Hey, I'm Shay 👋🏾
After 6 years on my natural hair journey — wasting money on the
wrong products, comparing my 4a curls to everyone else's, and
learning the hard way that stress matters as much as any curl
cream — I finally get it.
This channel is for busy Black women with 3c/4a curls who are
tired of advice that wasn't made for them.
No 3-hour routines. No pretending. No comparing your hair to
someone with a completely different curl pattern.
Just simple, honest content from someone who's a few steps
ahead on the same journey.
Every week:
✨ Quick curl routines for real life (under 30 mins)
✨ Honest product reviews tested on actual 3c/4a hair
✨ Real talk about stress, burnout & why it's wrecking your curls
✨ Everything I wish someone told me on day one
Your journey isn't broken. You don't have to figure it out alone.
New videos every week — subscribe and pull up a chair 🪑
📲 Instagram: @becomingher.withshay
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Your curls & coils are telling on you 😅
If your curly hair is dry this summer, check two things:
Are you drinking enough water? Dry hair starts from within.
Are you spraying your hair with water DAILY? Curly hair needs consistent moisture, not just on wash day.
Quick tip: fill a spray bottle with water + a tablespoon of aloe vera juice. Spritz every morning. That's it. That's the post.Who's adding this to their morning routine? 🙋♀️
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Not a hair post today — just a wellness check 💛
How are you actually doing this week? And I mean beyond "fine."
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Q3 reset prompt: Pick ONE goal you set in January that fell off.
Not all of them — just one.Now ask yourself: is this still relevant to where I am NOW?
If yes, what's one small step you can take this week?
If no, let it go with grace. No guilt.Drop your one goal below and let's hold each other accountable 👇
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What's your BIGGEST summer curly hair struggle right now?
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If you're planning braids or twists this summer, don't skip the prep!
Before installing: deep condition, moisturise with a leave-in, and seal with an oil.
Your scalp still needs love under those styles — a light scalp oil with tea tree or rosemary 1-2x a week keeps things healthy underneath.
Protective styles only work if they're actually protecting 🙏
Do you prep before installs or just go straight in?
Here is a video below where I share more tips on this
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Wash day check-in! 🧴💧
Where are you in your wash day today?
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We're heading into Q3 and I need to ask you something real...Did you set goals at the start of the year that quietly fell off?
Because same 🙋♀️Q3 is actually the PERFECT time to reset. Not in a "new year new me" way — but in a "let me re-align and finish strong" way. I'm reviewing mine this week.
Where are you with your 2026 goals?
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Heading into the hotter months and I want to know — what's your go-to protective style this season?
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Quick reminder because the heat is NO joke right now ☀️
If your curls and coils are feeling dry or crispy, please — spray them with water first before adding any product. Water is your foundation, not an afterthought. A simple spray bottle with water + a few drops of aloe vera juice can bring your curls back to life in literally 30 seconds.What's in your spray bottle right now? Let me know 👇
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bzz bzz 💬
Okay dokey, let's do a real check-in — how is your curly hair ACTUALLY handling this heat? 🔥Be honest, where are you right now?
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