if you've been on self improvement for ages i know exactly what you're going through right now
You’ve had some wins: built a few good habits, maybe quit some of the bad ones. You’re not perfect, but you’ve stuck around and that’s already huge. Most people quit but you haven’t. Every now and then you probably spiral a bit. You think this doesn’t even work and you go fap three times and binge junk food. We all do that because the results don’t come fast enough. We expect instant gratification but self-improvement doesn’t work like that.
You take action, but the results are delayed. That’s the part most people never really talk about. There’s this lag like you’re playing a game with bad internet where you're pressing buttons but nothing’s happening on screen yet. That’s how progress feels at first. You're meditating, hitting the gym, journaling, but no one notices. Nothing changes. And that sucks.
It’s even worse when people treat you the exact same as they did before. Like bro, you’ve changed. Your mindset, your goals, your discipline, it’s all different. You're not that same kid who played video games all day with cummy stains on your pants. But your parents still treat you like you are. Your friends don’t take your goals seriously. Even girls you like still treat you like a loser.
You know what’s happening, right? Just like the results lag behind your actions, people’s perceptions lag behind who you are now. You're here leveled up, ambitious, focused. But they still see you as the old you. There’s this gap. And the problem is, as long as you stay in the same environment, that gap stays open. Because people don’t just see you, they remember you. They remember the version of you from five years ago. Your parents smelt your crusty room. They remember the old habits. Your friends remember you as the gamer spaz who couldn’t talk to girls. And they project that onto you even now.
So how do you update people’s perception of who you are?
You change your environment.
Move somewhere new. When you do that, no one knows the old version of you. They only see who you are right now. And here’s the secret, they believe what you show them. If you show up in a new place with 25% more confidence that becomes their entire understanding of who you are. First impressions stick. They don’t know about your past failures. They don’t know you used to binge goth mommy porn and play RuneScape for 12 hours a day. They just see a confident, self-improving guy.
I did this when I was 19. I moved to university and decided I was going to act like the man I wanted to be. When I walked into my student flat I shook hands confidently. I made eye contact. I held that frame. And people believed it. I didn’t lie I just emphasized the best version of me. No one knew the old me. And the result? I made friends easily. People respected me. Girls were attracted to me. I felt like the main character for the first time in my life.
Then I did it again in my second year, but even harder. I showed up as an even more confident, more dominant version of myself. And it worked even better. Everyone believed it because that’s all they’d ever seen. That’s the power of a fresh environment, it gives you a blank slate. You don’t have to fake anything. You just get to be seen for who you really are now, without the baggage of your past holding you back.
And what’s wild is once you’ve disappeared and changed when you come back to your old environment people are forced to see you differently too. I came back to my family at 22 with a shaved head, a confident posture, after saving a homeless guy’s life and becoming a YouTuber. They couldn’t deny it anymore. I wasn’t the kid playing games in his room. I was a man. But you only get that effect if you disappear first. You have to leave to evolve. Then you come back and force them to see the new you.
I know if you're under 18 you can't easily move out just yet. But I’m telling you this now so that it becomes a goal. Just like you want to hit $5K/month or build a great physique, add this: move away. Change your environment. Give yourself the opportunity to grow without being held back by old labels.
And how do you actually move? One way is university. I don’t personally recommend it unless you're becoming a doctor or something serious, but if you’re going anyway, make sure to move out of your hometown. Stay in student accommodations. Get that social life upgrade without being a degenerate. Don’t commute from home, it’s fucking lame. You’ll miss out on your growth.
But the real answer is to make money online. That’s the best, most freeing option. You make money from your laptop and go live somewhere like Bali. That’s literally what I do. Most of my friends do the same. You wake up, ride your motorbike to a gym in the sun, eat food with no seed oils, journal next to very respectable feminine girls who are also reading books and improving themselves. Everyone around you respects self improvement. They value clean eating, hard work, ambition. You’re no longer the weird kid for not drinking or partying. You’re surrounded by brothers on the same path.
To live a great life here in Bali, $5,000 a month is more than enough. You can scrape by with much less, but $5K gives you total freedom. You can eat at nice places, live well, and still save money. And the best part? You can live with other guys on self-improvement. That’s what I recommend. Solo travel is gay. Move in with other disciplined guys. Keep each other accountable. Grow together.
This part of your journey sucks. You’re grinding and no one sees it. You barely even see it yourself. But you're on the right path. I promise you. It took me nine months before I saw any real progress. Now? I’m rich. I’m jacked. I’ve retired my family. I’m one of the most attractive, confident men alive. That’s ten years of self-improvement. Ten years of hard work when no one was clapping for me.
Grit your teeth and keep going. And when you can, move. Start fresh. Let people see the man you’ve become, not the boy you used to be.
Do the hard work, especially when you don’t feel like it.
