This channel is for people who did what they were told and still ended up lost.
I'm Sheila. I'm 55. I followed the rules, showed up on time, and was so reliably competent that nobody thought to ask if I was okay... including me.
This is not midlife self-help. It’s midlife deprogramming.
I talk about burnout, identity loss, mental health, money, career grief, aging, starting over in midlife, and the rude little moment when you realize the life you built may have been built around survival, not desire.
I’ve my life surviving things I never signed up for, including a traumatic childhood, lifelong mental health struggles, and a shiny corporate career that looked impressive while quietly eating me alive.
If you’re still performing, still pushing, still waiting for life to finally feel like yours, subscribe before you waste another year calling survival a personality.
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Which version of stuck has been kicking your ass lately?
I made "Why You Feel Stuck (and Why It’s Not What You Think)" for this exact mess.
It’s recorded, takes about an hour and costs $47.
www.sheilahammond.com/stuck
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Are you feeling stuck every freakin’ day?
Does it feel like you’re walking through quicksand? Are you frozen on a street corner while everyone else keeps moving? Or are you moving everywhere, doing everything and still not getting anywhere?
What if YOU aren’t the problem? What if you’re following instructions you don’t even know you were given?
Instructions like rest has to be earned. Wanting more is selfish. You can’t move until you know exactly how everything will end.
Those instructions can run your whole life while you’re busy blaming yourself.
That’s what I dig into in "Why You Feel Stuck (and Why It’s Not What You Think)", my recorded, self-paced workshop. You’ll figure out what’s actually keeping you stuck, where it came from and whether it still belongs in your life.
It takes about an hour, costs $47 and includes a workbook.
You’ve blamed yourself long enough. Let’s check the wiring.
www.sheilahammond.com/stuck
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I’ve offered my dog, Posey, cucumber many times over the years. Every time, she’s done that little "mlem" thing and spit it out like I tried to poison her.
Then, she found one growing in the garden.
She nibbled it off the vine, carried it into the house, held it between her paws like a bone and ate the same vegetable she has rejected every time I’ve handed it to her.
Apparently, Posey doesn’t hate cucumbers. She just wanted to choose her own.
And honestly, people aren’t that different.
Sometimes we think we don’t want something when what we actually don’t want is somebody else deciding that we should want it.
A career. Marriage. Motherhood. A certain kind of life. Even something we might have chosen for ourselves can become unbearable once it arrives wearing somebody else’s expectations.
Choice changes our relationship with things.
Sometimes you don’t hate the thing. You hate that you didn’t choose it.
So maybe the question isn’t only, “What do I want?”
Maybe it’s also, “What would I choose if nobody were standing over me holding the cucumber?”
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🟡 THE CHECK-IN Livestream is coming!
Usually we meet on Thursdays, but I have jury duty. Apparently the court system doesn't respect my livestream schedule.
So we’re moving it to Tuesday, August 11 at 5:30 PM Mountain Time.
Come hang out for a while. Bring your questions, your snacks, your weird week, your life update, your current “what even is happening?” situation or just show up and listen.
We’ll talk about life, whatever’s going on and probably wander into at least three topics none of us saw coming.
📅 Tuesday, August 11
🕠 5:30 PM Mountain Time
4:30 PM Pacific / 6:30 PM Central / 7:30 PM Eastern / 12:30 AM GMT
See you there. 🖤
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I’m taking the week off. That’s a lie, but look how convincing Posey is!
There won’t be a video this week, and there may not be one next week either. I’m working on a whole bunch of things behind the scenes and apparently “do all of it at once” is not a valid schedule.
I could slap something together just so YouTube sees movement, but I don’t want to waste your time or mine. The algorithm will have to sit in the corner, put on its big girl panties, listen to some gangsta rap and manage its feelings.
In the meantime, please enjoy this completely fraudulent photograph of my life. I don’t have a convertible, I’m nowhere near the ocean, and apparently Posey has a better retirement plan than I do.
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🎁 *FREE seat to my live workshop — but only for the next 24 hours* 🎁
One of my members donated a seat to my live workshop, Adult Tech Support: Why You Feel Stuck (And It's Not What You Think), so I'm giving it away.
Here's the deal. It's a small room. Only 8 seats total, and there are just 4 left. Normally it's $125, or $112.50 for members, but this one seat is free, because somebody in my community wanted to cover it for a stranger. I love this community!
One thing before you enter: please only sign up if you can actually be there. It's live, and it's the only time it's happening. Thursday, July 30th at 5:30pm MST. If that time doesn't work for you, hold off this round so the free seat goes to someone who can make it.
To get entered, sign up for my newsletter in the next 24 hours. Go to sheilahammond.com, scroll to the bottom of any page, and drop in your email. Everyone who signs up by 7/29 12:00 pm MST goes in the drawing.
If you don't want to leave it to chance, or you just want more info, you can grab a seat or read all the details here: www.sheilahammond.com/event-details/stuck
If you've been feeling off and can't explain why, if you keep wondering whether the problem is just you, this is the one I built for you.
24 hours. Small room. Go. 👉 sheilahammond.com
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So now I can say I’ve held a baby kangaroo. Please update my résumé accordingly.
It was honestly one of the coolest things I’ve ever done. I’ve shown the pictures to nearly everyone who has made eye contact with me since yesterday, because apparently I’m the baby kangaroo’s grandmother now.
I put more pictures and videos in The Deep End for members: www.sheilahammond.com/community
And while I have your attention because of the baby kangaroo (and yeah, I know exactly what I did) my live workshop is this Thursday, July 30, at 5:30 PM Mountain Time.
You’ll leave understanding what has been keeping you stuck and knowing where to begin.
You can learn more and sign up here: www.sheilahammond.com/event-details/stuck.
It’s a small group of eight people, and we only have three seats left. I kept it small because I want us to be able to talk to each other, not sit in a Zoom room with 100 strangers.
One of the members of my community donated a seat so someone else could attend. I’ll be giving that seat away this week before the workshop, which is such an incredibly kind thing to do. I’m still a little floored by it.
If you’d like the donated seat and you can attend Thursday, tell me in the comments what has you feeling stuck right now and what you hope the workshop will help you figure out.
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The poll I did last week confirmed what I’ve been hearing from so many of you:
You’re stuck.
And the hardest part isn’t even being stuck - it’s not knowing why.
Over half of you said you’ve never figured that out, so maybe I can help.
Let’s figure it out together on July 30.
There are only 6 seats left: www.sheilahammond.com/events
🖤
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You've done everything right, so why do you feel stuck?
This is exactly what we’re unpacking in my live workshop on July 30.
Not because you’re lazy. Not because you’re broken. Not because you need another “find your purpose” speech.
Grab a spot here - there are only 6 seats left: www.sheilahammond.com/events
🖤
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