I met my real friend a few years ago and it works because we aren't really playing a game of who initiates what and how often we text another. (We maybe text once a week to either initiate a hangout or just check in.). We just enjoy another's company, have some laughs and talk. It's nice because while we like doing a activities together we both are really low maintenance. Neither of us need to be entertained when we hang out, we were cleaning marbles the other day because I am making a marble base for my shower and we just talked, went out for food and it's really relaxed and no real effort and because of that we do put in effort because we really love being friends because there is no expectations. I think a real friend is someone that accepts you as you are, but also is concerned enough to let you know when you need help. In my case, gained 20 pounds and she told me I was getting out breathe on our runs and should try to cut back. It is all about for me anyway having a more then superficial connection, and being able to laugh and also open up. Friends should support another, but not be a crutch.
4 months ago (edited) | 5
I mean you could just say “nah bro I'm busy” lmao
4 months ago (edited) | 17
High Maintenance Friends Requires High Maintenace Friends. You need people who fully understands you and is the same
4 months ago | 3
I wish I had friends to invite me out. I have no friends.
4 months ago | 11
That screenshot is a big reason I'm not on WhatsApp anymore. Yes I saw your message. No I didn't feel like talking to anyone. No that doesn't mean I don't like you, or anything else you're making up in your head. I already told you I'm introverted. My phone's already trying to distract me with countless notifications. I resent the smartphone for being a way people can intrude on me and EXPECT me to respond and feel like talking, when I'm just wanting to chill out. Aaaaaa yikes. But I guess I'm the asshole 🙄
4 months ago | 2
I wish we had decent apps for searching friends by similar Imdb and goodreads rates or by hobby tags
4 months ago | 0
Cole Hastings
Who do you consider to be a "real friend"? I think our answers to that question have changed significantly in the past decade. In this second channel video, I explore the new definitions of friendships, and how these definitions might be harming us.
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