the willingness to "work hard" might give you a good start but if you have no interest to support that push you will burn out without even reaching the middle goal. its so hard to do anything if you dont find it genuinely interesting, thats why it's important to search for things that excite you in your work, regardless what you do
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Life became so much easier for me when I figured this out. I'm 67, diagnosed at 42, and female. I didn't have the support of accounts such as yours and a couple of other carefully chosen educators. Thanks so much!
2 months ago | 11
Just finished my 20's when I turned 30 in November. I got this advice, and I can confirm, it's absolute nonsense. You'll get where you wanna be on your own time and on your own terms. c:
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True! Diagnosed at 39 after 2 burnouts. Still learning to allow myself to be, without pushing myself and feeling guilt and shame when I’m not productive.
2 months ago | 1
thank you, i guess its a horrid fear to watch everyone else run laps around you and then also convince yourself they arent better than you or harder workers.
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I burned out 3 years ago, up and quit my job, I knew something was wrong with me. After seeing doctors for 4yrs I got diagnosed with ADHD last week. I pushed and pushed, that's what I felt people were wanting me to do, I broke. Now I don't know what to do with my life, I forgot what brought me joy. Hindsight with knowing what I know now, would have helped so much. Don't be broken.
2 months ago | 3
That’s actually the most strong fact that I needed to hear before, we spend most of our time getting the wrong inputs without realizing that if we wanna win, we must gotta do it using our brains and only our inputs, not the inputs that you get on social media or the crazy gurus out there
2 months ago | 6
Everyone is different and that gives everyone different strengths and weaknesses. Regardless if you are neurodivergent or neurotypical, being the way that you are, regardless of whatever way that is means you can do things really well that other people couldn’t. If we all followed the business path, who would look after you in hospital, who would build houses, who would make music, who would grow your food or fix your car. It takes lots of different people to make this world as amazing as it can be.
2 months ago | 2
so true...thanks for posting this...those posts are so depressing and demotivating
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Trying to hustle in my 20s and do things like everyone else (go to college straight out of high school) , slowed down my progress and now im playing catch up in my mid thirties. Dont do what other people are doing just because its considered "normal"!
2 months ago | 0
REAL. I tried to start my own online business 2 years ago because of all the people that were saying "Hustle in your 20s". Now, I´m just burnout, isolated, mental illnesses aggravated, and behind everything in life... Fortunately I am having weekly therapy sessions now, but the bad effects still haven´t ceassed 😣
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In the 20s as adhd most of the time you don't know yet where your strength lies, some came over the time by trial and error. There is really no need to hustle. Just enjoy whatever you are doing. It's better to train a healthy and calm lifestyle, learn different hobbies (just keep the things,avoid to buy expensive things, - when you loose interest, don't throw it away, maybe a year or many years later you may have suddenly the urge to do this particular hobby again. Learn new habits which make you happy and calm down, you will need this later in your life. If you think, the 20s are horrible, wait, in the 40s sickness and pain enter an alliance against you.
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As someone who spent 15 years in the wrong career and needed a year outside of the classroom to figure out my true calling, just… YES. I was late diagnosed so that’s a part of it, and I needed that time to mess up and figure out what my values even were. I’m lucky in that I am single and able to organize an international move now that I know what I want, but I wish so much that I had gone easier on myself in my twenties. So for those who are still there: take a deep breath. Don’t be afraid to face the stuff that scares you. And if you have ADHD, get on those meds or figure out what treatment works, and THEN tackle what drives you. Sincerely, a former teacher in the last months before 40 😅
2 months ago (edited) | 7
100% true and once you figure that out even days more challenging than before are days you still want to get up
2 months ago | 1
Wow - such great advice. The push, results/outcome driven approach has not produced fulfilment rather recover repeat play but nothing sustainable.
2 months ago (edited) | 4
I just roll my eyes at the manifesting, discipline, strategizing, overworking, etcetc techniques these influencers tout. Their words and motivation utterly fail when pitted against my ADHD paralysis😂😂😂 My ADHD paralysis eats their pathetic attempts as a midnight snack and is left starving. They can't hold a candle to it. Ph
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I concur!! Signed, a totally burnt out almost-35 year old who worked really hard in her 20s. 😅
2 months ago | 0
By my 20s, I had already burned out from a lifetime of struggling in the public school system. And also the instability of a household where the adults were undiagnosed, badly managed ADHD. I spent a good stretch of my early 20s barely working and staying at home, but doing a lot of therapy, reading books for personal development, and connecting with my family. I’m glad I did now, even if I delayed finishing my BA in psych and missed some of the traditional career milestones
2 months ago | 0
ADHDVision
I’m so tired of all these posts telling you that you
"you have to hustle in your 20s".
If you have ADHD, do yourself a favor and gratefully ignore this advice.
It might be motivational in the short-term, but will just burn you out in the long term.
ADHD Success comes from ALLIGNMENT. With who YOU are.
YOUR strengths and YOUR values.
Not from willpower and "pushing" yourself. But from interest and PULLING yourself.
Chasing what naturally lights you up.
Not discipline.
Not willpower.
Not shame.
Start there and your brain will want to "hustle" all by itself.
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