“Not living with muscular dudes is gay” - Hamza 2025
1 day ago | 48
Man.. I'm 21 years old and I feel like I haven't done anything in my life. My family and my classmates keep seeing me as this shy kid with a "low" voice that's barely audible... But the truth is I have been obsessively working on improving it by practicing.. Still they don't see the progress because of.. yeah old labels. I wish I could move but I don't know how to support myself yet. I'm planning on taking a break before Law School, so I can plan out what to do with my life. I've just been so sick and tired of being sleep deprived all the time and barely having any romantic relationships with the opposite sex. I want to change my life, but it's hard being stuck with people who make my progress feel invisible. I've been ridiculed for most of my life, and I want to change that. I'm sick and tired of dealing with toxic people.
1 day ago | 28
Very true, long time subcriber here, can confirm it. People that used to know you for years, WILL have to look twice at you because you look familiar to them, but they can't pinpoint who you are for a second. When you have an undeniably great transformation, people are forced to respect the shit out of you from that change alone, even if they know your cringe past.
20 hours ago | 1
I usually dont relate to youtubers. But I couldnt agree more with you! Do the hard work, especially when you dont feel like it! 👍
15 hours ago | 2
When is this dude gonna get married? You've got all the money and "leveled up" this much, surely you should have enough "points" to attract a femminie woman, as you say, and stay true to her? I don't understand why you keep acting like hanging around multiple woman is something respectable or something one should want to live to achieve, that's just an animalistc desire. Maybe our belief systems just clash, (which is another large flaw ive seen in this "community" were people end up just copying the influencer: people watching andrew tate a few times and then wanting to live in Dubai alone side a few chicks with nice cars, etc this phenomanon also occuring with this channel, but that's another topic) and I just find the idea of lounging all day in the sun next to multiple woman being kind of primal and disloyal I suppose. I'd much rather prefer a more human aproach were you find someone you like, get to know her and when you realise you really love her, staying true to her. Marrying her and staying loyal to her, building a family, a life with her. Red pill is super cringe in this sense. Just pure western bs.
17 hours ago | 6
Kinda related but even just going solo/with a mate travelling around East Asia or Europe etc for a month or two every year consistently is still top level elite stuff. Meeting new people, new contacts, different cultures and lifestyles, none stop learning curves etc. It only adds solid value and growth to you as an indivual compared to those losers who never left their small town and still have that weird driveless bitter insular "pub on a friday night" mentality. Go and see the world and meet all the characters it has to offer. Hostels, buses and trains are cheap and accessible everywhere. Its easier than you think.
23 hours ago | 1
I AM IN MY FINAL YEAR OF ENGINEERING COLLEGE I FAILED IN LAST SEM NOW ITS YEAR BACK IN MY ACADEMIC RN I AM VERY SAD AND IN DIPRESSION IDK WHAT TO DO NOW 💔
1 day ago | 1
That wasn't easy to read at all Bro... But still got true cuz it was either I finished what I started* reading or I get labelled short attention span person 💀 💀 💀 Ait Hamza. Guys let's Keep the Grind Going!!
1 day ago (edited) | 1
I'm passed 28, there is a huge delay, I know I'm easily top 25% of the society 25% is not 10 5 3 1% I've grinded so much, but I seriously lacked social skills, I used to go to work, to gym, then come home watch self improvement or fun content I reduced my attention on money, skills, corp grind, I just want to live, I'm trying to make friends, lead friend groups, be a social architect in a way, connect people and myself with each other I'm really struggling with courage, speaking boldly and confidently with women, I'm trying to increase the level of my masculine energy It's all been baby steps, I've come a long way, it doesn't feel enough, it never is I am struggling with cold approaching however I've been becoming more of a social butterfly more and more I still haven't mastered story telling or keeping conversations going in a fun and exciting way I feel I might be polarizing women way too soon, like maybe I could use a bit more groundwork then polarize them I've recently realized how brutal the world is, how everyone is just after their own benefit, money, survival, resources I wasn't that way, I didn't care about resources or survival as much as I do now This version of me is becoming wiser, less softer, maybe less kinder towards the unworthy, I'm trying to grow teeth, so I'd have the ability to bite but I'd chose not to I realized I needed edge Being good guy is overrated, dead I realized women want to fuck the guy who fucks every other girl, that's why they're all complaining where have all the good men gone I'm trying to master a lot of shit And I feel like I'm running out of time, and the hoeflation and the inflation is crazy I'm not remotely satisfied with my life My country had conscription though I gained some privileges to handle it in a way that It wouldn't affect my life much I don't feel enough, I know I'm not, I'm not happy, I don't have a good social life, brotherhood When shit goes hard I have no one to talk to except my family I used to be introverted as fuck, now I'm going out more, trying to be more and more social Attend more events My next move hopefully will be either exiting employment or becoming a top tier employee that earns a shit ton of money And I feel a shit ton of delay, lag, fear, inflation, it's my fucking life brother, passing by, knowing I had the potential to do better in the past Moving forward I will do better Maybe I didn't have the tools and the mindset to do better at this level back then I do now I just wanted to vent Good luck brothers ❤️
19 hours ago (edited) | 3
Hamza
if you've been on self improvement for ages
i know exactly what you're going through right now
You’ve had some wins: built a few good habits, maybe quit some of the bad ones. You’re not perfect, but you’ve stuck around and that’s already huge. Most people quit but you haven’t. Every now and then you probably spiral a bit. You think this doesn’t even work and you go fap three times and binge junk food. We all do that because the results don’t come fast enough. We expect instant gratification but self-improvement doesn’t work like that.
