot of compassion for yourself.

You are not broken. You are responding to what you learned. And what you learned, you can unlearn.

Start here with my free codependency guide. counselingrecovery.lpages.co/codependent-relations…

#peoplepleasing #codependency #emotionalhealing #mentalhealthmatters #selfworth #healingjourney #boundaries #selftrust #relationshipcoach

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

This shift changed everything for me personally. And I've watched it change everything for hundreds of my clients too.

When we ask what's wrong with me, we're looking for a flaw to fix. We spend years trying to be different, trying to be less, trying to be better. But that question keeps us stuck in shame.

When we ask what happened to me, everything opens up. Because suddenly the patterns that confused us start to make sense. The people-pleasing. The difficulty setting limits. The anger that comes out of nowhere. It’s not random. All of it is a response to something.

And once you understand that, you can actually start to heal it. Not by fixing yourself. By understanding yourself.

That's the work I love doing most. If this resonates, say me too in the comments.

Grab my free codependency guide to start understanding your patterns today. counselingrecovery.lpages.co/codependent-relations…

#codependency #healingjourney #emotionalhealing #mentalhealthmatters #selfcompassion #therapytools #selfworth #recoveryjourney #relationshipcoach #counselingrecovery #licensedtherapist #boundaries

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I want you to really sit with that for a second. Because so many of the people I work with have spent years being told they feel things too deeply. That they need to toughen up. That they're overreacting.

But here's what I know after more than twenty years of doing this work, and from my own recovery. That sensitivity was never a weakness. It was your nervous system doing exactly what it needed to do to keep you safe in an environment that wasn't always safe.

The problem is that nervous system is still running the same program in relationships where you no longer need it. And that's where the real work begins.

If you've ever been told you're too sensitive, say me too in the comments. You are not alone in this. And you are not too much.

If you're ready to start understanding your triggers and finally get control of your anger and stress, my four-week Calming Anger live class starts August 27. Check the link in the description to learn more and save your spot. www.counselingrecovery.com/online-courses/calming-…

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Have you ever said "yes" when every part of you wanted to say "no"?

You might think you're weak.

You might think you're "too nice."

But what if people pleasing isn't your personality at all?

What if it was the way your nervous system learned to keep you safe?

❤️ If this feels familiar, watch today's new video. It may completely change how you see yourself.

👇 Comment "ME TOO" if this resonates with you.

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✨ I'm LIVE right now!

Have you ever wondered why some resentments seem to stay with you, no matter how much time passes?

Join me live as we explore why resentment doesn't heal on its own, and the practical steps you can take to finally let it go and find peace.

💙 Bring your questions. I'd love to chat with you live!

🎥 Watch here:
youtube.com/live/H7ghsUNWElc

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

Resentments are tough to let go of.

If you're struggling with resentment and can't seem to move forward, join me LIVE on YouTube tomorrow, July 24th at 10:00 AM PDT.

We'll talk about why we hold on to resentment, what keeps us stuck, and how real healing begins.

The good news? You don't need someone else to apologize or validate your pain before you can start healing.

I'd love to see you there! 🤗

🔗 Live Link: youtube.com/live/b1PRsu-KRoI?si=KvF9O4A5ARWWQhSr

#RecoveryIsWorthIt #Resentment #LetItGo #HealingInProgress #HurtFeelings

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