We need to globally boost ace meet ups so we can be friends irl and support each other. Ace anarchy, you know. :)
2 months ago | 37
This might be a strange question but why is sex promulgated so much? I come from a culture where ideas around masculinity (and femininity) place sex as less the primary goal and more an ancillary thing that happens of screen so the next generation can exist but is relatively mundane and the idea of pursuing it as a primary goal in life is seen as immature, shallow and materialistic. We don't remember Sitting Bull, Bernard Montgomery, Rosa Parks, Marie Curie, Yi Sun Shin, Siddhartha Buddha, Florence Nightingale, Mary Seacole, Mahatma Gandhi , Saladin, Alexander the Great, Richard the Lionheart, Susan B. Anthony, Haile Selassie, Olaudah Equiano or St. Joan of Arc for their sex lives (albeit there are those who argue Bernard Montgomery was homoromantic asexual but still) but for their part in world history. So it just feels a little odd to see the contrast between the reports of a world where sex is seen as the alpha and omega of existence and then when I explain to people why Aspec people find life so tough they respond that this is an "American problem" or more often (thankfully) that this is a problem of a shallow and materialistic world view which doesn't value anything but instant gratification.
2 months ago | 7
Yeah... it's hard... to paraphrase someone else's words who put it way better than I can... like, "I appreciate what everyone else has going on and I enjoy watching y'all in your relationships, but it's just not for me... I'm not interested in any of it" (Caduceus Clay, from Critical Role campaign 2)
2 months ago | 7
I have a hard time articulating it. I don't think I'm repulsed, exactly; it's like asparagus. I wouldn't ever choose it. I wouldn't enjoy it. It wouldn't kill me; all the same, I prefer to avoid it.
2 months ago | 28
I hope, one day, I would be strong enough to love myself just the way I am, lead myself through this harsh life made of the other wishes and expectations of what should be my life and my way to love. I hope one day I'll be able to respect myself enough to stop pretending who I'm not and respond anyone who's asking "Why?" by "Because it's me, not broken, not weird. Not because I didn't found the right one, but because my feeling about what is love in my relationship doesn't mean sexuality. It's my own way like you have yours." One day, maybe, I will love myself enough and respect myself enough to be myself and be my own protector of what I'm.
2 months ago | 1
Ace Dad Advice
"If you don’t have anyone around you that’s supporting and loving your sex-repulsed aceness, YOU have to be the one to love it. You have to be your own cheerleader."
Read it: acedadadvice.substack.com/p/im-sex-repulsed-and-i-…
2 months ago | [YT] | 317