Kenneth Soares

Say NO when you mean NO. Say YES when you mean YES. A healthy and clear boundary set with the most high intentions can still trigger and stir up drama in others. Some people tend to take boundaries as a personal attack because on a deep unconscious level it makes them feel unsafe, suddenly you became a "threat". And many will start all kinds of manipulation tactics to coerce, guilt trip, or scare you into giving in and revoking your boundary, so that you do what they want you to do, because they believe it serves them better, even though it doesn't. But because of blindspots due to lack of self-awareness, it seems so on the surface. Tough love is required to handle this. You stand by your word and You stand your ground. Giving in because we want to receive some sort of positive attention (love, acceptance, etc), or fit in — has nothing to do with real love. Not for self, or others. Giving in to other´s manipulation is not true kindness, care, or compassion. If you go against yourself: your body, your heart, and your spirit — it has nothing to do with love — it has everything to do with fear. 

Our level of self-worth, self-respect, and self-awareness will reflect in the boundaries we have and the boundaries we don´t have. The more we truly value ourselves and let go of our fear of “being kicked out of the tribe” (fear of rejection, abandonment, death) the easier it becomes to stand up for ourselves even if no one else understands our choice or agrees with our choice.

Setting a boundary can be hard, but sticking to it — is the real test. You cannot control other´s reactions. But, you can control your response: your communication, your choices, your actions — depending on how much Inner Work you have done; healing your traumas, deprogramming beliefs and convictions based on falsity and distortions, attaining right knowledge about the matter at hand, protecting yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and energetically. All of this and more - is your responsibility as the authority of your mind, body, and spirit. We all have this responsibility. No one else. Nothing else.

Setting a boundary needs to be done mentally, verbally, and through action. The action part means that we need to align our behaviors, choices, and actions with the boundary we have mentally and verbally set in motion. Without aligned action, the boundary will fall apart.

Be aware. Be resilient. Be vigilant. Be courageous. Take self-responsibility and self-leadership. In my world, setting boundaries grounded in authenticity and integrity — is an honorable act of Loving Kindness. 🔥❤️🔥

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@Nancielee09

Thoughtful & timely word for me. Dealing with keeping my word to myself. Externally, it’s never been a more needed time for boundaries. Thank you for allowing the universe to remind us through your words. Grateful...

4 years ago | 18

@tracydelia1144

"Giving in has nothing to do with love and everything to do with fear" — YES 🔥💜

4 years ago | 12

@lorrie3478

Right on! 💚 In gratitude to u... ✨🙏

4 years ago | 2

@MandaLynn8

Well said! I have been setting and honoring my boundaries for the first time this year. I'm 52 on the 14th. It's not always received well, especially by those I have always put before myself. This was tough for me, breaking my own patterns and respecting my own boundaries. I'm seeing results, but it's tough when it involves my granddaughter. She's 7 and the subject of an ugly custody battle. By respecting and loving myself I'm teaching her about self love and respect by example. If you are new in this process be determined. Be strong and stick to it. Everyone grows as a result. Thank you Kenneth for helping me grow. Cutting cords, healing my inner child, retrieving soul fractals, Even soul releases... you have been there for all the past few years. As a guide, healer and brother. You always felt so present during the meditations that were tearful releases. You are truly a gift from Divine Creator 🙏

4 years ago | 32

@peacemakerpac222

I am 62 and I have FINALLY set boundaries. For my entire life I have allowed others to hurt me, bully me in school, my own family members even. About a year ago I had a huge self awakening and I said NO MORE. I have been listening to your I AM meditations for a while now. They have certainly helped me along. I just finished a 3 week hike on the Northern California coast alone…absolutely no contact with anyone for 3 weeks, just ME AND GOD, It certainly was my most epic time so far. I am good and I am worthy and I am finally FREE!

4 years ago | 3

@aprildrury3398

Anointed words, stand tall brother! I start each day with your powerful “I am”meditations thank you kindly from the bottom of my heart!

