here's how I made this transformation, and how you can go from a soft TikTok boy to a masculine, attractive Chad.
First is the halo effect, that psychological reality where attractive people get treated better. It’s unfair but it’s real. Attractive people get more attention, better jobs, better dates, even better treatment in court. So if you want to be respected, loved, and successful, you need to max out your looks. Kids call this looksmaxing, but it's really the art of maximizing your appearance to increase your social and romantic value.
When you’re a teenager the soft TikTok boy aesthetic works. That cute, clean-shaven, floppy-haired look goes viral. But once you're in your 20s, that look doesn’t get respect from other men, and it starts to fall off with women too. At that point, you want to shift into more of a Hollywood movie star look: rugged, masculine, and strong. Think Thor or Superman, not a TikTok e-boy.
If you want to attract the kind of modern, social media obsessed girls, go for the TikTok look. But if you want high-quality women with depth, you need to evolve. You need to build the physique and style that makes men want to be you and women want to be with you. One that commands respect and attention.
The most important part is muscle mass. You need to build an aesthetic physique, not a fat “dad bod,” but the lean, muscular body you’d see on the front of a movie poster. And don’t let anyone fool you about the dad bod. Most of the “dad bods” women post online are actually muscular guys in a bulk phase, sitting at 20% body fat. Real dad bods like the ones with wide hips and soft fat from low testosterone aren’t attractive to anyone.
The amount of muscle you need is going up every year. More guys are in the gym now, more girls are lifting, and the competition is stiffer than ever. If you looked great five years ago, that same physique is now average. There's physique inflation. Add in Instagram thirst traps, global dating apps, and the fact that fitness influencers can DM the girl in your town, and suddenly being lean with a decent chest isn’t enough. You’ve got to stand out.
But not all muscle is created equal. Most guys train for the male gaze like big traps, heavy lifts, boring strength routines. That doesn’t work if you want to look sexy to women. You need to train the seven aesthetic muscles: Neck Upper traps Upper chest Lateral delts Lats Biceps Abs
These are the ones that give you that attractive upper body silhouette. Most cookie-cutter programs you find online completely ignore this and focus too much on triceps, lower chest, or lower back, none of which get you more attention from girls.
Next step: get lean. Specifically, aim for 10–12% body fat. Most guys are far off from this. If you were a pudgy teen like I was, not one of those skinny kids with a six-pack, you’ll have to track your calories like a full-time job. No “intuitive eating,” no winging it. Track every bite. Personally, I get best results when I don’t obsess over macros, just calories and protein. I eat a high-protein diet, about 10 eggs a day (which makes my dick hard as hell lol), and I track my total intake.
When it comes to looking lean all day, you actually want to be “too lean” in the gym. Why? Because without the pump, food bloating, and lighting, your real-life look will be just right. If you’re barely lean enough in the gym, you’ll look soft by the afternoon.
And your face changes when you get lean and change what you eat. When I started eating like a conqueror instead of like a peasant—steak, eggs, meat, and fruit instead of naan, rice, and chickpeas—my face got way more angular. Most brown guys have bloated, round faces not because of genetics, but because of the food. Eat like a Mongol warrior, not like a colonized peasant, and your face will become far more attractive.
With facial hair there’s a sweet spot called the dark stubble. A few days’ growth, around 3mm. That’s been scientifically proven as the most attractive beard length. Clean-shaven can work. Full beards can work if you’ve got the genetics. But most of you watching this? Your facial hair is scraggly, uneven, and it makes you look worse. Either go clean-shaven or maintain controlled stubble. And for the love of God, get a barber. Doing it yourself makes you look low status. A good barber will make your beard look fuller and sharper. Never cheat on your barber.
Stop with the TikTok perms and fluffy hair. As you enter your 20s you need a more masculine, timeless look. Go for something medium-length with a fade on the sides, styled neatly. This haircut has worked for decades and it always will. Don’t go bald unless you’re entering monk mode and intentionally lowering your attractiveness. But also don’t go full TikTok broccoli boy. Aim for the middle: strong, clean, mature.
Fashion is less important than your face and body. Clothes are just the final layer. If you’re ugly and untrained, no outfit will save you. That said, the best fashion is what gives you zero insecurity thoughts. That’s it. If you’re always adjusting your outfit or worried you look gay, ditch it. Wear what gives you Big Dick Energy.
I wear matching gym sets like shorts and shirts that come in the same color and style from sites like Gymshark. They make me feel like a fitness influencer and give me confidence. That confidence is what attracts women, not the pants you’re wearing.
Your Instagram matters. Girls and new friends will stalk it, so make your IG good if you have one. Don’t post grainy mirror selfies in your disgusting crusty bathroom. Take aesthetic, high-status photos. Think about Tinder-style pics: good lighting, solid composition, clean background, confident pose. If it wouldn’t work on a dating app, it won’t work on Instagram either. Pose for the female gaze, not your gym bros.
Looking good isn’t just a vanity project, it’s a cheat code for life. Master your body, your face, your grooming, your wardrobe, and your social media. The rewards are massive.
Do the hard work, especially when you don’t feel like it.
