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💖 This is a tender topic and may not be applicable to all - but it is a conversation we are having a lot so thought to bring some clarity.



🤔 Kingdom Spouse / Soul Mate - are these a biblical concept?



While the concept of a Kingdom marriage is found in scripture, that is to have a marriage that upholds the principles of God's kingdom. The idea of a "kingdom spouse" as it is so often used - Someone believes God told them a particular person is their husband or wife. ( Kingdom Spouse ). So, they received the word about their Kingdom Spouse, and they run with it. Yet the other person receives something very different and has no interest in that partnership. Yet the person who received what they think was a word from God keeps believing, praying and decreeing for the other to 'wake up', get the revelation and change their heart and mind. Often, they engage in spiritual warfare around this, believing that the other must not have heard right because of enemy interference - This not biblical but instead derived from new age constructs around Twin flame and soul mate, and similar ideology.



These are seated in spiritual mysticism that says that we as individuals have a counterpart on this earth who will complete us. It is the idea that there is only one other soul out there who completes us. That we cannot fulfil our destinies or achieve our purpose without our counterpart. We remain incomplete without their presence.


Soul Mate is founded in Greek mythology that says “humans were originally created with four arms, four legs, and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves.” Whereas Twin flame is the idea that our souls were once one united entity and exist now as both male and female forces that are seeking each other to be reunited as one. It taps into areas of reincarnation and other mythologies. However nowhere in scripture does it indicate that God has set aside “One Perfect Person” to complete us.



“Kingdom Spouse “, much like the infamous “Prosperity gospel”, is a blend of scriptural principles, in this case for a Godly marriage found in Ephesians 5 -28:33, and the idea that faith is a self-generated spiritual force that makes things happen. Rather than the truth, that Faith is the confidence in the person of Jesus Christ.



This concept of” Kingdom spouse “has seemingly gripped many in the Christian world and taken root in many minds and hearts in such a way that it serves only to ensnare many in cycles of false hope and even to the degree of slipping into idolatry and divination.


We know hope deferred makes the heart sick (Proverbs 13:12) and this concept sets many up for years lost in heart sickness and pain.


The enemy is seen through this idea in that this ideology takes the godly gift of marriage and the love found there (a picture of how Christ loves the church) and perverts it into an entity that seeks to be idolised, pursued and fought for. Much of a person who is under this ideology is consumed with partitioning heaven and holding fast to the perceived “promise “ of a certain person as the appointed spouse. Their hope becomes reliant on the fulfilment of this narrative rather than seated in the goodness of God.


You don’t have to look hard to come across countless teachings on what to look for as signs someone might be your” kingdom spouse”, or prophetic words released on this concept declaring ‘This is the month your Kingdom spouse will arrive’. These words are targeted at the loneliness of a person whispering sweet nothings and false hopes into them until they whole heartedly partner their faith to this revelation and get lost in the sole pursuit of obtaining the object of their affection. The fervency of this pursuit isn’t so much the embodiment of love but rather the beginnings of obsession.


Strong words, yes, let me explain.


Friend, You are not created missing another half that you must find to be complete.


Psalm 16:1-2 says that “apart from you Lord, I have no good thing. “


Colossians 2:10 and in Christ you have been brought to fullness.


In Christ you are made whole. Nothing else is needed.



God created marriage but He did not elevate marriage to the point of making two individuals to match perfectly. Through relationship with Him, He enables us to love each other like Christ loves the church, sacrificially – but there is no perfect match. Marriage is a blessing that is labour intensive and a character refining space.


What about that dream you had? The word you heard or were given? The confirmation you felt you received?


Well, the bible speaks on the concept of false prophecy a lot, and also admonishes us to test everything. In Matthew 13:25 we see that even the enemy is capable of sowing weeds / false seeds in us .. “But while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat and went on his way . “


It’s important to test our own heart also. Jeremiah 17:9- The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”


Firstly, let’s look at the foundations - Colossians 2:8 See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ.


Before you bank on the word of a “Kingdom spouse” being for you – look to see what scripture says. Read it for yourself. James 1:25 But the one who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and perseveres, being no hearer who forgets but a doer who acts, he will be blessed in his doing.


God in His goodness and His sovereignty has a perfect plan for you.


Ephesians 1:11 In Him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of Him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of His will,


Psalm 139:16 Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be.


Does that mean that He has a marriage lined up for you?


Well, we need to remember that marriage is a gift not a guarantee. But also, in God's plan our choice/free will is involved. God may reveal someone to you, but you still have a choice to choose them, and they also have a choice to choose you. Think of it as though your marriage, your spouse, much like the rest of your life opportunities, career etc, as being a partnership of your free will getting in tune to the will of God and seeking Godly wisdom in your processing and pursuit of whom to marry.


God isn't limited in His resources. If whom you choose, choose someone else. God will provide. There’s always a redemption plan.


God in His sovereignty knows who is called to marriage and who He has designed for a single life, and He plans for His will to unfold.


Does this mean that prophetic word you received naming your kingdom spouse is true, no not necessarily. Like any word or revelation received, it needs to be weighed and measured.


1 Thessalonians 5:21 but test everything; hold fast what is good.


Remember false words aren’t always given out of a heart to deceive, good Godly people with good intentions sometimes get it wrong.


Jeremiah 23:16 This is what the Lord Almighty says: “Do not listen to what the prophets are prophesying to you; they fill you with false hopes. They speak visions from their own minds, not from the mouth of the Lord.



😊 Friend , our God is not a God of false hope. He doesn’t give us the fortelling of gifts to come that will only serve to keep us tethered in cycles of false hope with our focus remaining on a person and not on Him.



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