I really want to talk about this perseverance award with Jonathan Majors…but not because I have all the answers. I don’t really understand what’s going on with all of this.
I mentioned Jonathan and the case where he was convicted of unintentional harm to his ex-girlfriend, Grace Jabarri in my “ year of truth” video and there were quite a few comments from people who disagreed with my assessment. I said, that he was prideful and at the very least, unwise in his decisions. I would also clarify that his mishandling of the toxic relationship he was in was very much a “it takes two to tango” BUT given the racial and gender lines at play, he didn’t have any foresight that could have avoided all of this, you know, things like therapy and mental healthcare for his challenges with anger and depression.
The pushback comes down to a fear of demonizing talented, or gifted people in our community, even if they are accused of awful things, because we’re afraid that we will lose the exceptional if we hold them accountable.
I’veread court transcripts, checked out different news sources and scrubbed through so many opinion pieces on this whole saga and what’s clear to me is the sliding scale of judgment we apply based on how much we like a person or don’t. If we find someone exceptional, we are much less likely to hold them accountable for their actions. If we find someone deplorable, we are much more likely to hold them to high standards. Our affinity shifts based on who is popular so judgement is not equally applied.
But for judgment to be accurate in any case, it has to not rely on a person’s perception, but in what is right and wrong… and even that seems to be shifting according to the culture, by the day.
just to open the conversation, What do you think about this perseverance award, Iyanla Van Zant, the Jonathan Majors case, or even just what’s happening in the cultural discussion? Y’all know that’s what I’m most interested in anyway, how we perceive the messaging of all of these different things. Let me know in the comments.
Tiffany Byrd Harrison
I really want to talk about this perseverance award with Jonathan Majors…but not because I have all the answers. I don’t really understand what’s going on with all of this.
I mentioned Jonathan and the case where he was convicted of unintentional harm to his ex-girlfriend, Grace Jabarri in my “ year of truth” video and there were quite a few comments from people who disagreed with my assessment. I said, that he was prideful and at the very least, unwise in his decisions. I would also clarify that his mishandling of the toxic relationship he was in was very much a “it takes two to tango” BUT given the racial and gender lines at play, he didn’t have any foresight that could have avoided all of this, you know, things like therapy and mental healthcare for his challenges with anger and depression.
The pushback comes down to a fear of demonizing talented, or gifted people in our community, even if they are accused of awful things, because we’re afraid that we will lose the exceptional if we hold them accountable.
I’veread court transcripts, checked out different news sources and scrubbed through so many opinion pieces on this whole saga and what’s clear to me is the sliding scale of judgment we apply based on how much we like a person or don’t. If we find someone exceptional, we are much less likely to hold them accountable for their actions. If we find someone deplorable, we are much more likely to hold them to high standards. Our affinity shifts based on who is popular so judgement is not equally applied.
But for judgment to be accurate in any case, it has to not rely on a person’s perception, but in what is right and wrong… and even that seems to be shifting according to the culture, by the day.
just to open the conversation, What do you think about this perseverance award, Iyanla Van Zant, the Jonathan Majors case, or even just what’s happening in the cultural discussion? Y’all know that’s what I’m most interested in anyway, how we perceive the messaging of all of these different things. Let me know in the comments.
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