Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

On this channel I post information regarding narcissistic abuse.... but in the School of
Transformation I focus on HEALING from narcissistic abuse and any childhood trauma!!

Starting tomorrow we will be diving into the topic of Reparenting the Wounded Inner Child.

Our live meetings are special because while videos can teach you something, healing often requires support. You might understand the concept—but struggle to apply it. Without live guidance and co-regulation, the process can start to feel overwhelming or lonely, and those old trauma beliefs can sneak back in:

“I can’t heal.”
“I’m too broken.”

These thoughts may feel true… but they are not the truth.

Many of us didn’t receive the kind of parenting we needed to handle big emotions or life’s challenges. That doesn’t always mean our parents were “bad” or “toxic.” Sometimes it was the circumstances—divorce, single parenting, emotional unavailability, unhealed wounds, or addictions.

We’re not diving into this topic to assign blame, but to liberate ourselves. Regardless of why our needs weren’t met, the good news is:
We can now become the compassionate, loving adult our nervous system has always needed.

This process allows us to reconnect on a deep mind–body level—to rewire the nervous system, release limiting trauma beliefs, and strengthen those that align with our authentic self.

I want to be transparent with you—this work isn’t just cognitive. It’s somatic.
It’s about feeling the emotions we couldn’t feel as children, embracing the parts we once rejected, and learning to stay present with the activation that arises as we heal.

Healing means feeling all of it. But when we do it safely—by building capacity, understanding the language of the body, and healing within the co-regulation of these meetings—something shifts. The process becomes exciting, emotional (in a good way), and deeply fulfilling as you feel yourself reconnecting and growing.

Just like physical training requires feeling the burn to build strength, emotional healing requires meeting the parts of us that carry pain. That discomfort isn’t failure—it’s evidence of growth. It shows that you’re working with your nervous system on a body level and creating real, lasting change.

So if you’re ready to reconnect with the parts of yourself that were hurt, disconnected, exiled, or abandoned…
this topic is for you.

THERE IS CURRENTLY A 30% OFF SALE THAT WILL BE ENDING SOON


Here's the link to check it out: school-of-transformation.circle.so/checkout/monthl…

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Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Before I understood I had a traumatized nervous system, I didn’t even know you could have a morning routine that actually set you up for the day in a positive way.



You mean not being launched out of bed like I’d just been tasered wasn't normal?
You mean the crackling anxiety that flooded in before I even opened my eyes wasn’t just 'another Tuesday'?


That wasn’t just “being a morning person” vs “not being one”—that was my body bracing for survival before the day even started?



Yeah. That was news to me.



For so much of my life, I lived in default mode.


Subconscious programs doing the driving, while I sat in the backseat wondering why I was always exhausted, always overwhelmed, always running on empty.



That’s what trauma does—it steals our choice.
We aren’t “lazy,” “moody,” or “bad at mornings”—
We’re just living life in a loop of protective responses that once kept us safe, but now? They’re just keeping us stuck.



Here’s the good news (because yes, there is some):
We CAN begin to shift.


Not overnight, not perfectly, and definitely not with another to-do list taped to the fridge.
But slowly. Somatically. Gently.


Awareness is the very first step.


So today, I want to gently challenge you (with love and zero judgment):

Examine your morning routine.
And yes—if you don’t have one? That is your morning routine.

Ask yourself:
✨ What’s one thing I do every morning out of habit, not choice?
✨ What happens in my body when I open my eyes—do I brace, rush, scroll, shut down?
✨ Can I notice it without judgment… just a little curiosity?

Because this is how we reclaim our mornings.
And then, slowly, our days.
And then, quietly, our lives.




And always remember that if doing this inner work alone is too much for your nervous system and you are in need of co regulation (which we should have gotten as children but most of us didn't) then don't forget to check out my live weekly zoom meetings in the School of Transformation - which to me is like nervous system rehab!!! school-of-transformation.circle.so/checkout/monthl…

1 month ago | [YT] | 152

Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

It's that time!!!!
Today - June 27th at 4:00 p.m. Eastern - I will be hosting a LIVE FREE webinar entitled: How to Find Safety in the Body After Trauma and YOU are invited!!!

So if you have some free time and this is a topic that you're interested in - I'll leave the link below for you to register!! Once you register - you will receive an email about an hour prior to the meeting with the zoom link information!

What we will be covering:
1: Understanding suppressed emotions
2. Getting to know your nervous system
3. Finding your current capacity
4. How to build and create more capacity for safety

If you've been struggling to feel safe in your body even IF toxic people and/or circumstances are over and in the past - please come and join us!!!

