It's important that on our journey through life that we learn to understand what brings us peace and happiness. We are designed to seek out peace and happiness. Our hearts naturally desire intrinsic and extrinsic fulfilment.
Intrinsic fulfilment is controlled by our emotional desires. These desires relate to feelings of belonging, kinship, respect, intimacy, social equality, social recognition, etc. While, our extrinsic fulfilments are about rewards/materialism but also relate to having access to a stable environment, food, water, or anything physically tangible.
People can at times be operating from our desire for extrinsic fulfilment. This means we are searching outside of ourselves for something tangible. Once we find an item that we perceive as of value, it creates a sense of emotional momentum that never actually reaches a climax.
You would think this means the feeling of satisfaction is long lasting. However, it actually means that the feeling for satisfaction has not been reached. This is because the object of desire can only offer momentary fulfilment.
For example, extrinsic fulfilment can be like a sugar high or feeling hungry. The food is of value until your appetite is satisfied. Your favourite food is your favourite until you turn off it or it becomes less desirable. This is all external/extrinsic because it offers momentary satisfaction. Except that food being a physiological need means there is a climax as it reduces hunger.
However, in cases of over eating and obesity this strengthens my thoughts behind an emotion, never reaching a climax or being fulfilled because the eating continues. This is an attempt to emotionally/intrinsically satisfy themselves with something extrinsically.
Which means there is a dependency on extrinsic motivations but a clear inability to emotionally satisfy their intrinsic needs. Intrinsic fulfilment is generally the main goal, as the need for intrinsic fulfilment is the main reason for seeking out anything extrinsic. Extrinsic fulfilment is like a seat filler for the main objective, which is to feel emotionally fulfilled.
Another example, a child gets a new toy, they begin to play with the toy, but all of a sudden, the toy is not stimulating. They dont feel that their desire for discovery has been fulfilled. They received an extrinsic reward, something tangible, but their feelings of fulfilment could not be maintained. It never fully satisfied their desire.
The main point is that external satisfaction offers momentary happiness and peace. However, it's intrinsic satisfaction that reaps the most rewards. This is because intrinsic fulfilment can offer longer, lasting emotional satisfaction that is more easily accessible. It's not something that is usually scarce. For example, spending time with family and friends, doing good deeds, helping others in need, showing respect, supporting others, using kind words, encouraging others, and giving back.
To further elaborate, spending time with family and friends offers a sense of belonging and community. This can prompt feelings of togetherness, comradeship, and kinship that develop a deep connection to self and those around us. These experiences motivate us extrinsically and maintain a feeling of emotional satisfaction.
Another example is doing good deeds and helping others to create a sense of emotional achievement that serves a purpose. This creates a deeper sense of community that surrounds encouragement and a strong sense of community and belonging. This leads to feelings of liveliness, inspiration, and the warm and fuzzies. As a result of being there to help others and gaining feelings of achievement through doing something that makes you feel good and serves a much higher purpose in the lives of others. The feeling of doing gooder energy has such a positive influence on our inner world and can lead to feeling intrinsically fulfilled.
You're able to set away from clinical and rigid systems and get back to basics. This allows us to focus more on the well-being and feelings of others. Opposed to expectations that surround ticking boxes and fulfilling requirements that prompt a less humanised approach in many areas. You're living for the experience rather than living to meet a standard. A standard that will continue to be a requirement.
The focus is small but meaningful acts that can create a sense of connection that helps to maintain our feelings of happiness and peace. It contextualises our lives using emotionally driven experiences to stimulate and revive our inner world. This gives our lives meaning through learning to use real-life and hands-on experiences that we can create, action, and maintain for ourselves.
In conclusion, the child was never going to be satisfied with the toy. They were searching for something more meaningful. Maybe the child wasn't ready to understand what really made them happy.
As adults, we understand that we can't settle with extrinsic fulfilment. If we are settling, our hearts/souls will become restless and unsatisfied. We learn that we CAN NOT put our happiness and progress in the hands of others or objects, something we consider tangible. What's most tangible and satisfying is the simplest act. Not connected to personal gain.
