Eventually, I was isolated from everyone, including our children. The pandemic and a spine injury made it even easier. It's taking me years to rebuild myself so I can rebuild my relationships. My children are adults now, and I have to take responsibility for the fact that i didn't protect them or myself from the years of emotional terrorism. Recovery from CPTSD, narcissistic abuse, betrayal trauma, and isolation while trying to heal my relationship with my kids and take accountability for my failures and maladaptive reactions is just the longest and hardest work I've ever done. Thank you, Tim, for giving me the tools I need to do this work. I'm forever grateful!
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We live in a narcissistic society: “I phone” “I pad” “I watch” what ‘I’ want is most important. Look at my presence on social media platforms: click a ‘like’ for ME. Used to be…what we could do to assist & help uplift each other. Now it’s what “I” want that’s important or what are you going to do for “ME!” Yes…I know it’s not everyone…it does seem to be a prevalent force today. Sad.
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No, because I grew up with two narcissists. But now that some time has passed, my relationships are growing. I think what has been the most eye-opening is how much effort they went to in order to destroy all my relationships. I thought I was the problem. Since I have started associating with different people, amazing how all the drama has just disappeared.
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The relationship that I lost & most want back again is with myself 😉
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What if you don’t want to be around anyone because of awkward anxiety and social anxiety? Not even family, really sucks feeling like this 24/7
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Survivors of complex trauma losing friends. Who's got friends?
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I have lived that reality more times than id like to admit lol and unfortunately have been stuck living with my narcissistic abusive ex bf for the past 6+ years, completely isolated cant even leave the house unless its with my parents or sister, otherwise he FLIPS out & i learned its just not worth the punishment. So i have literally no friends, cuz people aren't willing 2 be understanding or patient nowadays. 👌
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I lost all my connections. It's not even possible to rebuild 😢
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My mother in law did this to my husband. He did this in turn to me. She manufactured some fake emergency.
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This is a tough one, what if you're codependent and display some of these behaviors? I've also experienced betrayal trauma with the same person and think I have CPTSD, not "diagnosed", but deal with PTSD from the betrayal. I'm afraid this is what I've started doing, and grown into a lot of shame/anger..
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I had to strip down the layers of toxic relationships which has brought me down to me myself and I and I am ok with that however I would love to find a surrogate family or some safe people. It certainly is a major challenge because it’s been over five years since I had a friendship or relationship and I am trying my find ways to connect. I didn’t see the membership button because I was so enthralled with your discussions. I’m so happy to be a member now. Tim ever since I found you, what I have learnt has changed my life for the better and I believe that I was a narcissistic victim. I just wanted attention. I just wanted love. Every day is a small step but those small steps to add up and when you look back at a year or two years you feel proud you’re not pride came from hope and that Hope came from validation and information that you are not alone, especially going through the big tea Trauma And a little bit of a little tea Trauma complex PTSD and I agree with I believe it was Peter Levine when he said it’s the most belittled and underrated and invalidated of diagnosis. I probably have all the words wrong but it’s the intent and meaning behind it thank you for everything that you do to help other people. You are an Inspirational And educational caring individual who I aspire to be similar to one day. I am very hopeful that my creativity in my mission of my art business will u pray helps so many people. My gratitude is endless.
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Tim Fletcher
Have you noticed your circle of support shrinking during your relationship with a narcissist? You're not alone. Many survivors describe how their once-vibrant social connections gradually disappeared during these relationships.
Think back to your experience. Did your partner make subtle comments about your friend's reliability? Did they create drama before family gatherings? Did they somehow always have a crisis when you planned time with others?
This isolation doesn't happen by accident. Narcissists strategically separate you from your support network because:
• Your relationships threaten their control over you
• They fear others might "see through" their façade and warn you
• Their deep-seated shame makes them pathologically jealous of your other connections
• They want to be your sole emotional resource
When you're cut off from outside perspectives, their reality becomes your only reality. Their jealous and possessive behavior isn't about love—it's about control.
What relationships have you noticed changing since being with a narcissist? Have you reconnected with anyone after the relationship ended?
If you've recognized these patterns in your own experience, please know you're not alone on this journey. We understand how isolating and confusing the aftermath of a narcissistic relationship can be.
We'd love to hear your story in the comments if you feel comfortable sharing. And if you're seeking support in your healing process—whether you're recovering from a narcissistic relationship or noticing these patterns within yourself—we're here to help with compassionate resources tailored to your needs.
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