The video I posted, "A Narcissist's Opinion About You Is Law", is another form of gaslighting. We all judge people and events everyday. Some are intentional and some come into our minds as passing thoughts. When in comes to our relationships, you have to remember a few things to protect yourself from the effects of being told by others "who you are".
Notice if you are idealizing your partner, relationship with friends, family, or coworkers. When we idealize someone we want them to think good about us. This opens the door into believing in their criticisms of us, trying to change FOR THEM so they'll accept you (into their cult of one), and second guessing your own unique beliefs about yourself or clown world.
There are several conscious and unconscious behaviors used to get you comply to the gaslighter's way of thinking; criticisms, their black and white thinking of you and the world, mind reading-telling you what you think and feel, and telling you how others perceive you. To defend each others egos, you can both participate in justifiable blame shifting. Unfortunately, this solves nothing and builds a huge mountain of resentments, fear, hate, and anger.
If you want to learn how to combat the different levels of gaslighting, I suggest you read "The Gaslight Effect" by Dr. Robin Stern. After reading this book I realized that I did many things listed without understanding the effects it had on my people/children (I couldn't care w/o empathy), my own insecurities I was protecting, and the combative anger by having to be right all the time. I also saw these things happening to me throughout my life and why I thought it was normal behavior. Several great take aways; learning about ourselves, why we do these things or accept these behaviors over time, and how to correct it.
We can't forgive what we don't understand. Hate keeps you stuck in HELL, repeating the same patterns and blaming everyone else for our own unconscious projections. Do you want peace or do you want to fight dragons your whole life? Let me tell you a little secret....the dragon is you.
cLuStEr B MiLkShAkE
The video I posted, "A Narcissist's Opinion About You Is Law", is another form of gaslighting. We all judge people and events everyday. Some are intentional and some come into our minds as passing thoughts. When in comes to our relationships, you have to remember a few things to protect yourself from the effects of being told by others "who you are".
Notice if you are idealizing your partner, relationship with friends, family, or coworkers. When we idealize someone we want them to think good about us. This opens the door into believing in their criticisms of us, trying to change FOR THEM so they'll accept you (into their cult of one), and second guessing your own unique beliefs about yourself or clown world.
There are several conscious and unconscious behaviors used to get you comply to the gaslighter's way of thinking; criticisms, their black and white thinking of you and the world, mind reading-telling you what you think and feel, and telling you how others perceive you. To defend each others egos, you can both participate in justifiable blame shifting. Unfortunately, this solves nothing and builds a huge mountain of resentments, fear, hate, and anger.
If you want to learn how to combat the different levels of gaslighting, I suggest you read "The Gaslight Effect" by Dr. Robin Stern. After reading this book I realized that I did many things listed without understanding the effects it had on my people/children (I couldn't care w/o empathy), my own insecurities I was protecting, and the combative anger by having to be right all the time. I also saw these things happening to me throughout my life and why I thought it was normal behavior. Several great take aways; learning about ourselves, why we do these things or accept these behaviors over time, and how to correct it.
We can't forgive what we don't understand. Hate keeps you stuck in HELL, repeating the same patterns and blaming everyone else for our own unconscious projections. Do you want peace or do you want to fight dragons your whole life? Let me tell you a little secret....the dragon is you.
Namaste 🌈🐔
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