Pathological narcissists deliberately refuse to give you closure. The purpose of withholding closure is twofold:
1.) Withholding closure is an expression of their contempt for you. 2.) Withholding closure enables the narcissist to live rent free in your mind.
By refusing to give you closure, the narcissist knows they've literally got a "hold" on you that keeps you bound to the narcissist every time you think of them, talk about them or look at their social media. This toxicity contaminates your senses and distorts your ability to see the situation for what it is.
The "hold" is a trauma bond and it is made up of a cluster of strings the narcissist manipulates in order to maintain their control over you. When you lose yourself in thoughts of them or look at their social media, the narcissist makes sure that whatever you find will deepen the wounds they've already inflicted on you. The greater the pain they cause, the more likely you'll turn to them for a solution.
This is a form of mental slavery and psychological torture. And it's why your healing depends on pulling the trauma bond out by the root so you can bleed the poison out.
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Pathological narcissists deliberately refuse to give you closure. The purpose of withholding closure is twofold:
1.) Withholding closure is an expression of their contempt for you.
2.) Withholding closure enables the narcissist to live rent free in your mind.
By refusing to give you closure, the narcissist knows they've literally got a "hold" on you that keeps you bound to the narcissist every time you think of them, talk about them or look at their social media. This toxicity contaminates your senses and distorts your ability to see the situation for what it is.
The "hold" is a trauma bond and it is made up of a cluster of strings the narcissist manipulates in order to maintain their control over you. When you lose yourself in thoughts of them or look at their social media, the narcissist makes sure that whatever you find will deepen the wounds they've already inflicted on you. The greater the pain they cause, the more likely you'll turn to them for a solution.
This is a form of mental slavery and psychological torture. And it's why your healing depends on pulling the trauma bond out by the root so you can bleed the poison out.
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