Today was a special day. For the first time since secondary school, I made a flower arrangement with floral foam (steekschuim in Dutch). You put the foam in flowerpot and you make the foam a bit wet. Then you could place all kind of flowers and other pieces/things in the foam. I did this at my work with my departement.
It was very nice. When I began I thought I will not succeed, but later on I was happy with the result. And that counts. Taking part is more important than winning. Same thing as I play games with christmas. When I was a little boy, I always wanted to win. But now, it's important that I complete an assignment with a nice result for myself.
I will not give some flowers away like this. It was a bit of a mess. But I like the result. A few time ago I had to saw some branches. In the past my father learnt me how to do it. But at that time I gave to much power, so I got problems with my hands, a sort of pain. And last time I did it much softer and I did it much better.
I think age is a very important factor, getting milder and smarter. My father didn't understand back then why I don't want to do jobs around the house. He always wanted to correct me while he couldn't do it himself. Everything I do was wrong. That's one of the reasons, why I want to give other people compliments, because I didn't get any good response from my father back then. He was awfull.
Giving people compliments works for the ones you give one. But it also makes me happy! I like to see people happy. Especially when it are my beloved people! I experienced a lot in the past in a bad way, and I want to change it into something good. Shouting at people isn't my way, just as correcting people while you aren't much better.
I am still learning to ask people questions about other things then my own interesses. My view is very narrow. Of course of my autism, I am very narrow with things. For people who didn't already know, I know much about house music between 80s and 10s, food, drinks, and some other things. Asking questions to other people will learn you new things. And just as about giving compliments, you will learn about someone else.
Talk about hobbies makes people happy when they are talking about what they like. And I think that's very nice. Oke, sometimes it looks like an interview instead of a normal talk. I agree with that. I hope it also gives the other party a sign of interesse. And I learn more about their way of thinking.
I think it's enough thoughts for today. Hopefully I am going to sleep very well tonight. Without any stress in my shoulders. I stressed a lot the past months.
Hinco Heemskerk
Hello everybody,
Today was a special day. For the first time since secondary school, I made a flower arrangement with floral foam (steekschuim in Dutch). You put the foam in flowerpot and you make the foam a bit wet. Then you could place all kind of flowers and other pieces/things in the foam. I did this at my work with my departement.
It was very nice. When I began I thought I will not succeed, but later on I was happy with the result. And that counts. Taking part is more important than winning. Same thing as I play games with christmas. When I was a little boy, I always wanted to win. But now, it's important that I complete an assignment with a nice result for myself.
I will not give some flowers away like this. It was a bit of a mess. But I like the result. A few time ago I had to saw some branches. In the past my father learnt me how to do it. But at that time I gave to much power, so I got problems with my hands, a sort of pain. And last time I did it much softer and I did it much better.
I think age is a very important factor, getting milder and smarter. My father didn't understand back then why I don't want to do jobs around the house. He always wanted to correct me while he couldn't do it himself. Everything I do was wrong. That's one of the reasons, why I want to give other people compliments, because I didn't get any good response from my father back then. He was awfull.
Giving people compliments works for the ones you give one. But it also makes me happy! I like to see people happy. Especially when it are my beloved people! I experienced a lot in the past in a bad way, and I want to change it into something good. Shouting at people isn't my way, just as correcting people while you aren't much better.
I am still learning to ask people questions about other things then my own interesses. My view is very narrow. Of course of my autism, I am very narrow with things. For people who didn't already know, I know much about house music between 80s and 10s, food, drinks, and some other things. Asking questions to other people will learn you new things. And just as about giving compliments, you will learn about someone else.
Talk about hobbies makes people happy when they are talking about what they like. And I think that's very nice. Oke, sometimes it looks like an interview instead of a normal talk. I agree with that. I hope it also gives the other party a sign of interesse. And I learn more about their way of thinking.
I think it's enough thoughts for today. Hopefully I am going to sleep very well tonight. Without any stress in my shoulders. I stressed a lot the past months.
Yours Sincerely,
Hinco
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