When you cut a narcissist out of your life, they will never tell the full story. They’ll only share the part that makes you look bad and them look like the poor, innocent victim. This is because losing control terrifies them. The moment you walk away, their priority becomes protecting their image, not acknowledging the truth. They can’t allow anyone to see the real reason the relationship ended — their behaviour, their manipulation, their lies — so they rewrite the story in a way that keeps their ego safe. In their version, you’re the unreasonable one. You’re the unstable one. You’re the cold, heartless person who walked away “for no reason”. They leave out the cruelty, the gaslighting, the disrespect, and the endless emotional damage they caused. Those details disappear because they expose the truth: you left to survive, not to hurt them. Narcissists rely on half-truths and selective storytelling to gain sympathy and maintain control over the narrative. They need an audience who sees them as the victim, because facing the reality of their actions would mean taking accountability — something they refuse to do. But you don’t need to defend yourself. The people who matter will see the truth, and the ones who believe the narcissist’s version were never on your side to begin with.
For more information about understanding and overcoming narcissistic and emotional abuse, click the links below.
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: A Guided Journal for Recovery and Empowerment: Reclaim Your Identity, Build Self-Esteem, and Embrace a Brighter Future
Understanding Narcissism, by Elizabeth Shaw.
When you cut a narcissist out of your life, they will never tell the full story. They’ll only share the part that makes you look bad and them look like the poor, innocent victim.
This is because losing control terrifies them. The moment you walk away, their priority becomes protecting their image, not acknowledging the truth. They can’t allow anyone to see the real reason the relationship ended — their behaviour, their manipulation, their lies — so they rewrite the story in a way that keeps their ego safe.
In their version, you’re the unreasonable one. You’re the unstable one. You’re the cold, heartless person who walked away “for no reason”. They leave out the cruelty, the gaslighting, the disrespect, and the endless emotional damage they caused. Those details disappear because they expose the truth: you left to survive, not to hurt them.
Narcissists rely on half-truths and selective storytelling to gain sympathy and maintain control over the narrative. They need an audience who sees them as the victim, because facing the reality of their actions would mean taking accountability — something they refuse to do.
But you don’t need to defend yourself.
The people who matter will see the truth, and the ones who believe the narcissist’s version were never on your side to begin with.
For more information about understanding and overcoming narcissistic and emotional abuse, click the links below.
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