You take action, but the results are delayed. That’s the part most people never really talk about. There’s this lag like you’re playing a game with bad internet where you're pressing buttons but nothing’s happening on screen yet. That’s how progress feels at first. You're meditating, hitting the gym, journaling, but no one notices. Nothing changes. And that sucks.
It’s even worse when people treat you the exact same as they did before. Like bro, you’ve changed. Your mindset, your goals, your discipline, it’s all different. You're not that same kid who played video games all day with cummy stains on your pants. But your parents still treat you like you are. Your friends don’t take your goals seriously. Even girls you like still treat you like a loser.
You know what’s happening, right? Just like the results lag behind your actions, people’s perceptions lag behind who you are now. You're here leveled up, ambitious, focused. But they still see you as the old you. There’s this gap. And the problem is, as long as you stay in the same environment, that gap stays open. Because people don’t just see you, they remember you. They remember the version of you from five years ago. Your parents smelt your crusty room. They remember the old habits. Your friends remember you as the gamer spaz who couldn’t talk to girls. And they project that onto you even now.
So how do you update people’s perception of who you are?
You change your environment.
Move somewhere new. When you do that, no one knows the old version of you. They only see who you are right now. And here’s the secret, they believe what you show them. If you show up in a new place with 25% more confidence that becomes their entire understanding of who you are. First impressions stick. They don’t know about your past failures. They don’t know you used to binge goth mommy porn and play RuneScape for 12 hours a day. They just see a confident, self-improving guy.
I did this when I was 19. I moved to university and decided I was going to act like the man I wanted to be. When I walked into my student flat I shook hands confidently. I made eye contact. I held that frame. And people believed it. I didn’t lie I just emphasized the best version of me. No one knew the old me. And the result? I made friends easily. People respected me. Girls were attracted to me. I felt like the main character for the first time in my life.
Then I did it again in my second year, but even harder. I showed up as an even more confident, more dominant version of myself. And it worked even better. Everyone believed it because that’s all they’d ever seen. That’s the power of a fresh environment, it gives you a blank slate. You don’t have to fake anything. You just get to be seen for who you really are now, without the baggage of your past holding you back.
And what’s wild is once you’ve disappeared and changed when you come back to your old environment people are forced to see you differently too. I came back to my family at 22 with a shaved head, a confident posture, after saving a homeless guy’s life and becoming a YouTuber. They couldn’t deny it anymore. I wasn’t the kid playing games in his room. I was a man. But you only get that effect if you disappear first. You have to leave to evolve. Then you come back and force them to see the new you.
I know if you're under 18 you can't easily move out just yet. But I’m telling you this now so that it becomes a goal. Just like you want to hit $5K/month or build a great physique, add this: move away. Change your environment. Give yourself the opportunity to grow without being held back by old labels.
And how do you actually move? One way is university. I don’t personally recommend it unless you're becoming a doctor or something serious, but if you’re going anyway, make sure to move out of your hometown. Stay in student accommodations. Get that social life upgrade without being a degenerate. Don’t commute from home, it’s fucking lame. You’ll miss out on your growth.
But the real answer is to make money online. That’s the best, most freeing option. You make money from your laptop and go live somewhere like Bali. That’s literally what I do. Most of my friends do the same. You wake up, ride your motorbike to a gym in the sun, eat food with no seed oils, journal next to very respectable feminine girls who are also reading books and improving themselves. Everyone around you respects self improvement. They value clean eating, hard work, ambition. You’re no longer the weird kid for not drinking or partying. You’re surrounded by brothers on the same path.
To live a great life here in Bali, $5,000 a month is more than enough. You can scrape by with much less, but $5K gives you total freedom. You can eat at nice places, live well, and still save money. And the best part? You can live with other guys on self-improvement. That’s what I recommend. Solo travel is gay. Move in with other disciplined guys. Keep each other accountable. Grow together.
This part of your journey sucks. You’re grinding and no one sees it. You barely even see it yourself. But you're on the right path. I promise you. It took me nine months before I saw any real progress. Now? I’m rich. I’m jacked. I’ve retired my family. I’m one of the most attractive, confident men alive. That’s ten years of self-improvement. Ten years of hard work when no one was clapping for me.
Grit your teeth and keep going. And when you can, move. Start fresh. Let people see the man you’ve become, not the boy you used to be.
Do the hard work, especially when you don’t feel like it.
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