Say NO when you mean NO. Say YES when you mean YES. A healthy and clear boundary set with the most high intentions can still trigger and stir up drama in others. Some people tend to take boundaries as a personal attack because on a deep unconscious level it makes them feel unsafe, suddenly you became a "threat". And many will start all kinds of manipulation tactics to coerce, guilt trip, or scare you into giving in and revoking your boundary, so that you do what they want you to do, because they believe it serves them better, even though it doesn't. But because of blindspots due to lack of self-awareness, it seems so on the surface. Tough love is required to handle this. You stand by your word and You stand your ground. Giving in because we want to receive some sort of positive attention (love, acceptance, etc), or fit in — has nothing to do with real love. Not for self, or others. Giving in to other´s manipulation is not true kindness, care, or compassion. If you go against yourself: your body, your heart, and your spirit — it has nothing to do with love — it has everything to do with fear.
Our level of self-worth, self-respect, and self-awareness will reflect in the boundaries we have and the boundaries we don´t have. The more we truly value ourselves and let go of our fear of “being kicked out of the tribe” (fear of rejection, abandonment, death) the easier it becomes to stand up for ourselves even if no one else understands our choice or agrees with our choice.
Setting a boundary can be hard, but sticking to it — is the real test. You cannot control other´s reactions. But, you can control your response: your communication, your choices, your actions — depending on how much Inner Work you have done; healing your traumas, deprogramming beliefs and convictions based on falsity and distortions, attaining right knowledge about the matter at hand, protecting yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and energetically. All of this and more - is your responsibility as the authority of your mind, body, and spirit. We all have this responsibility. No one else. Nothing else.
Setting a boundary needs to be done mentally, verbally, and through action. The action part means that we need to align our behaviors, choices, and actions with the boundary we have mentally and verbally set in motion. Without aligned action, the boundary will fall apart.
Be aware. Be resilient. Be vigilant. Be courageous. Take self-responsibility and self-leadership. In my world, setting boundaries grounded in authenticity and integrity — is an honorable act of Loving Kindness. 🔥❤️🔥
Kenneth Soares
Say NO when you mean NO. Say YES when you mean YES. A healthy and clear boundary set with the most high intentions can still trigger and stir up drama in others. Some people tend to take boundaries as a personal attack because on a deep unconscious level it makes them feel unsafe, suddenly you became a "threat". And many will start all kinds of manipulation tactics to coerce, guilt trip, or scare you into giving in and revoking your boundary, so that you do what they want you to do, because they believe it serves them better, even though it doesn't. But because of blindspots due to lack of self-awareness, it seems so on the surface. Tough love is required to handle this. You stand by your word and You stand your ground. Giving in because we want to receive some sort of positive attention (love, acceptance, etc), or fit in — has nothing to do with real love. Not for self, or others. Giving in to other´s manipulation is not true kindness, care, or compassion. If you go against yourself: your body, your heart, and your spirit — it has nothing to do with love — it has everything to do with fear.
Our level of self-worth, self-respect, and self-awareness will reflect in the boundaries we have and the boundaries we don´t have. The more we truly value ourselves and let go of our fear of “being kicked out of the tribe” (fear of rejection, abandonment, death) the easier it becomes to stand up for ourselves even if no one else understands our choice or agrees with our choice.
Setting a boundary can be hard, but sticking to it — is the real test. You cannot control other´s reactions. But, you can control your response: your communication, your choices, your actions — depending on how much Inner Work you have done; healing your traumas, deprogramming beliefs and convictions based on falsity and distortions, attaining right knowledge about the matter at hand, protecting yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and energetically. All of this and more - is your responsibility as the authority of your mind, body, and spirit. We all have this responsibility. No one else. Nothing else.
Setting a boundary needs to be done mentally, verbally, and through action. The action part means that we need to align our behaviors, choices, and actions with the boundary we have mentally and verbally set in motion. Without aligned action, the boundary will fall apart.
Be aware. Be resilient. Be vigilant. Be courageous. Take self-responsibility and self-leadership. In my world, setting boundaries grounded in authenticity and integrity — is an honorable act of Loving Kindness. 🔥❤️🔥
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