Hey my beautiful friends… I wanted to come into this space with you today because something one of our community members said stayed with me, and the moment I read it, I knew so many others would feel the same way. They wrote:
“Everyone says, ‘let it go,’ but some things are not so easy to let go… and no one tells you how. Sometimes even if one wants to, one doesn’t know how.”
And I felt that in my chest because it’s true, we hear that phrase everywhere, in healing, in spirituality, in self development, in tarot. But no one breaks it down. No one explains what “letting go” actually looks like in real human life, inside a real nervous system, inside someone who has lived through real things.
So I want to sit with you here, slowly and gently, and talk about it in a way that feels human and doable, not mystical or vague, because every person deserves to understand how to release something without feeling lost or ashamed for struggling.
In my own life, I’ve held onto things far longer than I should have, not because I wanted to stay stuck, but because I was afraid of the version of myself I would have to grow into if I let it go. Transformation takes energy, awareness, courage… and sometimes we’re tired, or scared, or simply not ready yet. And that doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re human.
So let’s take this slowly.
Letting go starts with understanding. Letting go continues with honesty. Letting go completes with repetition.
Here’s how the process really works:
1. Get clear about what exactly you’re holding onto.
Letting go isn’t a vague energetic action, it’s identifying something specific. Is it a belief? A habit? A fear? A person? A memory? A version of yourself that no longer feels right?
When you name it, it stops being a shadow and becomes something you can actually face. Most people never take this step, and that’s why they feel stuck.
2. Understand what it has been doing for you.
Even painful things offer comfort or protection. Sometimes we hold onto something because it feels familiar. Sometimes it gives us an excuse not to take the next step. Sometimes it shields us from change we don’t feel ready for.
Letting go becomes easier when you realize, “I’m not weak, I was protecting myself.”
3. Let yourself grieve the version of you that lived with it.
Releasing something isn’t just about removing it, it’s about letting go of the identity attached to it. The you who was afraid. The you who fought to survive. The you who accepted less because you didn’t know better yet.
Grief is part of releasing. It’s normal to feel sadness, confusion, or emptiness on the way out of something.
4. Replace it with something you can hold instead.
Letting go creates a space, and your mind will fill that space automatically. So you want to choose what goes there.
A new thought. A new boundary. A new routine. A new belief about who you’re becoming.
When you give your mind something better to hold, letting go stops feeling like loss and starts feeling like transition.
5. Practice micro release, not big dramatic moments.
Letting go happens in tiny, consistent shifts, not in one perfect breakthrough.
It sounds like: “I don’t need to think that today.” “I don’t respond to that anymore.” “I choose differently this time.” “I’m ready to walk in a new direction.”
Small choices, repeated daily, create the release you’ve been trying to force.
6. And remember… letting go doesn’t mean forgetting.
It means the thing no longer decides your life or your identity. It means it doesn’t run the show. It means you are choosing to live from your present instead of your past.
I hope this helps someone who needed a real explanation, not a cliché, not a pretty phrase, but an actual starting point for healing.
Now I want to open this space to you…
If you’ve ever let go of something heavy, a habit, a fear, a person, a mindset, or a version of yourself, what truly helped you release it? What was the moment or practice that made a difference?
Your experiences might be exactly what someone else needs to read today.
Sacred Knowledge Tarot
Hey my beautiful friends… I wanted to come into this space with you today because something one of our community members said stayed with me, and the moment I read it, I knew so many others would feel the same way. They wrote:
“Everyone says, ‘let it go,’ but some things are not so easy to let go… and no one tells you how. Sometimes even if one wants to, one doesn’t know how.”
And I felt that in my chest because it’s true, we hear that phrase everywhere, in healing, in spirituality, in self development, in tarot.
But no one breaks it down.
No one explains what “letting go” actually looks like in real human life, inside a real nervous system, inside someone who has lived through real things.
So I want to sit with you here, slowly and gently, and talk about it in a way that feels human and doable, not mystical or vague, because every person deserves to understand how to release something without feeling lost or ashamed for struggling.
In my own life, I’ve held onto things far longer than I should have, not because I wanted to stay stuck, but because I was afraid of the version of myself I would have to grow into if I let it go. Transformation takes energy, awareness, courage… and sometimes we’re tired, or scared, or simply not ready yet. And that doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re human.
So let’s take this slowly.
Letting go starts with understanding.
Letting go continues with honesty.
Letting go completes with repetition.
Here’s how the process really works:
1. Get clear about what exactly you’re holding onto.
Letting go isn’t a vague energetic action, it’s identifying something specific.
Is it a belief?
A habit?
A fear?
A person?
A memory?
A version of yourself that no longer feels right?
When you name it, it stops being a shadow and becomes something you can actually face. Most people never take this step, and that’s why they feel stuck.
2. Understand what it has been doing for you.
Even painful things offer comfort or protection.
Sometimes we hold onto something because it feels familiar.
Sometimes it gives us an excuse not to take the next step.
Sometimes it shields us from change we don’t feel ready for.
Letting go becomes easier when you realize, “I’m not weak, I was protecting myself.”
3. Let yourself grieve the version of you that lived with it.
Releasing something isn’t just about removing it, it’s about letting go of the identity attached to it.
The you who was afraid.
The you who fought to survive.
The you who accepted less because you didn’t know better yet.
Grief is part of releasing.
It’s normal to feel sadness, confusion, or emptiness on the way out of something.
4. Replace it with something you can hold instead.
Letting go creates a space, and your mind will fill that space automatically. So you want to choose what goes there.
A new thought.
A new boundary.
A new routine.
A new belief about who you’re becoming.
When you give your mind something better to hold, letting go stops feeling like loss and starts feeling like transition.
5. Practice micro release, not big dramatic moments.
Letting go happens in tiny, consistent shifts, not in one perfect breakthrough.
It sounds like:
“I don’t need to think that today.”
“I don’t respond to that anymore.”
“I choose differently this time.”
“I’m ready to walk in a new direction.”
Small choices, repeated daily, create the release you’ve been trying to force.
6. And remember… letting go doesn’t mean forgetting.
It means the thing no longer decides your life or your identity.
It means it doesn’t run the show.
It means you are choosing to live from your present instead of your past.
I hope this helps someone who needed a real explanation, not a cliché, not a pretty phrase, but an actual starting point for healing.
Now I want to open this space to you…
If you’ve ever let go of something heavy, a habit, a fear, a person, a mindset, or a version of yourself, what truly helped you release it? What was the moment or practice that made a difference?
Your experiences might be exactly what someone else needs to read today.
Love Always,
Rhea 💗
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