Preach Hamza, it's crucial for a man to develop self respect before love. If a woman respects you she won't do any of these. Respect is what every men should strive for, even before love.
2 days ago | 134
This man is a walking blessing. Thank you for preaching and evolving alongside multiple generations of boys, and ultimately turning them into men. It's insane how common it is to get stuck in such a similar situation like this where your girl is just utter degenerate shit, and the most logical thing to do is to drop her, but you persist on trying to change her or keep making up excuses. It is frustrating from all angles, and I myself have dealt with this just last year (sophomore year of high school). The girl I had was so degenerate, she was so shallow yet filled with so much jealousy and hate towards other people. All she did was judge and disrespect others. She treated me LOWER than equal and that was my breaking point. Now, one year later, I am on a journey to become the masculine, stoic man I desire to be for my wife and kids. Thanks to the help of Hamza, he gave me the truth. He took the blinds off of my eyes so that I could see the damage. Now it is my responsibility to grow and thrive. Remember, there is no perfect time to start. Dear reader, your time is NOW.
4 hours ago | 1
I met this girl in a group project the other day. She has a boyfriend, and i noticed that when any male spoke to her she didnt even look them in the eye, not even the face, she looked in the direction. That is a loyal girlfriend.
1 day ago | 26
Damn! Looks like I need to thank God again for my wife. It seems I take her for granted with the shit you young men have to put up with. I'm so lucky and blessed, damn!
2 days ago | 73
The "good girls lie" part is the one I need to swallow the most, thanks Hamza
1 day ago | 5
This, right here, is a very hard pill to swallow. But the sooner you swallow it, the better.
1 day ago | 6
Thanks, man, you preached it right, more than my mind can. This is exactly what happened to me, but I accepted my mistakes, and now I'm grinding hard to have a comfortable and stable life, also for the right woman.
2 days ago | 3
I really hope you see this. These texts of you are so calming and informative and as someone who never reads books sadly i would 100% instantly by one if you bring one into the market. Ive been following your advices for some years now and maybe a masters type of book of all your essential topics would be so cool to read.
1 day ago | 1
I am a 22 yr old female and I have been following hamza since 2022. Whenever I tell about things like dressing properly and maintaining a distance with guys, they get angry and pissed. I am tired of telling them how to dress appropriately and they say the same shit hanza said - "we are showing our hips so that we feel good! " 😂🤦♀️ AND I KNOW THAT'S ABSOLUTELY A LIE AND IT'S A RUBBISH REASON!!
2 days ago | 36
The simple litmus test is Does she believe/add to your dreams and ideals? If her actions/words show she’s not even trying to contribute, you end the relationship.
2 days ago | 10
Ohh best believe I will put this to work. I will say it again good work Hamza 🐐
1 day ago | 0
Very true . Met someone and she was doing the degen activities. She promised she'd do the self improvement stuff with me, I told her I can't. Next thing you know she's posted a WhatsApp status smoking week just says after
1 day ago | 0
Only advice is to already leave those girls that do party and do drugs and date someone who doesn't do any of those stuff. I don't call any of those terms and you shouldn't either even through you know what those girls really are when they go into those party places and do crack but still have some respect for them at least cos they still human at the end of the day. I'm not saying you should love them or anything but for god sakes it's not like they murdering anyone aren't they like they just don't suit what you looking for in a wife, that's all it is. And, you have to find that suits you that like I said doesn't do any of those. Also, I don't agree with this not allowing her to have male friends like unless if she's doing anything with those guys I'm sure she's gonna keep a back burner with those guys and spend more time with you cos those guys are just that friends and not all friends aren't interested of hooking up with her cos well it's disrespectful to be sleeping around with their friend's girlfriend like those guys have self respect with themselves than you expect.
2 days ago | 3
God impressed on me a couple times now…strongly….that it will be the MEN who will save these girls. But not by dating them. By loving them, by lifting them up, into more truth and rightness. But first us men must save ourselves. Then we’ll become the father she didn’t have. So don’t hate the woman, understand them. They afraid, they’re lied to a lot, they’re weaker than we are. But first YOU must get strong.
2 days ago (edited) | 1
Hamza, brother, you are a leader. Your word choice is impacting men who are processing their own emotional trauma. When you use words like “cuck” “hoe” “simp” “degenshit” “hoe friends” it’s revealing a lot of unprocessed pain and shame you feel towards yourself and especially younger you. Your shadow is trying to beg you to heal the pain. These fixed, rigid ways of looking at this subliminally tells younger more impressionable men “good and bad are fixed. There is no room for nuance. People are either ‘this or that’”. How can you say and also preach about being a man of allah/love. Impart the wisdom of seeing people, their level of consciousness and associated positives and negatives, but don’t pass moral judgment on them. People engaging in these behaviors have pain and shame as is. The more we use such shame inducing language, the more we are furthering the problem. It makes people(both men and women) not want to look at the darker parts of themselves and understand what emotional needs they are trying to meet through sex. I love you man. But this reads more like a man in pain and not quite ready to truly sit with the wounds from a place of love and understanding rather than shame, control, and shadow projection.
