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The Removed Man

The Removed man. The man women quietly removed from the dating market. If you’re overweight, socially awkward, broke, directionless, no sense of style, low-confidence, poor character or no character at all, and invisible to women. This is about you. This is not about women, so deflection won’t work here.

And no, you didn’t ‘opt out’ of the dating market. You were disqualified. Adopting phrases like “I’m removing MYSELF from the dating market”, doesn’t change that. Renaming rejection doesn’t make it voluntary.

Men who are in shape, financially stable, socially competent, and desired do not walk away from women because they think all women are trash.
They still compete. Because men want sex. Men want families. Men want legacy. So, if you’re in the comments saying “I have all of that, but I’m still choosing to walk away” is a lie!

So if you’re claiming you don’t want any of that, but you also can’t get any of that, I’m not giving you sympathy. I’m giving you honesty.

Reality Check…The dating market didn’t punish you. It assessed you. Women didn’t sit in a room and vote you off the island. You made yourself unselectable through neglect.

Solutions

Fix Your Body First (Non-Negotiable): If you’re overweight, you are playing the dating game on hard mode for no reason. You don’t need a six-pack. You need to not look like you gave up. This is the fastest, cheapest way to regain visibility.

Become Socially Functional: If you can’t hold eye contact, can’t lead a conversation, or can’t read the room and/or feel confident while in it, women will never feel safe or attracted to you.
You don’t need game. You need baseline social competence. Talk to people without an agenda. Learn to listen. Learn to speak clearly. Attraction doesn’t start with your mouth. It starts with your presence.

Money Is Not Optional: No, money isn’t everything. But no money is something. If you can’t support yourself, you are not in a position to complain about women’s standards. Stability is attractive. Direction is attractive. Being a financial liability is not.

Stop Consuming Rage Content: “He-Man woman hater’ Podcasts won’t save you. Comment sections won’t save you. Blaming women won’t save you. Rage content is digital comfort food for men who refuse to improve. Turn it off. Use that energy to build something.

Choose a Lane…Husband or Sex: You don’t have to be everything. Pick a lane. If you want sex: improve your body, style, confidence, and social skills. If you want marriage: improve your stability, leadership, discipline, and reliability. But you don’t get to choose neither and complain about women.

You don’t get sympathy for refusing to compete. You don’t get respect for quitting. The dating market doesn’t hate you. It’s waiting for you to become someone worth choosing. So either build, or stay invisible. One choice is yours, but the other is when the dating market decides for you.

~ Medium Man

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You don’t get to pretend you “opted out” of the dating market. You didn’t remove yourself. You were filtered out…

Let me be clear: I am very comfortable with categorizing women. I do it openly to remove certain dating stressors for single men. I say a woman is either wife material or she’s “other things.” And let’s be honest, whether people like the language or not, that distinction exists in real life. If a woman says she doesn’t want marriage, won’t cook, doesn’t believe in long-term commitment, but is still willing to have sex, most men SHOULD NOT argue with her. You simply place her where she belongs. Not in the wife category, but still “useful to the group.”

I’ve also heard men call certain women “leftover.” Over 30. Kids. Too much baggage. Not what they’re looking for. Again, harsh language, but it’s a reflection of how men evaluate options in the dating market.

But here’s the question men almost never ask themselves. If you’re not a husband…what category are you in?

Because the categories for men do not mirror the categories for women. Women can be placed into a wife box or a non-wife box and still have some level of dating utility. Men don’t get that luxury.

For men, there are really three outcomes. You’re a husband. You’re sexually desirable. Or you’re not useful on the dating market at all!

And that third category is where a lot of uncomfortable truths live.

Because if you are not being chosen for commitment and you are not being chosen for sex, then you don’t get to pretend you “opted out” of the dating market. You didn’t remove yourself. You were filtered out.

A lot of men online love to say, “I’m done with women. I’m done dating. The market is broken.” No, it’s not broken. The dating market evaluated you and moved on. And instead of improving what you bring to the table, you adopted internet talking points to protect your ego.

That’s not strategy. That’s avoidance.

Here’s the part men don’t want to hear: a woman you don’t want to marry can still be useful to the dating ecosystem. A man who qualifies for neither sex nor commitment has zero leverage. Zero utility. Zero influence.

So when men spend all day calling women leftovers, the real reversal is this: at least those women are still being selected for something. If you’re not even being considered, you’re not in competition, you’re invisible.

And invisibility in the dating market isn’t caused by feminism, hypergamy, or social media. It’s caused by a lack of development. If you don’t have physical presence, social competence, confidence, direction, stability, or leadership, women are not “punishing” you. They’re responding rationally.

Dating is not a morality contest. It’s not fair. It’s not supposed to be fair. It’s evaluative. Women are allowed to say, “This is what I offer and this is what I don’t.” Men need to be honest enough to ask themselves, “What do I offer and who is choosing me because of it?”

If you’re not a husband and you’re not sexually desirable, then no amount of podcast clips or comment-section rage is going to save you. The only solution is improvement.

Not complaining. Not quitting. Not blaming. Building. Women constantly ask themselves, “Am I wife material?”

Men need to start asking a much harder question: Am I useful at all? And if the answer is no, the market isn’t the enemy. It’s the mirror, so what are you going to do about it?

~ Medium Man

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It’s time to stop repeating the 80/20 dating rule like it’s a fact, because it isn’t.

