"We can't forgive what we don't understand." Man, that's heavy lifting. Out here doing the work, thank you for helping me along the way.
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What makes us human is discernment or the ability to judge. People that say not to judge others are denying one the primary qualities that distinguishes us as a species. Everyone judges others whether they admit it or not the point is to actually get good at it. If you’re a poor judge of character for example, you’re gonna have a bad time. Part of being a good judge is knowing yourself inside and out otherwise how can you have a solid base from which to judge others? So don’t just judge, judge well. What qualities make a good judge? Clarity? Integrity? Yes but also fairness. So judging ourselves fairly is the first step to judging others fairly. Judge well my friends. But don’t take no shit.✌️
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What makes us human is discernment or the ability to judge. People that say not to judge others are denying one of the primary abilities that distinguishes us as a species. Everyone judges others whether they admit it or not the point is to actually get good at it. If you’re a poor judge of character for example, you’re gonna have a bad time. Part of being a good judge is knowing yourself inside and out otherwise how can you have a solid base from which to judge others? So don’t just judge, judge well. What qualities make a good judge? Clarity? Integrity? Yes but also fairness. So judging ourselves fairly is the first step to judging others fairly. Judge well my friends. But don’t take no shit.✌️
4 months ago (edited) | 1
cLuStEr B MiLkShAkE
The video I posted, "A Narcissist's Opinion About You Is Law", is another form of gaslighting. We all judge people and events everyday. Some are intentional and some come into our minds as passing thoughts. When in comes to our relationships, you have to remember a few things to protect yourself from the effects of being told by others "who you are".
Notice if you are idealizing your partner, relationship with friends, family, or coworkers. When we idealize someone we want them to think good about us. This opens the door into believing in their criticisms of us, trying to change FOR THEM so they'll accept you (into their cult of one), and second guessing your own unique beliefs about yourself or clown world.
There are several conscious and unconscious behaviors used to get you comply to the gaslighter's way of thinking; criticisms, their black and white thinking of you and the world, mind reading-telling you what you think and feel, and telling you how others perceive you. To defend each others egos, you can both participate in justifiable blame shifting. Unfortunately, this solves nothing and builds a huge mountain of resentments, fear, hate, and anger.
If you want to learn how to combat the different levels of gaslighting, I suggest you read "The Gaslight Effect" by Dr. Robin Stern. After reading this book I realized that I did many things listed without understanding the effects it had on my people/children (I couldn't care w/o empathy), my own insecurities I was protecting, and the combative anger by having to be right all the time. I also saw these things happening to me throughout my life and why I thought it was normal behavior. Several great take aways; learning about ourselves, why we do these things or accept these behaviors over time, and how to correct it.
We can't forgive what we don't understand. Hate keeps you stuck in HELL, repeating the same patterns and blaming everyone else for our own unconscious projections. Do you want peace or do you want to fight dragons your whole life? Let me tell you a little secret....the dragon is you.
Namaste 🌈🐔
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