The "May I meet you?" meme and concept is funny but serves an important purpose as a reminder.
Past a certain age, dating advice becomes useless because you're so outside the current dating market, anything you advise to the young people becomes worthless. I would remind people "the young" are the people most in need of help in this regard because their relationships are the ones that will actually be fruitful. This is no different than a "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" boomer telling you to "hit the bricks, walk into a place, ask to see the manager, give him a firm handshakes and tell him 'I can start on Monday'.".
This goes the same for married men the longer they are married. If you're off the market, by default you no longer experience it. This renders your opinion increasingly moot.
There is a particular disdain that should be held for men who married single mothers offering dating advice. Particularly if that single mother has multiple "baby daddies". This is someone bloviating on the making of fine wine, while they eat the dregs of a drained keg with a spoon. Not only is their advice worthless, it should be mocked and ridiculed. Cuckolds can offer no knowledge worth hearing on the topic of relationships.
The final point to remember is that the left, feminists, the woke, whatever you want to call them, the right, conservatives, tradcons, whatever you want to call them. All these parties will fail to fix the problems of the sexual market place because all of them are incapable of the one thing that would actually have an impact on the problem; The ability to hold women to account for their actions and blame them where necessary for their shortcomings and any unreasonable or malicious behaviour engaged in.
All of these people will take the exact same tack. "Men need to do better.". Stating that women need to be held to account for their impact on relationships is not saying men shouldn't improve themselves or shouldn't put anything into relationships at all. Certainly they should. But men cannot become infinitely better. They are not gods. There are limits to what they can reasonably achieve. Worse still is the notion that men must have done all the improving before they get the relationship, as opposed to how these work. Improving themselves while in the relationship because of the relationship.
There must come a point where the intrasexual competition of women must be addressed. The "Yas-lighting". The "Oh, girl... you can do soooo much better! You don't need a man anyway!". The delusion of being worthy of a man who has all the 6's is just that, delusion. If you "are the table", then you are just as easily replaced as the object you make yourself. Then you wonder why you get treated like a living fleshlight and end up as an "alpha widow". Forever chasing the best you ever had and demanding all men meet the standard of the one night stand you fantasise about a decade or two later. Despite the irony that the existence of the one night stand makes you worse as a potential partner anyway.
This is all besides the broken legal system around relationships... no fault divorce (aka, men at fault), disproportionate alimony, false accusations as weapons with full support of the state. If women will not push back on this and the women who demand these standards, they will never change. Despite popular opinion, men cannot and will not force women to change. Men love women as an abstract too much to do that. So women must fight the worst aspects of their own nature. We already expect men to wage this war within themselves. Yet to suggest women must do the same to become worthy of a partner gets you called a sexist.
This is the problem. It is the problem that, for many people, cannot be named and thus cannot be fixed.
I try to avoid the "this is inevitable because of human nature expressed within a first world environment" position but it is increasingly hard to not think that when it is so ubiquitous anywhere when life gets good.
Losing the home economy overseen by women. Turning them from spinners, candle makers, weavers, clothiers, brewers, bakers etc. into consumers rather than these societally essential producers. Making people actually genuinely believe that "the man works while the woman stays home using automated white goods and spending his money" was normal or, even worse "traditional", has been a disaster.
Men invented every time and labour saving device to give women the most safe, comfortable and work free world humanity has ever had. And women have never forgiven men for doing it. Worse, it drove them mad.
TL;DR
The "May I meet you?" meme and concept is funny but serves an important purpose as a reminder.
Past a certain age, dating advice becomes useless because you're so outside the current dating market, anything you advise to the young people becomes worthless. I would remind people "the young" are the people most in need of help in this regard because their relationships are the ones that will actually be fruitful. This is no different than a "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" boomer telling you to "hit the bricks, walk into a place, ask to see the manager, give him a firm handshakes and tell him 'I can start on Monday'.".
This goes the same for married men the longer they are married. If you're off the market, by default you no longer experience it. This renders your opinion increasingly moot.
There is a particular disdain that should be held for men who married single mothers offering dating advice. Particularly if that single mother has multiple "baby daddies". This is someone bloviating on the making of fine wine, while they eat the dregs of a drained keg with a spoon. Not only is their advice worthless, it should be mocked and ridiculed. Cuckolds can offer no knowledge worth hearing on the topic of relationships.
The final point to remember is that the left, feminists, the woke, whatever you want to call them, the right, conservatives, tradcons, whatever you want to call them. All these parties will fail to fix the problems of the sexual market place because all of them are incapable of the one thing that would actually have an impact on the problem; The ability to hold women to account for their actions and blame them where necessary for their shortcomings and any unreasonable or malicious behaviour engaged in.
All of these people will take the exact same tack. "Men need to do better.". Stating that women need to be held to account for their impact on relationships is not saying men shouldn't improve themselves or shouldn't put anything into relationships at all. Certainly they should. But men cannot become infinitely better. They are not gods. There are limits to what they can reasonably achieve. Worse still is the notion that men must have done all the improving before they get the relationship, as opposed to how these work. Improving themselves while in the relationship because of the relationship.
There must come a point where the intrasexual competition of women must be addressed. The "Yas-lighting". The "Oh, girl... you can do soooo much better! You don't need a man anyway!". The delusion of being worthy of a man who has all the 6's is just that, delusion. If you "are the table", then you are just as easily replaced as the object you make yourself. Then you wonder why you get treated like a living fleshlight and end up as an "alpha widow". Forever chasing the best you ever had and demanding all men meet the standard of the one night stand you fantasise about a decade or two later. Despite the irony that the existence of the one night stand makes you worse as a potential partner anyway.
This is all besides the broken legal system around relationships... no fault divorce (aka, men at fault), disproportionate alimony, false accusations as weapons with full support of the state. If women will not push back on this and the women who demand these standards, they will never change. Despite popular opinion, men cannot and will not force women to change. Men love women as an abstract too much to do that. So women must fight the worst aspects of their own nature. We already expect men to wage this war within themselves. Yet to suggest women must do the same to become worthy of a partner gets you called a sexist.
This is the problem. It is the problem that, for many people, cannot be named and thus cannot be fixed.
I try to avoid the "this is inevitable because of human nature expressed within a first world environment" position but it is increasingly hard to not think that when it is so ubiquitous anywhere when life gets good.
Losing the home economy overseen by women. Turning them from spinners, candle makers, weavers, clothiers, brewers, bakers etc. into consumers rather than these societally essential producers. Making people actually genuinely believe that "the man works while the woman stays home using automated white goods and spending his money" was normal or, even worse "traditional", has been a disaster.
Men invented every time and labour saving device to give women the most safe, comfortable and work free world humanity has ever had. And women have never forgiven men for doing it. Worse, it drove them mad.
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