When I left all toxic environments/people - I waited to feel safe enough to begin living once again as.... me. And I waited.... and waited. And if anything my window of tolerance got SMALLER with the passing time instead of getting wider. While time heals many wounds it does NOT heal trauma wounds. But the good news is that once we learn how to work with our body instead of against it - that's when things happen!!!

Here is the link to register - we will begin at 4:00 p.m. Eastern today June 27th! www.micheleleenieves.com/pl/2148681848

3 months ago | [YT] | 31

Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

I've always felt like the negative painful beliefs from a traumatic childhood are like splinters in our soul!!

I know that may sound dramatic but...


Have you ever had a splinter in your hand?

Maybe it was small—barely visible—but every time someone came close or accidentally brushed up against it, a sharp jolt of pain reminded you it was still there. So, what's one way to handle this? Well, we can start guarding it. We can isolate ourselves to avoid contact, or when around others we may flinch, protect, and even rearrange our lives so that no one accidentally touches the spot.



'That's a ridiculous way to handle that Michele,' you might say and I would have to agree with you but.... isn't that exactly how we tend to cope with the negative beliefs that are like splinters in our soul? We work so hard to NOT get triggered - to somehow control the external so that we don't feel the vulnerable emotions when those beliefs get touched on. These beliefs may be invisible to the eye, yet their impact touches everything.








The Beliefs Beneath the Surface
For so long I was unconscious to the fact that I was even operating from these old, inherited, negative beliefs. Beliefs like:

“I’m not enough.”

“It’s not safe to be seen.”

“I’ll be abandoned if I speak up.”

“I’m too much… or not enough.”

Here's the thing with unhealed trauma and the beliefs that keep it alive: Even when we’re not thinking about these beliefs, they’re thinking about us. They color how we interpret people’s behavior, how we show up in relationships, and how we feel in our own skin.

Just like a splinter, they cause pain when “touched”—when someone looks at us a certain way, when we're left out, criticized, or ignored. But instead of removing the splinter, many of us build entire lives trying to avoid pain by controlling the external:

👉 We try to be perfect so no one criticizes us.
👉 We over-give so no one leaves us.
👉 We fawn, shrink, or hide to keep the peace.



But here’s the truth:

**The most empowering thing you can do is remove the splinter—**not try to make sure no one ever touches it.








My Splinter: “I’m Not Safe Around People”
For years, I carried the belief: I’m not safe around people.

This belief was born from early childhood trauma. Not only did my mother nearly miscarry me during her first trimester, but I almost died during birth and my arm was broken yet never put in a cast..... to mention some of the early childhood trauma that I experienced.

When I grew up - my trauma lay dormant for a long time - but a relationship that reminded my nervous system of early trauma woke up the old, unhealed trauma and that old belief kicked on with vengeance and it showed up in my adult life as relentless social anxiety.



I didn’t know it was a belief at first. I thought it was just “how I am" and that 'there's something fundamentally wrong with me as a person." I assumed the only way I could heal was if I could figure out how to perform in such a way that made other people see me as confident, calm, and capable. Then.... I’d feel safe. Then... I’d feel better.

But no matter how “perfect” I tried to show up, the anxiety didn’t go away—because the splinter was still there. AND it only made me act further and further from who I truly was as a person.



True healing began when I stopped trying to manage the outside and started tending to the inside.

I began to see myself differently. I began to feel what safety could feel like in my own body, even if someone didn’t approve of me, even if I wasn’t “on,” even if I was misunderstood. I didn’t need the outside world to validate my safety—I began building it from within.



And once the belief changed, everything else became a bonus, instead of a lifeline.



Let’s Remove a Painful Splinter Together
Why am I sharing this with you?? Because if this resonates - updating a negative belief is exactly what we're going to focus on for the month of June 2025. So, f there’s a painful belief that still lingers in your nervous system—causing anxiety, triggering reactions, or keeping you in survival mode—even though the trauma is long over…

You’re not alone. And you don’t have to carry it into the next season of your life.


In the School of Transformation, we’re dedicating the entire month of June to uprooting one painful belief—together.

Through somatic tools, guided mind-body practices, and compassionate community support, we’ll help you:



Identify the belief that’s causing the most pain.

Understand how it’s stored in your body, not just your mind.

Gently update it using nervous system-based techniques.

Create real safety from the inside out.

You’ll walk away not just with insights—but you'll begin embodying change.

You’re invited.
You’re safe here.
And you’re more than the splinters you’ve carried.

Let’s heal—together.

