The struggles and countless failures in my life were the senseless effort to fit into society. At 55 it is hard to start over again, but I am doing it anyway. There is a superpower ADHD have: standing up again after failing 10.000 times
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"The strangest thing about ADHD, is you forget that you have it" LMAO😂
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I have just been diagnosed with the inattentive form of ADHD at age 65. As I look back on my life I understand why I felt like I was different. The learning disabilities especially. But, in those days they were only starting to research it. So, they did not have the help that was needed in school. I really appreciate the videos that Nik posts. I have started to understand why I am like I am. When I watched the one that said that when “we” are told that we needed, had to or should do something, we rebel or shut down. That’s exactly what I have always done. So, I said to myself, maybe I should tell myself that I WANT to do it. It’s like the clouds parted and the sun came out!! I actually got excited! That usually doesn’t happen about anything!! So, when I think, I have to do something, I say “back up “ and then say that I want to do it! Thank you so much Nik for sharing your experience!!
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I had a therapist for 10 years who insisted on trying to help me do things the "standard" way. It was so stressful for me. She didn't believe that I had ADHD. It really messed me up for my own therapist to gaslight me (I don't think she did it maliciously). My new clinical psychologist has changed my life in just a few months. She's made me feel like I'm not broken and that it's okay to acknowledge that some things (e.g. 9 to 5 desk job) just aren't for me and she's helped me figure out what DOES work for me. I've even quit my day job and now work for myself, make my own schedule, etc, it's working really well.
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I recently learned that I have ADHD. I had unknowingly built my own strategies in life to make things a bit easier. Since finding out my diagnosis, it feels like my symptoms have spun out of control. I need to find a pause or reset button and try to get all the things back to my "normal" level and catch my breath. The overwhelm is hitting hard. And all the talk of learning strategies isn't helping..... that is adding more stress.
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the worst part is when they think you function like them and give you advices like "yeah I was like that too but I did this, you have to really put in the effort and you'll get there, it was hard for me as well"... and we're like "how can I explain it to you that nope... it doesn't work like that for me". They just think we don't try hard enough or that we don't care enough to change u.u
4 months ago | 17
Yes 👍 you cannot be defined by any one but your self, the scapegoat, the black sheep the outsider. And the herd will not be followed...... No never. BEST WISHES ❤️✔
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I’m just coming to realize why I’ve had struggles with focus for extended periods of time. ADHD has been there the whole time. Multiple projects going on, bored easily, (especially in school), only feel comfortable in sports or during movement activities, trying to set my life up to be enhanced by this gift
4 months ago | 11
Yea this is a hell of a struggle because people perceive me as if I just don’t want to do anything but it’s like no matter how hard I try in these areas how others do I just end up not having the capacity to do it and plus I’m undiagnosed I’m only able to identify it from what I learned and what I go through
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When I worked in our business, every single time I went out to measure up for curtains I'd get in my car and think, 'How hard can it be?? After all, the others manage it okay...' But I just found it stressful every time. And there was the occasion when I'd measured the finished drop as 45 inches but wrote down 54! Lucky for me it wasn't the other way around. This was all years before my diagnosis.
4 months ago | 3
The Patey Twins’ book “Addicts and Millionaires” helped me love this gift
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Get a bunch of us in a room. Guarantee we've solved the world's problems in our heads because 95% of the people are looking at public health issues the same old way.
4 months ago | 6
I had to start over reading your post several times… cause my brain just clicked off for unknown reason. Im tired of fighting myself every waking moment to be able to do something.
4 months ago | 2
Totally agree! It's confusing to me! It's frustrating as well when ALL Youtube videos say you have to do this or that. It may be the opposite of what I need!
4 months ago | 2
important question, as a adhd guy what is your profession/career entail, is it mostly physical or is it straight office work, im working towards office work but the thought of sitting 8 hours a day gets me nervous
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Y'all may enjoy Joy Oladokun's song, "Trying." You can find it here on Youtube.
4 months ago | 0
And the other hard part is that everyone’s ADHD is different so what works for one doesn’t work for another.
4 months ago | 0
What is your view of chatgpt for work? I have the feeling it helps me beat procrastination and do more work faster as i feel that some hard parts will be taken care by the AI. Idk if this will last forever though :) What is your experience? Is the productivity of an adhd’er with chatgpt different than an non-adhd?
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ADHDVision
Most people don’t realize how challenging it is to accept that what works for 95% of people often has the opposite effect on the ADHD brain. The real struggle lies in reminding yourself of this every single day, especially when you see nearly everyone around you doing things differently.
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