How similar does our experience have to be to another person's to understand that person? There are some things I haven't "got" until I experienced them myself for certain, but I've also found myself able to understand what others *could* be feeling by searching for the underlying motivations. For example, I don't find sports to be a measure of myself, for me it's just fun, so if a sports player lost a game, my initial reaction would be "but it was still fun, what's the big deal?" However, I do understand that I care how well a video does, not just how proud of the writing I was. I know that we can derive both fun and value from our activities, so I can understand why someone would be upset at losing a game and adjust my reaction to be more appropriate because I get the a quality of the action, not the action itself. I've had a situation recently where someone seemed to minimize the importance of something I was deeply worried about, and I'm honestly trying to weigh how valid a reaction anger would be to their minimizing. (Is anyone actually reading this far? If you are, check out my "Human Curated Video Essays" playlist when you need something to watch. It's great, thoughtful content by people who deserve your attention)
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How similar does our experience have to be to another person's to understand that person?
There are some things I haven't "got" until I experienced them myself for certain, but I've also found myself able to understand what others *could* be feeling by searching for the underlying motivations. For example, I don't find sports to be a measure of myself, for me it's just fun, so if a sports player lost a game, my initial reaction would be "but it was still fun, what's the big deal?" However, I do understand that I care how well a video does, not just how proud of the writing I was. I know that we can derive both fun and value from our activities, so I can understand why someone would be upset at losing a game and adjust my reaction to be more appropriate because I get the a quality of the action, not the action itself.
I've had a situation recently where someone seemed to minimize the importance of something I was deeply worried about, and I'm honestly trying to weigh how valid a reaction anger would be to their minimizing.
(Is anyone actually reading this far? If you are, check out my "Human Curated Video Essays" playlist when you need something to watch. It's great, thoughtful content by people who deserve your attention)
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