The 80/20 idea did not come from a scientific study. It came from a misreading of old OkCupid blog data about attractiveness ratings, not dating behavior, not sex, not relationships, and definitely not marriage. Women rating men as “below average” on a dating app does not mean 80% of women are only dating or sleeping with 20% of men. That leap is not supported by data, and repeating it only makes you look unserious about dating, and finding a reason not to compete.

Here’s what is a fact.

According to national demographic data, about 43–44% of men have ever fathered a child, weighted or unweighted. That means nearly half of men have had sex at some point. Sex. Real-world sexual access. Not swipes. Not likes. Not dating-app ratings, but actual outcomes.

So let’s be clear: If only 20% of men were being chosen, you would not see nearly half of men reproducing. The math wouldn’t work. Reality wouldn’t reflect that. But it does.

The 80–20 talking point confuses online attention with real-world behavior. Dating apps amplify inequality because they’re photo-based, algorithm-driven, and competitive by design. A small group gets more likes, that’s true. But likes are not sex. Likes are not relationships. Likes are not families.

When men repeat the 80/20 myth, what they’re really doing is outsourcing their agency. They’re telling themselves, “I never had a chance,” instead of dealing with the real variables that matter: environment, social skills, proximity, timing, money, attractiveness, and yes effort.

Stop quoting OkCupid like scripture. Stop building your worldview on misinterpreted app data.
And stop telling young men they’re locked out of the dating market when the actual demographic outcomes prove otherwise.

Dating isn’t perfect. It isn’t fair. But it also isn’t hopeless, and the data does not support the lie that only 20% of men are being chosen.

On this platform, I do not coddle grown men. I don’t tell men comforting lies. I don’t give excuses. And I don’t let men outsource responsibility for their outcomes to fake statistics and internet. Men are expected to be accountable. Dating is a market. Markets require effort, positioning, and competition. If you don’t like your results, you don’t quit the market, you improve your value within it. You will not remove yourself from life because of a fake narrative.

If that message offends you, my platform may not be for you. But if you want to improve, stay, listen, and do the work.

~ Medium Man

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If WOMEN Say They Don’t Want Marriage, Believe Them And Move Accordingly
https://youtu.be/RU2328CjhmM

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“Average Men Only Get LEFTOVER Women From The Top 20% Of Men” FALSE! | Responding To The Comments
https://youtu.be/uzR-zsMzz7g

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When Fathers Unconditional Love Gets Mistaken for Conditional Romantic Standards

Lately, I’ve been seeing a common theme on social media where many women explain their dating standards by referencing how their fathers treated them.

They’ll say things like,
“My dad took me to fine dining.”
“My dad always answered the phone.”
“My dad made time for me no matter how busy he was.”
“My dad was a man of faith and leadership.”

And let me be clear: none of that is bad. In fact, that sounds like a father who did exactly what he was supposed to do. But the problem isn’t the father. The problem is confusing parental love with romantic relationships.

A father’s love is unconditional. It is one-directional. It is not earned. It does not require reciprocity. A father provides because it is his responsibility, and not because his child negotiated, contributed, or proved herself worthy of the investment. That dynamic cannot be copied and pasted into adult romantic relationships. Because romantic relationships are conditional. They are based on mutual effort, mutual benefit, and mutual exchange. Not entitlement.

When a woman says, “My standards are high because my dad did XYZ,” what often goes unexamined is this simple question: What did you give your father in return? The answer is…nothing!
And that’s okay because you were a child. But adult relationships don’t operate on the same rules.

A man you’re dating is not your parent. He is not obligated to provide, plan, protect, or prioritize you without receiving value in return. That doesn’t mean relationships are cold or transactional in a negative way. It means they are reciprocal.

Effort is exchanged for effort. Respect is exchanged for respect. Leadership is exchanged for cooperation. Provision is exchanged for peace, loyalty, and partnership.

Another point that often gets overlooked is availability. A father will interrupt his life for his child, always! A romantic partner cannot and should not operate that way. Being busy does not mean being disinterested. And constant access is not a requirement for healthy adult relationships.

Boundaries are not neglect. And finally, faith, values, and beliefs matter, but they are filters, not weapons. If a woman only wants to date men who share her belief system, that’s valid. But it doesn’t make men who differ deficient. It simply makes them incompatible.

What’s missing from many of these conversations is reciprocity. There’s often a long list of what men fail to do, but rarely a clear explanation of what women bring to the table in return.

High standards without self-assessment aren’t standards. They’re expectations. And expectations without reciprocity lead to disappointment. So no, fathers didn’t raise the bar too high. Fathers did their job. But adult relationships require translating those standards into mutual exchange, not unilateral benefit.

Because men don’t date daughters. They date women in hopes of a romantic relationship. And relationships only work when both people are giving, not just expecting.

~ Medium Man

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Approximately 20–25 distinct primary reference sources, spanning 70+ years of data, across multiple federal agencies, peer-reviewed research, and policy institutions. The lengths I’m willing to go in order to protect Black men’s ethnic image…✊🏿✊🏾✊🏽✊🏼✊🏻🫡

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She Woke Him Up At 3AM To Drive 4 Hours To MEXICO…For A FIRST DATE?!? | Love Connection
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Radio Host COOKS Lil’ Kim, Audience Goes Crazy! | Freaky Police Officer Exposes Himself! (ROLANDA)
https://youtu.be/8ZG553aiclE

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Do you think this statement is true: “Only 20% (2 out of 10) of men have sex.”

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