There are many reasons why kids estrange their parents. I have done it off and on for the last 15 years. I expect no less from my kids. But to emphasize that people have no reason to cut off a toxic family member is both wrong and idiotic. Why spend time with someone who berates, belittles and sums up your nothing but a burden to pay them back for some nebulous idea that a parent should have. I am estranged from my father been so since I was 20. I am now 36. Not because I don’t reach out but because he doesn’t reach back. Sometimes you need to think and breathe and go touch grass.
1 year ago | 7
I was lost on Dr.Phil after his interview with Donald Trump ...Dr. Phil lost all credibility with me !
1 year ago | 3
i watched your first video and honestly not to attack you but that video to me explains to most people why shes estranged, i met a girl who was a freind of a friend, shes way younger, and she was very child like even in her 20's and then she got caught like a lamb to the slaughter in the worst stuff u can imagine and in her most broken moment rang me to tell me she had lied, when i asked if some thing was up before, so in her words "id hate her aswell" i got her to go to her mums, shes half the planet awy, n then over time n just by being there in her words i become the best dad shes got, id only ever been a step dad, n i only dont see my first step child because me n her mum split up, but even that child considers me her true parent, the girl who now just calls me dad, i managed to help some how her get back on her feet from rock bottom, n im mentaly ill n have my own crap n i aint perfect but she dnt keep me around cause she owes me, i make sure she knows she dnt owe me a thing, because as a parent your kids dont owe you, if your good to them and your consitantly there and they can come to u they will, just based on your own words, reactions and every thing youve done show most people exactly why she cut u out, when ive had bad episodes or i mess up i do this thing called, be sorry say it and show it, i value the few times my now daughter has gotten mad at me n lashed out with a hard truth, n i didnt get angry when she did it, i needed that, n i thank her for saying it cause now that helps me be grounded, ive ended up with a bunch of 20 something year olds who have parents like you, and i also have a mum like you, and that maybe why to them ive become a actual parent to them, cause i value what they have to say and how they feel cause all i want is to help them live as happy as they can be in this world, n i tell them when they say it that their real parents love them and are their real parents i never want or try to replace them, but for the ones who call me dad im a adult they can depend on to help them, cause as the parental role the only thing that truly matters is them, for you its very clear you only care about yourself, at no point did your actions reflect any sorry or accountablity, you seem to be unable to think that maybe you do have issues, its just alot, like the whole video is jaw dropping, there will have been a build up to her cutting u off and if you reacted to those lesser version of asking u to back off as you did to the letter, thats why she had to just cut u right off, because the ones who consider me dad, dnt get to that point, cause if i upset them which is rare tbh, they tell me, i listen and i say sorry, cause if i upset them even if that wasnt my intention i did some thing wrong in what i was trying to do, so i cant tell them they are wrong for misunderstanding me, thats me not conveying what im saying right, n they can talk to me, i can tell there is no talking to you, and thats why she gave up, my mum has only in the last few years started to say sorry, started to not be like you i guess, and now we have begun to get closer but the kid isnt always wrong, it takes 2 people to have a fight, n most fights come from not being able to communicate, and from how u deal with every thing, how your video shows u acting n responding, shows you cant be talked to resonded with, and you think your the centre of the universe, reminding her that u saved her life........ i never bring up what ive done for the ones i treat like my own, because its not like im keeping track cause they dnt owe me, being a parent is a selfless job, the reward is watching them do well, n i only fill that role cause it just happened, i dnt like seeing people suffer, n i know who i never had cause my mum was like you, so i had to learn to be my own parent, and now instead of being bitter when i see a person who needs that tiny thing of a adult who is putting them first and offering help to ease the crap and help them get through a day, thats the reward, u dnt do things for a thank you or a award, you do the right thing cause its the right thing to do, and its wild that u cant understand that u seem to be 90% of the issue, i dnt have kids but i got about 5 lil shts that call me dad not cause i asked even but cause thats who i become to them, and since they had a parent who is more about them and getting them on their feet n back in the fight, they have all turned their lives around and now they are all out their kicking butt, and they tell me its all me that got them there, n i always say no, i did hardly any thing, i gave you the options n give you some differnt perspectives to your problems, but you did the work, you took the advice n you got your self back on top and your doing good, keep it up, make me proud, n they all do, im not attacking you its just the fact u made that video and no point watched it n saw your self or heard your self n realised i should delete this n just own it that i messed up but ur trying to gather other people like ur self so u can all reassure ur selfs its ur kids fault n not yours, no it very much seems to be your fault, please rewatch your video and listen to your self, its shocking, i havnt typed this to shame you, i dnt think ur a bad person but you need to wake up and sort it out, and this is more me seeing some one who needs help and if u can even bare the thought of it this tell u exactly why its got this way, all the best, look inward, until you can be honest with yourself and realise when you was wrong, and truly be sorry, you will never be truly happy
1 week ago | 0
This is not about dr Phil but there is an article in The New York Times that’s interesting found it on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/C9bJWEeOUxW/?igsh=bjBqd2x1dDF6dml6
1 year ago | 0
Dr Phil is ok , he is really just an entertainer I think . Lot's of his stuff on Narcissism is very adversarial and not super healthy in my opinion.
5 months ago | 0
Haven't watched yet but I do know he contributed very much to the idea that parents are pretty much to blame for everything.
1 year ago | 12
I haven't watched it as I think Dr Phil it a bit of a git. I doubt I'll bother. Each situation is unique as each person is unique. I don't believe there's an answer which fits all estrangement scenarios.
1 year ago
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I didn’t know Dr. Phil had done an episode about estrangement! I have to watch it😁
1 year ago
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Never watch dr Phil anymore. Funny my middle daughter and I were just discussing if we would ever go on dr Phil with our estrangement story. (Oldest daughter is estranged also from her siblings. ) I would NEVER go public with our estrangement ever not even for a million buck.
1 year ago | 9
I cried during the entire thing. Both episodes. All I heard was she doesn't, she's toxic and it's better for me. And mothers saying I don't know ehy. They say open communication but how do you do that if there is absolutely no response. I did agree when Dr Phil asked the daughter, you do know you have all the power don't you?
1 year ago
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I don't think some people understand the devastation estrangement causes and how widespread the estrangement is.
1 year ago
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While I didn't watch the episode on Merit Media, I did watch the episode on Dr. Phil's YouTube channel, & I feel that, IMHO, that nothing was resolved between the mother/daughter that were featured. Granted, the episode was broken up into 2 videos (1 was 10-11 mins. long & the other was 15-16 mins. long); it seemed like there should have been a third video, but it wasn't posted to YouTube. Overall, I wasn't impressed with the episode as he could have had other psychologists, family therapists, etc... to dive deeper into why estrangement has become the norm.
1 year ago
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Estranged Parents
Estranged Parents—What did you think of Dr Phil's two shows on parental estrangement?
(You can watch the replays for free at meritplus.com)
1 year ago | [YT] | 22