4 years ago | 9

@analir7075

Phew, I needed to read this and be reminded of it. Thank you for sharing this wonderful message. It has always been a struggle for me to set boundaries and would end up “people pleasing” most of the time. I had to experience certain events/situations for me to finally stand my ground and realize my actions were not respecting myself. This helped me establish and enforce healthy boundaries in certain areas of my life. Love and light to all 💕

4 years ago | 3

@hotglassmcnash

Thank you Kenneth. This should be taught at an early age. We succumb to the masses and lose all site of who we are. Peace, love and light. True authenticity 💖💫

4 years ago | 6

@StardustReflections_Joelle

Almost Every Thing that I've learned about setting strong boundaries comes from your teachings. I use it for the highest good every day of my life. I AM Now a force to be reckoned with 💖The difference you have made in my sovereign sphere is exponential with far-reaching effect. 🙏

4 years ago | 2

@terigehrts4864

Your wisdom and insight always comes at the best time. I am sticking to my boundary to not be bullied or manipulated at work when I have been doing my job for 37 years. I stick to my boundary in a quiet, non-dramatic way and boy has the pot been stirred. Your words are encouraging. Thank you so much

4 years ago | 5

@lrfeathers4196

Right on Kenneth. There is true compassion & self love in setting a boundary right for you. AND If someone does try to push your boundary and manipulate and control you you can have compassion for them too that they are still operating in such fear. 💥💖💫

4 years ago | 1

@sarahmanzo4761

Well said, and just what I needed to start my day, I have been through alot of trauma in my life, and my own adult children know, and use it, to wear me down and manipulate me. They know I have trouble saying "no". For the last several months, I have been listening to your affirmations and meditations throughout the entire night, and it has made such a big difference, and I truly appreciate what you do, you're the absolute best!, Thank you from the bottom of my ❤!

4 years ago | 1

@wendyhouse9560

Dear Kenneth, your work and character have changed my life. Thank you.🙏

4 years ago | 1

@wandacorley7921

The Universe is Kind and Fair Always! This message has me sitting speachless and wide eyed...I take courage and comfort into the battle! I truly believe in this process! I know that I have much too do & I AM Grateful for your dedication and guidance! Love & Light Always All ways to You and your family Kenneth💜🙏🏽💜☄️

4 years ago | 3

@schmidtfarmers1389

Divine timing for this message. Infinite love and gratitude to us all, we are family. ❤🧡💛💚

4 years ago | 0

@ginger71859

I am so so grateful for your words right now going through rough times In my life boundaries have always been difficult for me. I am going to work on it again thank you for the reminder I love your meditations they keep me balanced. Sending my love!

4 years ago | 2

@MsJackalina

Beautiful, raw, and real! Truth hurts but if it hurts it’s cause you’re not in LOVE alignment. I really appreciate your words. I’ve been going inside and seeing how I’ve abused myself in so many ways by not setting boundaries and not truly being authentic with myself. Therefore, I’ve lied to myself and everyone around me. My hope is that I turn from these lies to myself and focus on LOVE! Love for myself 💕🙏🏽 Blessings to a

4 years ago | 1

@lisacampbell1929

Oh my goodness. Thank you I so resonate with what you’ve said here. Thank you dear soul!! I feel like I know you and I’m so connected to you and your work. The first time I listened to your guided meditation I could feel my brain shift in my skull. That is so deep. I know listening to your meditations are helping me. I did not take something offensive and internally last week. Instead it bounced off of me as I stood my ground!! I live you from my heart to your heart!! 🤗

4 years ago | 0

@redrover1940

Truer words were never spoken💚It is difficult to put in place and then maintain, but the end result is you are worth it. You must have enough self love and self respect before you can ask anyone else to honor you in that way. 🌷

4 years ago | 4

@tinagryder15

Thank you! I love your meditations..I listen every night..I know and see progress!

4 years ago | 0