Hamza
if you've been on self improvement for ages
i know exactly what you're going through right now
You’ve had some wins: built a few good habits, maybe quit some of the bad ones. You’re not perfect, but you’ve stuck around and that’s already huge. Most people quit but you haven’t. Every now and then you probably spiral a bit. You think this doesn’t even work and you go fap three times and binge junk food. We all do that because the results don’t come fast enough. We expect instant gratification but self-improvement doesn’t work like that.
You take action, but the results are delayed. That’s the part most people never really talk about. There’s this lag like you’re playing a game with bad internet where you're pressing buttons but nothing’s happening on screen yet. That’s how progress feels at first. You're meditating, hitting the gym, journaling, but no one notices. Nothing changes. And that sucks.
It’s even worse when people treat you the exact same as they did before. Like bro, you’ve changed. Your mindset, your goals, your discipline, it’s all different. You're not that same kid who played video games all day with cummy stains on your pants. But your parents still treat you like you are. Your friends don’t take your goals seriously. Even girls you like still treat you like a loser.
You know what’s happening, right? Just like the results lag behind your actions, people’s perceptions lag behind who you are now. You're here leveled up, ambitious, focused. But they still see you as the old you. There’s this gap. And the problem is, as long as you stay in the same environment, that gap stays open. Because people don’t just see you, they remember you. They remember the version of you from five years ago. Your parents smelt your crusty room. They remember the old habits. Your friends remember you as the gamer spaz who couldn’t talk to girls. And they project that onto you even now.
So how do you update people’s perception of who you are?
You change your environment.
Move somewhere new. When you do that, no one knows the old version of you. They only see who you are right now. And here’s the secret, they believe what you show them. If you show up in a new place with 25% more confidence that becomes their entire understanding of who you are. First impressions stick. They don’t know about your past failures. They don’t know you used to binge goth mommy porn and play RuneScape for 12 hours a day. They just see a confident, self-improving guy.
I did this when I was 19. I moved to university and decided I was going to act like the man I wanted to be. When I walked into my student flat I shook hands confidently. I made eye contact. I held that frame. And people believed it. I didn’t lie I just emphasized the best version of me. No one knew the old me. And the result? I made friends easily. People respected me. Girls were attracted to me. I felt like the main character for the first time in my life.
Then I did it again in my second year, but even harder. I showed up as an even more confident, more dominant version of myself. And it worked even better. Everyone believed it because that’s all they’d ever seen. That’s the power of a fresh environment, it gives you a blank slate. You don’t have to fake anything. You just get to be seen for who you really are now, without the baggage of your past holding you back.
And what’s wild is once you’ve disappeared and changed when you come back to your old environment people are forced to see you differently too. I came back to my family at 22 with a shaved head, a confident posture, after saving a homeless guy’s life and becoming a YouTuber. They couldn’t deny it anymore. I wasn’t the kid playing games in his room. I was a man. But you only get that effect if you disappear first. You have to leave to evolve. Then you come back and force them to see the new you.
I know if you're under 18 you can't easily move out just yet. But I’m telling you this now so that it becomes a goal. Just like you want to hit $5K/month or build a great physique, add this: move away. Change your environment. Give yourself the opportunity to grow without being held back by old labels.
And how do you actually move? One way is university. I don’t personally recommend it unless you're becoming a doctor or something serious, but if you’re going anyway, make sure to move out of your hometown. Stay in student accommodations. Get that social life upgrade without being a degenerate. Don’t commute from home, it’s fucking lame. You’ll miss out on your growth.
But the real answer is to make money online. That’s the best, most freeing option. You make money from your laptop and go live somewhere like Bali. That’s literally what I do. Most of my friends do the same. You wake up, ride your motorbike to a gym in the sun, eat food with no seed oils, journal next to very respectable feminine girls who are also reading books and improving themselves. Everyone around you respects self improvement. They value clean eating, hard work, ambition. You’re no longer the weird kid for not drinking or partying. You’re surrounded by brothers on the same path.
To live a great life here in Bali, $5,000 a month is more than enough. You can scrape by with much less, but $5K gives you total freedom. You can eat at nice places, live well, and still save money. And the best part? You can live with other guys on self-improvement. That’s what I recommend. Solo travel is gay. Move in with other disciplined guys. Keep each other accountable. Grow together.
This part of your journey sucks. You’re grinding and no one sees it. You barely even see it yourself. But you're on the right path. I promise you. It took me nine months before I saw any real progress. Now? I’m rich. I’m jacked. I’ve retired my family. I’m one of the most attractive, confident men alive. That’s ten years of self-improvement. Ten years of hard work when no one was clapping for me.
Grit your teeth and keep going. And when you can, move. Start fresh. Let people see the man you’ve become, not the boy you used to be.
Do the hard work, especially when you don’t feel like it.
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