Hamza
here's how I made this transformation, and how you can go from a soft TikTok boy to a masculine, attractive Chad.
First is the halo effect, that psychological reality where attractive people get treated better. It’s unfair but it’s real. Attractive people get more attention, better jobs, better dates, even better treatment in court. So if you want to be respected, loved, and successful, you need to max out your looks. Kids call this looksmaxing, but it's really the art of maximizing your appearance to increase your social and romantic value.
When you’re a teenager the soft TikTok boy aesthetic works. That cute, clean-shaven, floppy-haired look goes viral. But once you're in your 20s, that look doesn’t get respect from other men, and it starts to fall off with women too. At that point, you want to shift into more of a Hollywood movie star look: rugged, masculine, and strong. Think Thor or Superman, not a TikTok e-boy.
If you want to attract the kind of modern, social media obsessed girls, go for the TikTok look. But if you want high-quality women with depth, you need to evolve. You need to build the physique and style that makes men want to be you and women want to be with you. One that commands respect and attention.
The most important part is muscle mass. You need to build an aesthetic physique, not a fat “dad bod,” but the lean, muscular body you’d see on the front of a movie poster. And don’t let anyone fool you about the dad bod. Most of the “dad bods” women post online are actually muscular guys in a bulk phase, sitting at 20% body fat. Real dad bods like the ones with wide hips and soft fat from low testosterone aren’t attractive to anyone.
The amount of muscle you need is going up every year. More guys are in the gym now, more girls are lifting, and the competition is stiffer than ever. If you looked great five years ago, that same physique is now average. There's physique inflation. Add in Instagram thirst traps, global dating apps, and the fact that fitness influencers can DM the girl in your town, and suddenly being lean with a decent chest isn’t enough. You’ve got to stand out.
But not all muscle is created equal. Most guys train for the male gaze like big traps, heavy lifts, boring strength routines. That doesn’t work if you want to look sexy to women. You need to train the seven aesthetic muscles:
Neck
Upper traps
Upper chest
Lateral delts
Lats
Biceps
Abs
These are the ones that give you that attractive upper body silhouette. Most cookie-cutter programs you find online completely ignore this and focus too much on triceps, lower chest, or lower back, none of which get you more attention from girls.
Next step: get lean. Specifically, aim for 10–12% body fat. Most guys are far off from this. If you were a pudgy teen like I was, not one of those skinny kids with a six-pack, you’ll have to track your calories like a full-time job. No “intuitive eating,” no winging it. Track every bite. Personally, I get best results when I don’t obsess over macros, just calories and protein. I eat a high-protein diet, about 10 eggs a day (which makes my dick hard as hell lol), and I track my total intake.
When it comes to looking lean all day, you actually want to be “too lean” in the gym. Why? Because without the pump, food bloating, and lighting, your real-life look will be just right. If you’re barely lean enough in the gym, you’ll look soft by the afternoon.
And your face changes when you get lean and change what you eat. When I started eating like a conqueror instead of like a peasant—steak, eggs, meat, and fruit instead of naan, rice, and chickpeas—my face got way more angular. Most brown guys have bloated, round faces not because of genetics, but because of the food. Eat like a Mongol warrior, not like a colonized peasant, and your face will become far more attractive.
With facial hair there’s a sweet spot called the dark stubble. A few days’ growth, around 3mm. That’s been scientifically proven as the most attractive beard length. Clean-shaven can work. Full beards can work if you’ve got the genetics. But most of you watching this? Your facial hair is scraggly, uneven, and it makes you look worse. Either go clean-shaven or maintain controlled stubble. And for the love of God, get a barber. Doing it yourself makes you look low status. A good barber will make your beard look fuller and sharper. Never cheat on your barber.
Stop with the TikTok perms and fluffy hair. As you enter your 20s you need a more masculine, timeless look. Go for something medium-length with a fade on the sides, styled neatly. This haircut has worked for decades and it always will. Don’t go bald unless you’re entering monk mode and intentionally lowering your attractiveness. But also don’t go full TikTok broccoli boy. Aim for the middle: strong, clean, mature.
Fashion is less important than your face and body. Clothes are just the final layer. If you’re ugly and untrained, no outfit will save you. That said, the best fashion is what gives you zero insecurity thoughts. That’s it. If you’re always adjusting your outfit or worried you look gay, ditch it. Wear what gives you Big Dick Energy.
I wear matching gym sets like shorts and shirts that come in the same color and style from sites like Gymshark. They make me feel like a fitness influencer and give me confidence. That confidence is what attracts women, not the pants you’re wearing.
Your Instagram matters. Girls and new friends will stalk it, so make your IG good if you have one. Don’t post grainy mirror selfies in your disgusting crusty bathroom. Take aesthetic, high-status photos. Think about Tinder-style pics: good lighting, solid composition, clean background, confident pose. If it wouldn’t work on a dating app, it won’t work on Instagram either. Pose for the female gaze, not your gym bros.
Looking good isn’t just a vanity project, it’s a cheat code for life. Master your body, your face, your grooming, your wardrobe, and your social media. The rewards are massive.
Do the hard work, especially when you don’t feel like it.
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