2 days ago | 34
Hamza
If she’s hanging around hoes, she is one too. Simple.
I don’t care how special you think she is, I don’t care if she meditates once a month or occasionally reads a book. If her friends vape, party, cheat, post thirst traps, and do all that low-quality degenerate stuff, so does she (or she will eventually). Because you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
And don’t lie to yourself thinking you’ll “fix” her. You’re not going to put her on self-improvement. If she wasn’t doing it before she met you, she’s not doing it after. You can try to pull her away from her degen friends, and she’ll pretend like she’s on board. But the moment there’s a rough patch in your relationship? She’s right back to them. And if she’s back with the girls, she’s back to the habits too like drinking, clubbing, entertaining other guys.
Another big red flag: she turns other guys on. That should be obvious. But I’ve seen so many guys allow this to happen and just accept it because they’re “secure.” Nah, bro. That’s not security, that’s weakness. If a guy approaches your girl, that’s fine. It happens. But if she entertains him, if she smiles, giggles, has a little flirty convo, that’s complete betrayal. A respectful girl shuts it down, quick. “Me and my boyfriend come here all the time.” That’s all it takes. But if she hides the fact that she’s taken, even for a second, she’s a hoe. She’s feeding that guy’s ego and his testosterone just for fun. That’s hoe behavior.
I’ve had relationships where a guy approached my girl at the gym, and I watched her engage, point, laugh, act all friendly. That destroyed me. I walked away. I talked to my friends, big so called masculine guys, and they tried to gaslight me like it wasn’t a big deal. But I knew deep down it was a massive deal. Because she spoke to that guy three days in a row. She never once mentioned I was her boyfriend. I ended the relationship then and there. Degen girls will call me over the top, but at least I’m not a cuck.
I’ve seen this multiple times. A girl I'm getting to know entertains other guys, doesn’t mention me, and I instantly lose respect. Because how your girl behaves when you’re not looking tells you everything. If a girl doesn’t rep you in the first ten seconds of conversation with a guy, she’s not wife material.
And social media? Don’t even get me started. If your girl’s posting provocative photos, ass shots, cleavage, thirst traps, then she’s out here turning on other guys on purpose. That’s digital cheating. She’s giving free testosterone boosts to other men, and you’re out here just liking her story thinking everything’s okay.
If she’s snapping guys who’d sleep with her if she bent over, that’s hoe behavior. You know it. She knows it. Every girl knows which guy wants to fuck her. They’re not stupid. They entertain these convos because they love the attention. Don’t let them gaslight you into thinking it’s innocent. If she’s texting dudes that she knows would smash if they had the chance, she’s cheating on you emotionally, and it’s just a matter of time before it becomes physical.
And no, you can’t change her. Don’t play the blue pill game. Don’t think that if you love her enough, if you talk it out and explain your feelings, she’ll stop being a hoe. That’s not how it works. You’re not her savior. And you shouldn’t want to be. If she’s mentally broken, addicted to attention, and texting other dudes for her ego, that’s not your burden to fix.
You need to date girls who already know better than this. Girls who already believe what we’re talking about. Virtuous, religious women who don’t even entertain the idea of talking to random guys who just want to fuck. They’re out there. I’ve met girls like that in places like Bali, girls who come home and tell you first thing when a guy spoke to them. Girls who dress respectfully, not half-naked in ass-revealing shorts. There’s a clear difference between women who crave male attention and those who value modesty and loyalty.
Dressing matters. Don’t let degenerates lie to you. If she says she dresses sexy “for herself,” ask yourself what that even means. Is she looking at herself in the mirror getting turned on? Of course not. She dresses like that for male validation. A respectful woman won’t be putting her ass out on display for every dude to see. That’s just the truth. Modesty reflects character.
Even “good girls” lie. You’d be shocked how many seemingly sweet, artistic, innocent girls are out here doing degen shit behind closed doors. And they use something I call trickle truths.
They cheat, or flirt, or fuck another guy and then they tell you “we just kissed.”
Then later it becomes, “okay, we cuddled.”
Then, “okay, we had sex—but just once!”
And eventually it’s, “he came inside me and I might be pregnant and it’s not yours, but I still love you!”
That’s how it escalates. You get lied to step by step until you’re crushed.
I’ve seen it. I’ve lived it. My first girlfriend did this to me. I was a sweet, loyal simp bf and she trickle-truthed me into hell. Because I saw firsthand what these girls can do.
She told me she was just texting an old friend.
Then it was nudes.
Then it was sex.
And she acted like it was no big deal. That broke me, and I learned. That’s why I’m so redpilled now.
So what do you do about all this? You stop dating hoes. You stop ignoring your gut. You stop negotiating with girls who disrespect you. You don’t fix them, you replace them. With high-quality women who live by the same values as you.
Stop lying to yourself. Average guys out here are getting cheated on or will be soon, and they don’t even know it. They ignore their gut, believe her lies, and get played. Don’t be that average guy.
Do the hard work especially when you don’t feel like it.
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