Okay, everyone. We are going to talk about this once, and only once. I will say my peace, and then we will not be talking about this further.
I want to address what happened with the video from the other day in detail because I am seeing many people spread what seems like lies, and I want to clarify what I actually said; since the video is gone, I can't point to that. I also want to apologize where one is due.
Context:
If you did not see it, my video from the other day was about a viral TikTok series about a mom who wore a 24/7 BDSM collar, the first of which showed text on the screen stating, "Watching all of the hate videos on eternity collars knowing my mother has been wearing one for years and everything everyone is saying is true". In follow-up TikToks, further abuse perpetuated by this mother and her partner was outlined. The creator of this series of videos called on the BDSM community to speak about this issue and to bring awareness to it. I was asked repeatedly for my take on what happened by members of my community, so I made a video about it. I was disgusted by the abuse and the previous responses that had been made and wanted to speak on it. I also tried to investigate the context around the original viral video and what the "hate videos" it referenced were saying because the term "hate video" seemed troubling to me.
FIRSTLY: I want to apologize for not reaching out to this creator beforehand to let them know I was making a video. I messed up and created a lot of pain and discomfort by not doing that. I follow a general rule of thumb: if I speak on an issue involving a non-creator who goes one-off viral, I will let them know I am making a video and ask if I can cover the story. I did this with my recent "viral bruise story" video. If I am speaking about an issue involving someone who is a content creator and/or asking for people to talk about a story, I do not typically reach out. Especially when the story has gotten way, way more attention than I would get from my platform. I believe this is in line with industry standards on YouTube. The original viral video had 13,000,000 views and several follow-ups had view counts in the millions and hundreds of thousands as well. You may or may not agree that this is a good heuristic to follow, and I plan to reconsider it in the future.
More importantly, this is an apology that ONLY the original creator can reject or accept. I have already apologized in private, and that is what really matters. However, I want it to be transparent to my audience and others who see this that I believe I made a mistake in not reaching out ahead of time. It is not up to anyone else to determine whether or not I am 'forgiven' (though I do not ask for forgiveness), or whether or not what I did was wrong or hurtful.
The day the video was released I was shocked by the amount of attention it got. I woke up at 6 am to hundreds of comments, most of which were either supportive or critical (but in a productive way). Unfortunately, with the nature of social media, it also attracted a lot of what I will call kink-critical types, especially after I posted the link to the video on Twitter. I worked very hard the whole day from 6 am to 5 pm to try and keep the comment section in check. I had an endless stream of comments like, "These freaks should be sterilized," "Kinky freaks shouldn't be allowed around children," "What did you expect, all 'Doms' are just abusers," or "Kink is just an excuse, for men to beat women sexually." More of the same comments I talked about happening on TikTok, and even worse that got captured by the YouTube filter. Plus, many personal attacks about my voice and appearance that only existed to attempt to hurt my feelings. This mostly came from no-name accounts with names like "user_09242fsfl1f203". I am a tough girl, and those things don't bother me, but I don't want to have a comment section that devolves into attacking fellow commentators and trying to bait others to upset them. Eventually, I couldn't keep up with them. So that was already going on. I used this as the original reason I removed the video because the other creator wanted privacy, and I did not want anything that could even seemingly point back to them and encourage bad actors to dig around. Even if they had not asked me to remove the content, I was already considering doing so based on this harassment.
Evie Lupine
Okay, everyone. We are going to talk about this once, and only once. I will say my peace, and then we will not be talking about this further.
I want to address what happened with the video from the other day in detail because I am seeing many people spread what seems like lies, and I want to clarify what I actually said; since the video is gone, I can't point to that. I also want to apologize where one is due.
Context:
If you did not see it, my video from the other day was about a viral TikTok series about a mom who wore a 24/7 BDSM collar, the first of which showed text on the screen stating, "Watching all of the hate videos on eternity collars knowing my mother has been wearing one for years and everything everyone is saying is true". In follow-up TikToks, further abuse perpetuated by this mother and her partner was outlined. The creator of this series of videos called on the BDSM community to speak about this issue and to bring awareness to it. I was asked repeatedly for my take on what happened by members of my community, so I made a video about it. I was disgusted by the abuse and the previous responses that had been made and wanted to speak on it. I also tried to investigate the context around the original viral video and what the "hate videos" it referenced were saying because the term "hate video" seemed troubling to me.
FIRSTLY: I want to apologize for not reaching out to this creator beforehand to let them know I was making a video. I messed up and created a lot of pain and discomfort by not doing that. I follow a general rule of thumb: if I speak on an issue involving a non-creator who goes one-off viral, I will let them know I am making a video and ask if I can cover the story. I did this with my recent "viral bruise story" video. If I am speaking about an issue involving someone who is a content creator and/or asking for people to talk about a story, I do not typically reach out. Especially when the story has gotten way, way more attention than I would get from my platform. I believe this is in line with industry standards on YouTube. The original viral video had 13,000,000 views and several follow-ups had view counts in the millions and hundreds of thousands as well. You may or may not agree that this is a good heuristic to follow, and I plan to reconsider it in the future.
More importantly, this is an apology that ONLY the original creator can reject or accept. I have already apologized in private, and that is what really matters. However, I want it to be transparent to my audience and others who see this that I believe I made a mistake in not reaching out ahead of time. It is not up to anyone else to determine whether or not I am 'forgiven' (though I do not ask for forgiveness), or whether or not what I did was wrong or hurtful.
The day the video was released I was shocked by the amount of attention it got. I woke up at 6 am to hundreds of comments, most of which were either supportive or critical (but in a productive way). Unfortunately, with the nature of social media, it also attracted a lot of what I will call kink-critical types, especially after I posted the link to the video on Twitter. I worked very hard the whole day from 6 am to 5 pm to try and keep the comment section in check. I had an endless stream of comments like, "These freaks should be sterilized," "Kinky freaks shouldn't be allowed around children," "What did you expect, all 'Doms' are just abusers," or "Kink is just an excuse, for men to beat women sexually." More of the same comments I talked about happening on TikTok, and even worse that got captured by the YouTube filter. Plus, many personal attacks about my voice and appearance that only existed to attempt to hurt my feelings. This mostly came from no-name accounts with names like "user_09242fsfl1f203". I am a tough girl, and those things don't bother me, but I don't want to have a comment section that devolves into attacking fellow commentators and trying to bait others to upset them. Eventually, I couldn't keep up with them. So that was already going on. I used this as the original reason I removed the video because the other creator wanted privacy, and I did not want anything that could even seemingly point back to them and encourage bad actors to dig around. Even if they had not asked me to remove the content, I was already considering doing so based on this harassment.
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