Then after helping raise other peopleās kids they want you to be the caretakers of the elders in the family later down the line. When can my life actually be my own? I chose the life I live for reason! š
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Oldest daughter thoughts šš¾āāļø all facts !
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Tbh parents destroyed the concept of a village. I canāt even count how many times Iāve heard āyou wouldnāt understand, you donāt have kids.ā You donāt have to give birth to not have common sense or compassion for motherhoodā¦
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Justice for childfree eldest daughters āš½āš¾
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I love how the younger generations of black women are standing up for themselves. Good for you. Dont let these folks gaslight you. šš¾šš¾
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As a mother you do raise a very valid point. Just because you never bore children doesnāt mean you havenāt reared children
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Yessss and people always say āit takes a villageā but they donāt want anybody saying anything to their kidsā¦
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Say it for the bitter ones in the back!! I raised so many children before I was 16 yrs old! Washed, cleaned, fed, bathed, and went over homework. But was always told I couldn't have an opinion smh. Now I am a mommy and only want my 1 child because I'm TIRED lol. I'd never criticize childless women for speaking on child raising issues. Stop acting like we haven't been adultifiying our girls since forever.
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Exactly! Weāve been mothers or trained to be ones since we came out the womb. Honestly when you donāt have children, people tend to think you should be helping with theirs. Itās never ending
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As an eldest daughter, who was a caregiver to my terminally ill mom for 7 years starting at age 14. I said I would never have kids after that. My little bro and I are close, but I had to move 888 miles away to get peace and live for myself. I am also no contact with my dad because he was useless the entire time. Childfree because damn leave me alone.
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Exactly!šš¾ As an oldest of 6, being hounded about having kids as if I donāt know what Iām āmissing out onā, & as if I didnāt already experience 2nd hand motherhood is also wild to me. Let us live, laugh, love in peace!
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My sister and I (22 & 25) cheer each other all the time about making past the years that our mother and older sisters started having children. Helping take care of TEN nieces & nephews took a toll, we donāt want children. We got each otherās backs when it comes to our family putting pressure on us for children & husbandsšš¾
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as an eldest sister of 6, child free by choice I feel this so deeply ššš im only 26 and im still tired from all of t
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Some of the parents want only the benefits that come with having the village. Soon as you question things you donāt have kids and donāt have a say so.. but you trust me enough to be with your kidsā¦.
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As the oldest daughter with significant years in between siblings I agree. Not only this coming from other people but the parents themselves. I donāt know how many times I was told to āwatchā my brother but had no say so in the discipline of him because āheās not my childā š¤¦š½āāļø this caused a strain in our sister/brother relationshi
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Just because you are a parent don't mean you know how to be a parent. They have it confused.
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Makes perfect sense. There are mothers who go through the whole birthing process yet donāt feel or act like mothers. If youāve been a mother figure to kids that you didnāt birth, you definitely know something about motherhood.
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My unwillingness to be a parent today was bc I was forced to be a parent as a child . My womb is closed for business indefinitely. Iām focusing on giving that child in me a chance to enjoy what was stolen . Women who have experienced this DESERVE to do whatever they want with their lives . Bake sales, PT meetings , DRās visits .. I did it all while the boys in my family got to remain kids . Bump all this socialization pressure to be a breeder.
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Real Talk With Yanie
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