FromFear2Freedom & FromPain2Purpose

A few weeks ago I did a poll here about if the narcissist called you a narcissist.

What stood out to me wasn’t the individual answers — it was the pattern.

So many of you tried to communicate, repair, and resolve…
and were met with deflection, blame, or silence and were called the narcissist.

That matters.

If you’re willing to self-reflect and work toward resolution,
that alone tells a very different story than you were led to believe. 🫶🕊️❤️‍🩹

(New Short is up.)

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Gentle reminder:
Healing isn’t linear — and there are seasons where seeing “happy ending” stories after abuse can hurt.

Not because you’re bitter.
But because you’re still grieving what you never had, while your nervous system is learning what safety even feels like.

Muting, unfollowing, and protecting your heart isn’t negativity.
It’s self-respect.

You’re allowed to take breaks from that content — even if you hope for it someday. 🫶

“Always choose yourself.” ❤️‍🩹🕊️

1 week ago | [YT] | 10

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Was narcissistic abuse a chapter… or the whole story?

There’s no hierarchy of pain here. One relationship can be devastating—and lifelong patterns come with their own layers. This space is for understanding, not comparison. ❤️‍🩹🕊️🫶

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I hear you and see you 🫶 New podcast just dropped - Requested by community members. ❤️‍🩹🕊️

“Healing, Trust & Motivation After Abuse/Trauma”

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I’ve been thinking about future podcasts and longer videos, especially around healing after narcissistic abuse and coercive control. A lot of content focuses on leaving, but not as much on what comes after — when you’re technically “free,” yet your nervous system is still stuck in survival mode.

I’m curious what would be most helpful for you right now:
• nervous system regulation after long-term control
• why freedom doesn’t immediately feel like relief
• grief, exhaustion, and identity loss after abuse
• rebuilding safety for yourself and your kids
• or something else you wish people talked about more

If any of this resonates, let me know what you’d want me to cover — podcast, long-form video, or shorts. I want this space to meet you where you actually are. 🫶🕊️❤️‍🩹

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I’m planning new podcasts and Shorts and want your input. I know many of you are still in the phase of trying to understand what actually happened — especially when it comes to narcissistic behaviors. What kinds of short videos would you like to see more of right now? Breaking down behaviors? Explaining why you reacted the way you did? Naming things you couldn’t put words to before? I want this space to feel supportive and real. ❤️‍🩹🫶🕊️

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Healing doesn’t always look dramatic.
Sometimes it’s quiet. Sometimes it’s subtle.
And a lot of people are healing without realizing it.

If you’re not sure whether you’re healing, see if any of these feel familiar.
You can comment one that fits—or add your own.

Healing can look like:
• Standing up for yourself when the old you would’ve stayed quiet
• Not over-explaining your decisions
• Pausing before responding instead of reacting
• Leaving conversations earlier to protect your energy
• Letting someone be disappointed without fixing it
• Choosing rest without guilt
• Noticing fatigue before burnout
• Calming your nervous system instead of spiraling
• Feeling anger without acting on it or suppressing it
• Catching yourself mid–self-blame and stopping
• No longer rehearsing arguments in your head
• Letting silence exist without filling it
• Saying “that doesn’t work for me” without justifying
• Trusting your body signals again
• Listening to red flags and taking them seriously
• Not chasing closure from unsafe people
• Needing less validation or belief from others
• Protecting your peace even when it looks “selfish”
• Allowing joy without waiting for something bad to happen
• Being gentler with yourself on hard days
• Feeling bored—and realizing that boredom means safety
• Walking away without needing the last word
• Choosing yourself without making it dramatic

If you see yourself here, you’re healing more than you think and if you’re not ready to share, just noticing it quietly is still healing.❤️‍🩹🫶🕊️

2 weeks ago (edited) | [YT] | 10

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I need to say this clearly.

There are seven things I will never shame survivors of narcissistic abuse for — and I’m putting it in writing.

No forced forgiveness.
No “you attracted it.”
No pathologizing your anger.
No rigid rules about healing.

If you’ve ever felt judged, rushed, or blamed in “healing” spaces — this is for you.

I made a free PDF that explains my stance and why shame does not heal nervous systems. ❤️‍🩹🫶🕊️

👉 docs.google.com/document/d/1-8DhujJVa4f9u6b2pRjzCq…

(The link to my web page is also in my bio and has the PDF on it as well. )

You’re not broken. You adapted. And that matters.

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What feels most supportive for you right now?

Comment “all of the above” if you fit all of them because healing doesn’t always stay in one lane. 🫶❤️‍🩹🕊️

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🎂🥳 🎈Monthly Birthday Giveaway - @shredding__silence 🥳🎂🎈

For many of us, birthdays were overlooked, minimized or made painful - especially if you've experienced narcissistic or emotionally unavailable relationships. Being forgotten or dismissed on your special day leaves a quiet ache.

This community exists to do the opposite.

Each month, I'll be choosing one community member and contacting them privately to receive a @shredding__silence cup and a birthday acknowledgement shared in the Community tab - always with your consent and your privacy respected. Gifts may change over time as new Shredding Silence items are created, always with the same intention of care and appreciation.

Here, you get to choose how (or if) you're acknowledged. Here, you are seen, heard and celebrated.

To enter the Monthly Birthday Giveaway, fill out this short form: forms.gle/3hn5TdFdsZCHAmpe8

You matter. Your story matters. Your birthday matters. 💖🎂🥳

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