With compassion,




🌀 P.S. Enrollment for June’s “One Belief” Series inside the School of Transformation is open now. Let’s do this together, one belief at a time.
Join the School of Transformation Here:

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Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Our next LIVE FREE WEBINAR is scheduled for May 23rd at 4:00 p.m. Eastern. This will part 3 of the topic How to Find Safety in the Body After Trauma: Addictions!!





So many people that have unhealed trauma struggle with addictions, from the obvious ones like alcohol, drugs, gambling to less obvious ones like people pleasing, scrolling, food, etc.




There's so much stigma around addictions

It's too easy for people to say - just get over it, you're choosing to be like that, it's your fault, you don't have enough will power....





Something that changed my life was when I learned that addictions are actually a message..... not the enemy. And struggling with them was not about being flawed or a failure as a person, but rather my nervous system seeking safety outside of itself.





Learning to work with addictions on a somatic level with compassion..... changed everything for me!!!


And so now I want to share with you - the tips that helped me!!!!

Come join me LIVE for the upcoming FREE webinar!!!!! You won't regret it -all it will cost is your time!!
Here's the link to reserve your seat: www.micheleleenieves.com/pl/2148671352

5 months ago | [YT] | 20

Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

We are fast approaching the upcoming LIVE FREE WEBINAR: How to Find Safety in the Body After Trauma. For those that came to the last webinar in March... this one is a part two of the same topic - so we will build on what we already learned!!!!

But I was thinking about my own healing journey - and honestly there was a time when I didn't understand what Safety in the Body was... yeah sorry - truth be told!! I honestly thought I would feel safe once the toxic people in my life were GONE.... once my circumstances changed..... but guess what - they did change, they did leave and my body STILL felt like I was walking through a mind field every single day..... uggg. It was awful.

I waited.... and waited thinking - oh it's just a matter of time before my body springs out of this fearful funk and goes back to being the person I remembered myself as prior to long term emotionally abusive relationships - but... nothing happened and if anything - things got WORSE - my world got smaller and smaller - I couldn't understand it.

So - I wanted to ask you all a question and your input is sooo helpful because it will help me to tailor the upcoming webinar in a way that can be most helpful for those attending.

My question is: What does it mean to YOU to Find Safety in the Body After Trauma -if you DID find such safety what would be different in your life? What would you be doing that you're not doing NOW? Ok - so that's more than one question but again - your input will be so helpful!!!!!

AND if you haven't heard of the upcoming free webinar, and if you haven't yet secured your FREE SEAT, here is the registration link to do so: www.micheleleenieves.com/pl/2148662253

6 months ago | [YT] | 27

Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Something I learned was that my body and my mind had separate definitions as to what feeling SAFE means after emotional trauma..... and they were NOT on the same page. As I reflected on what I thought safety was on my own cptsd recovery journey - the definition started one way and morphed into something else as I healed.

Sooo.... I'm curious - we ALL want to feel safe again in our own bodies - we deserve to be able to feel safe - but I'm curious what does that mean to YOU? What does feeling safe look like for YOU?

Let me know - as many of you know, I am hosting another live free webinar on this topic and your input helps me to know how to tailor the information that I'm going to be sharing!!! For those unaware of this workshop - if this is a topic that interests you, here's the link if you'd like to join this LIVE FREE webinar: www.micheleleenieves.com/pl/2148662253


The webinar will be Friday the 18th at 3:00 p.m. Eastern on zoom!!

6 months ago | [YT] | 66

Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Sooo sorry- for those that signed up for my upcoming LIVE FREE webinar scheduled for April 18th - there was a glitch in the link - please use the following link to secure your seat: www.micheleleenieves.com/pl/2148662253

6 months ago | [YT] | 16

Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

I'll be posting a video today that explains how narcissist's train you to be stuck in hypervigilance - your whole inner world gets sooo twisted and turned upside down that you no longer feel safe in your own body!! AT least that's how I felt. And then even when the narcissist was gone - my body STILL felt on edge, scanning, sensing danger.... it was exhausting!!

They really mess with your felt sense of safety.

BUT..... you CAN re-train your nervous system to once again feel safe being you!!! This Friday March 21st at 4:00 p.m. Eastern I will be hosting a LIVE FREE WEBINAR: How to Feel SAFE Again In Your Body After Trauma.

So.... if my videos resonate with you and you want to come and join me live - here's the link to register: www.micheleleenieves.com/pl/2148655173

7 months ago | [YT] | 63

Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Don't forget to join me tomorrow at 4:00 p.m. Eastern for a FREE LIVE Webinar: Learning Vs. Embodying Healing After Trauma!!!!! I look forward to spending some time with you!!!
www.micheleleenieves.com/pl/2148612812

Will You Be Joining Me??

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