Astro Wolf
It's important that on our journey through life that we learn to understand what brings us peace and happiness. We are designed to seek out peace and happiness. Our hearts naturally desire intrinsic and extrinsic fulfilment.
Intrinsic fulfilment is controlled by our emotional desires. These desires relate to feelings of belonging, kinship, respect, intimacy, social equality, social recognition, etc. While, our extrinsic fulfilments are about rewards/materialism but also relate to having access to a stable environment, food, water, or anything physically tangible.
People can at times be operating from our desire for extrinsic fulfilment. This means we are searching outside of ourselves for something tangible. Once we find an item that we perceive as of value, it creates a sense of emotional momentum that never actually reaches a climax.
You would think this means the feeling of satisfaction is long lasting. However, it actually means that the feeling for satisfaction has not been reached. This is because the object of desire can only offer momentary fulfilment.
For example, extrinsic fulfilment can be like a sugar high or feeling hungry. The food is of value until your appetite is satisfied. Your favourite food is your favourite until you turn off it or it becomes less desirable. This is all external/extrinsic because it offers momentary satisfaction. Except that food being a physiological need means there is a climax as it reduces hunger.
However, in cases of over eating and obesity this strengthens my thoughts behind an emotion, never reaching a climax or being fulfilled because the eating continues. This is an attempt to emotionally/intrinsically satisfy themselves with something extrinsically.
Which means there is a dependency on extrinsic motivations but a clear inability to emotionally satisfy their intrinsic needs. Intrinsic fulfilment is generally the main goal, as the need for intrinsic fulfilment is the main reason for seeking out anything extrinsic. Extrinsic fulfilment is like a seat filler for the main objective, which is to feel emotionally fulfilled.
Another example, a child gets a new toy, they begin to play with the toy, but all of a sudden, the toy is not stimulating. They dont feel that their desire for discovery has been fulfilled. They received an extrinsic reward, something tangible, but their feelings of fulfilment could not be maintained. It never fully satisfied their desire.
The main point is that external satisfaction offers momentary happiness and peace. However, it's intrinsic satisfaction that reaps the most rewards. This is because intrinsic fulfilment can offer longer, lasting emotional satisfaction that is more easily accessible. It's not something that is usually scarce. For example, spending time with family and friends, doing good deeds, helping others in need, showing respect, supporting others, using kind words, encouraging others, and giving back.
To further elaborate, spending time with family and friends offers a sense of belonging and community. This can prompt feelings of togetherness, comradeship, and kinship that develop a deep connection to self and those around us. These experiences motivate us extrinsically and maintain a feeling of emotional satisfaction.
Another example is doing good deeds and helping others to create a sense of emotional achievement that serves a purpose. This creates a deeper sense of community that surrounds encouragement and a strong sense of community and belonging. This leads to feelings of liveliness, inspiration, and the warm and fuzzies. As a result of being there to help others and gaining feelings of achievement through doing something that makes you feel good and serves a much higher purpose in the lives of others. The feeling of doing gooder energy has such a positive influence on our inner world and can lead to feeling intrinsically fulfilled.
You're able to set away from clinical and rigid systems and get back to basics. This allows us to focus more on the well-being and feelings of others. Opposed to expectations that surround ticking boxes and fulfilling requirements that prompt a less humanised approach in many areas. You're living for the experience rather than living to meet a standard. A standard that will continue to be a requirement.
The focus is small but meaningful acts that can create a sense of connection that helps to maintain our feelings of happiness and peace. It contextualises our lives using emotionally driven experiences to stimulate and revive our inner world. This gives our lives meaning through learning to use real-life and hands-on experiences that we can create, action, and maintain for ourselves.
In conclusion, the child was never going to be satisfied with the toy. They were searching for something more meaningful. Maybe the child wasn't ready to understand what really made them happy.
As adults, we understand that we can't settle with extrinsic fulfilment. If we are settling, our hearts/souls will become restless and unsatisfied. We learn that we CAN NOT put our happiness and progress in the hands of others or objects, something we consider tangible. What's most tangible and satisfying is the simplest act. Not connected to personal gain.
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